thank you's

I wrote the thank yous for my side of the family and DH and I wrote the ones together for our friends. I ahvn't written his side yet because I feel it would be much more personal comming fromeither him or both of us. And he says I should write them all but some of the people Im not even sure exactly who they are. He has a huge family. And his family was laughing at me saying grooms never write thank you's. But I disagree with that! Did any of your husbands help write thank you's? Am I in the wrong for refusing to write those ones by myself? I also am frustrated cus we have been married a month now and still havn't gotten them out! I know they say you have a year, btu I personlly do not like that. I think they should be out within a month of the wedding- or a couple weeks after the honeymoon.