What to do about the STIFFERS?

Original post by Dani00518

Aug 31, 2003 05:34 PM

Ok girls I need your help. WE had 4 stiffers at the wedding.....actually 7 in total when you count the guests they brought (3 stiffers brought dates).....Ok so here is the best part of all......5 of those stiffers were family members (on my husband's side of course). Now we already spoke to him mom and she wont say anything (which I can't understand why...its her friggin cheap a$$ family). So anyway, I would like to call them and say something but I'm not sure how to word it. I just feel like if they had balls enough to come and bring a date and not even have the decensy to give a card then I can have the same set of balls to call them on it. Oh and it even gets better.......on my wedding day my husband's aunt calls me to ask if her son who originally responded no can come (he's 28) so I sad fine I'll call the hall and add him on....so 1 hour before I am ready to leave for the church I am on the phone adding this jerk on.....and could you believe he was a stiffer too. Now not only did I have to go nuts to add him on at the last minute....I had to pay for that loser at the end of the night too....his sister and her date were also stiffers as where his other aunt and date. The other two stiffers gave us a card saying our gift is on the way/.....well hello I'm still waiting.... So anyway, back to my original question...what should I say when I call the stiffers? Sorry this is long...I have been holding this in for three weeks and needed to vent. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE????????

smooch Posted: Sep 02, 2003 03:30 PM

Re: What to do about the STIFFERS?

i'm with michelle. while we had some people not give us gifts or cards, not sending them a thank you is stooping too low.

i sent thank yous because i wanted to thank them for being a part of my day. i didn't invite them so i could get their gift, and the dinner i paid for was not the thank you for their presence/presents.

bottom line: we invited who we wanted to be there, card or no card, gift or no gift. if they didn't bring card/gift, it speaks volumes about them, whether they are insensitive clods or just not in tune with what is expected at weddings, or in some serious financial state that they can't afford to give a gift, and might feel sheepish giving a card without a gift.

at any rate, telling them off won't solve anything, and it may cause more problems. just leave it be, and thank them for being a part of the best day of your life.

Scoop Posted: Sep 02, 2003 03:31 PM

Re: What to do about the STIFFERS?

I got stiffed from a few people as well. Some sent gifts afterwards but for those who did not, I didn't bother saying anything to them. People can be so rude sometimes.

MayDay16 Posted: Sep 02, 2003 09:02 PM

Re: What to do about the STIFFERS?

I didn't confront my BOUNCERS. Honestly if I see them and it comes up I will mentioned it. Other than that I can't be bothered tracking and hunting down inconsiderate people.