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Posted by kristin597
Someone tried to come into my house once while I was alone. My dog started barking and I think the person got spooked and ran off. But I grabbed a knife, hid in the basement and called the cops. It was scary. If I had actually been face to face with this person I probably would have passed out from fear![]()
Posted by shcole08
I was attacked and I screamed HELP HELP ME because I thought that was what I was supposed to do to scare the guy away. Well, this was in Manhattan and NOT ONE person came to my rescue even thought it was late at night you cannot tell me noone was around. I was attacked twice from behind and once at gunpoint. Both times it was because I was too trusting and not paying attention to my surroundings. I think that is the best way to keep yourself from getting in those situtations.
Posted by Espo22
The officer said that the problem is women feel bad to suspect a man of maybe doing something and dont want to insult the man. But attackers specifically look for these type of women bc they feel its easy for them to manipulate them and finally get to them. If you scream out NO from the beginning and show no fear most will go on looking for the next women to attack who will not do that. Also when walking down the street show no fear. They say if somebody is walking by you and you're alone and might be afraid, dont show it. I make sure to do this, and i will walk by the person like i am not afraid even if i am, they say dont look down, so i also make eye contact and dont move away just walk right by them. And whenever anybody does ask me if i need help with anything I firmly say NO and thats it, dont make any apologies for it. You can look on oprahs site to find out the name of the book, they give alot of great advice. So sorry i cant remember the name right now
Posted by Espo22
THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT FOR LADIES THAT ARE AFRAID READ THIS PART: on oprah she has had this cop who deals with this on her show two times, he has even written a book about what to do in these situations. Ever since i have seen the show i have taken his advice and remember to do this at all times. One story he talks about and makes sense is about a woman that was attacked and what her mistake was. The number one thing he says is to show no fear, do not make any apologies which is a problem women have. If a man is asking to help you or anything, the ONLY thing you say is NO and thats it, once you start making excuses then the attacker says thats my victim. The example he gave to explain this was that a woman was walking into her building apartment with groceries, the man offered to help her with her groceries into the building and at first she said no but she said oh its ok you really dont have, and was feeling bad that she was at first showing this man that she might be suspicious of him but she didnt want to show him this so she was very apologetic, but since she was timid and apologetic he insisted and she gave in. He walked with her to her door and then again said he'll just put the bags on her counter, and again when she said oh thank you but you really dont have to, he insisted. Once he got in he did attack her, raped her for hours, and then she got lucky that he went to the kitchen, she got up immediately and just ran out of the house, that night though another woman was raped and killed by this man so she was very lucky bc if she didnt run out of the house she would've been dead.
The officer said that the problem is women feel bad to suspect a man of maybe doing something and dont want to insult the man. But attackers specifically look for these type of women bc they feel its easy for them to manipulate them and finally get to them. If you scream out NO from the beginning and show no fear most will go on looking for the next women to attack who will not do that. Also when walking down the street show no fear. They say if somebody is walking by you and you're alone and might be afraid, dont show it. I make sure to do this, and i will walk by the person like i am not afraid even if i am, they say dont look down, so i also make eye contact and dont move away just walk right by them. And whenever anybody does ask me if i need help with anything I firmly say NO and thats it, dont make any apologies for it. You can look on oprahs site to find out the name of the book, they give alot of great advice. So sorry i cant remember the name right now
I keep my cell and my car keys next to the bed. If someone breaks in I can hit the panic button on my car. Hopefully that will scare him. Dh thinks I am crazy.
I carry knives. I also have knives in my car. And when DH isnt home with me, I sleep with a knife under my pillow. I guess I would stab someone if they tried to attack me. I used to carry mace and I actually used it once. I should get another one.
Posted by Christys0925
I keep my cell and my car keys next to the bed. If someone breaks in I can hit the panic button on my car. Hopefully that will scare him. Dh thinks I am crazy.
Posted by anamaree77You girls are spooking me out!! I'm alone in our office today in the middle of Newark...ok ok so we have Security but Still!!!
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Posted by shcole08
I was attacked and I screamed HELP HELP ME because I thought that was what I was supposed to do to scare the guy away. Well, this was in Manhattan and NOT ONE person came to my rescue even thought it was late at night you cannot tell me noone was around. I was attacked twice from behind and once at gunpoint. Both times it was because I was too trusting and not paying attention to my surroundings. I think that is the best way to keep yourself from getting in those situtations.
Posted by TM2008
Posted by Espo22
THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT FOR LADIES THAT ARE AFRAID READ THIS PART: on oprah she has had this cop who deals with this on her show two times, he has even written a book about what to do in these situations. Ever since i have seen the show i have taken his advice and remember to do this at all times. One story he talks about and makes sense is about a woman that was attacked and what her mistake was. The number one thing he says is to show no fear, do not make any apologies which is a problem women have. If a man is asking to help you or anything, the ONLY thing you say is NO and thats it, once you start making excuses then the attacker says thats my victim. The example he gave to explain this was that a woman was walking into her building apartment with groceries, the man offered to help her with her groceries into the building and at first she said no but she said oh its ok you really dont have, and was feeling bad that she was at first showing this man that she might be suspicious of him but she didnt want to show him this so she was very apologetic, but since she was timid and apologetic he insisted and she gave in. He walked with her to her door and then again said he'll just put the bags on her counter, and again when she said oh thank you but you really dont have to, he insisted. Once he got in he did attack her, raped her for hours, and then she got lucky that he went to the kitchen, she got up immediately and just ran out of the house, that night though another woman was raped and killed by this man so she was very lucky bc if she didnt run out of the house she would've been dead.
The officer said that the problem is women feel bad to suspect a man of maybe doing something and dont want to insult the man. But attackers specifically look for these type of women bc they feel its easy for them to manipulate them and finally get to them. If you scream out NO from the beginning and show no fear most will go on looking for the next women to attack who will not do that. Also when walking down the street show no fear. They say if somebody is walking by you and you're alone and might be afraid, dont show it. I make sure to do this, and i will walk by the person like i am not afraid even if i am, they say dont look down, so i also make eye contact and dont move away just walk right by them. And whenever anybody does ask me if i need help with anything I firmly say NO and thats it, dont make any apologies for it. You can look on oprahs site to find out the name of the book, they give alot of great advice. So sorry i cant remember the name right now
that story is in the book 'The Gift of Fear'!! every woman should really read that book - it talks about how to trust your instincts and what they tell you.... was the author of the book on the show or something?!
