What was the hardest part of planning your wedding

Or the thing that casued the most difficulty.

We were fine until it came time for the seating. We strongly disagreed about where to place certain people and certain tables.

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The hardest part for me was doing things w/o my Mom being here.
But I knew she was with me in spirit, especially on my day

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The most difficult I think was choosing our hall. We went EVERYWHERE which was a big mistake, and were NOT pleased with anything. Our last spot was the winner. I think it took us 2 months to find a hall

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The hardest part was cutting our guest list.

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Getting the responses in!

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Planning our ceremony. Definitely!

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All my planning went smoothly but we purchased a house at the same time and between the two, I drove myself nuts.

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dealing with the responses, it was just annoying to me.

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NOthing was really overly challenging or caused problems, but the long distance planning was hassle!

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Getting Roger to call his people that did not respond.

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The hardest thing for me was the logistics and timing of the entire day. Between deciding when to start getting ready, then to time the ceremony, then that we'd have enough time for pictures at sunset, factor in the drive out to the hall, etc was enough to tear my hair out!

Everything else wasn't so bad

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The guest list and the in-laws.

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The only part that I would mind doing again was putting together the vellum for the candle placecards

But seriously, the only 'hard' part was paying for it. Everything else was pretty fun for me. Even the stuff that was not fun, was not really hard.

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I think I was most streesed before we found a place / set a date. After that, everything was easy and fun.

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I think for us the hardest parts were:

1) The hoops the Diocese put us through and waiting till the last minute to find out where the ceremony would be.

2) Me - second guessing every choice I made! (Except the groom )

3) The flack from the in-laws regarding our 'no kids under 13' rule.

4) Getting my MOH fitted for her dress.

But I can look back now and laugh at most of it. Just like I said I would...

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Mostly everything went very smoothly and I happy with all that choices that I made. The hardest part I think for me was getting all the family together for family pictures and trying to make them understand that on a Friday in the summer driving out east you have to allow for traffic time. As silly as it seems that what caused the most arguments and I finally just gave up and most of my immediate family showed up late to my ceremony and were not in any pictures. Oh well their loss lol.

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def following up with people who didn't respond, and adjusting (the numbers and the seating) for people who cancelled at the last minute

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the hardest part for me was the paper stuff (programs, placecards, etc)...I left it all to the end...and it consumed most of my time...then I had to get ready for my sisters bridal shower 3 weeks after our wedding...so I was making invites and doing things for that...before our wedding...

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We had a lot of difficulties:

* 2 Pre-Wedding Parties-It was for my mother's OOT guests on Thursday and Friday since my mother was completely dependent on my bro for reserving, etc. They were disorganized, very lazy, and selfish people who loves doing things at the very last minute and are lame duck people who say they will do it when the NEVER take any physical action. 'Action speaks louder than words' as their mouths moves but the hands and feet do nothing.

* Rehearsal Dinner-It was a political battle with the two mothers as MIL wanted it as initimate as possible with our wedding party members and immediate family who were directly involved on the wedding day. However, my mother insisted in inviting 30+ of her OOT relatives to the RD which was insane. We ended up having both rehearsal and RD on a Wednesday before our Saturday wedding. By having both wedding rehearsal and RD on a Wednesday evening by FMIL it triggered a lot of anger for my parents and my mother's OOT guests as they expected to be invited, all 30+ of them. Hell nightmare!

* Assembling our wedding party-3 rejections for a single BM offer, 1 GM disappearance, 1 GM stepping down for personal problems, and 2 title changes from flower girl and ring bearer to Junior BM and Junior GM, 1 promotion from GM to BM and later a replacement for the GM who became the BM.

* Transportation-My mother's high maintenance OTT relatives demanded, threaten and requested round-trip transportation from ceremony to reception AND reception to hotel as they are too lazy, selfish to hail a cab or take public transportation using every excuse in the world: too old age, foreigners, Manhattan is too far from Queens.

* Guest list-What a nightmare! One mother wanted to keep a certain amount of guests larger on the bride's side than the groom's side as she was the host and a policital and power battle. Later 27 days before our wedding, we were short on our guest list minumim guranttee count as we had to invite people on our B list.

* Seating Arrangements-We left the vast work for both mothers and our friends and wedding party for us to decide. Again, another political and power battle struggling for competition who gains the most power from our wedding. Nightmare!

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chmpgnrose,

WOW! I am worn out just reading this. I give you a lot of credit for putting up with all of that. I hope married life goes a little smoother for you.