what would you do if ...

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Posted by kris_gets_hitched

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Posted by little j

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Posted by jilliibabii

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Posted by AngnShaun

but as a married couple the idea of having an abortion seems borderline ridiculous to me...

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I'm sorry, but ITA. I didn't want to say it but my first reaction would be hurt that DH would consider aborting our baby.

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didnt even think along this line....but yeah

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I guess since DH and I straight-up do not want kids, I feel differently. IMO, it'd be worse to bring a kid into this world that we don't want...having a child is not something either of us want. Every once in awhile he'll feel like 'should we?' for a few minutes, and then he reverts back to not wanting one. And I never have the curiosity.

He and I aren't wired to have kids.

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Of course... i was speaking for me and Shaun not married couples in general

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Posted by AngnShaun

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Posted by kris_gets_hitched

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Posted by little j

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Posted by jilliibabii

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Posted by AngnShaun

but as a married couple the idea of having an abortion seems borderline ridiculous to me...

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I'm sorry, but ITA. I didn't want to say it but my first reaction would be hurt that DH would consider aborting our baby.

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didnt even think along this line....but yeah

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I guess since DH and I straight-up do not want kids, I feel differently. IMO, it'd be worse to bring a kid into this world that we don't want...having a child is not something either of us want. Every once in awhile he'll feel like 'should we?' for a few minutes, and then he reverts back to not wanting one. And I never have the curiosity.

He and I aren't wired to have kids.

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Of course... i was speaking for me and Shaun not married couples in general

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I read it wonky...more like 'a married couple having an abortion is ridiculous' My cranky self stands corrected!

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Posted by MerSaysEh

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Posted by miamimerger

i'd be really confused .

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dude, WHEN is that baby coming??? i'm not gonna lie i lurk on the pregnancy board every day to see if there's a post about you going into labor!!!

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i do the same thing!!! everyday i look on there looking for some good news!!!

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Posted by kris_gets_hitched


I read it wonky...more like 'a married couple having an abortion is ridiculous' My cranky self stands corrected!

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NAH, you know me... to each his own...


but you betta check yoself lol

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Posted by miamimerger

i'd be really confused .

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this.

Laura, you'd have a great run for a TLC show.

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Posted by AngnShaun

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Posted by kris_gets_hitched


I read it wonky...more like 'a married couple having an abortion is ridiculous' My cranky self stands corrected!

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NAH, you know me... to each his own...


but you betta check yoself lol

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I know...don't need you blue waffling me!

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Posted by kris_gets_hitched

I know...don't need you blue waffling me!

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I'm with Kris on this one.

I'm not ready for kids and I don't know if I ever will be.

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Posted by kris_gets_hitched

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Posted by little j

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Posted by jilliibabii

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Posted by AngnShaun

but as a married couple the idea of having an abortion seems borderline ridiculous to me...

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I'm sorry, but ITA. I didn't want to say it but my first reaction would be hurt that DH would consider aborting our baby.

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didnt even think along this line....but yeah

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I guess since DH and I straight-up do not want kids, I feel differently. IMO, it'd be worse to bring a kid into this world that we don't want...having a child is not something either of us want. Every once in awhile he'll feel like 'should we?' for a few minutes, and then he reverts back to not wanting one. And I never have the curiosity.

He and I aren't wired to have kids.

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Toooootally different!! You've made the concious decision to not have kids- it's not like you were planning on it but just don't feel 'ready' yet. Is anyone ever really ready for that? I don't think I ever will be!

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Posted by Lsorrent

DH are not even close to TTC, but if I found out I was preggo today, we'd make it work.

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this

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Posted by Lsorrent

DH are not even close to TTC, but if I found out I was preggo today, we'd make it work.

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Same

we don't have a set TTC plan in place. we speak about it and we're both allllllllllllllmost ready. we're both still in graduate school while working full time. we'd LOVE to be in a house. but honestly, if it happened now i would thank god and start planning!

I'd be really happy (and totally freaked out LOL) and so would DH eventho financially we are completely not there yet

I am with Jill, I would be really hurt if DH would react any way other than excited or into it (that is if we arent planning kids for a long while)

as I see it no one can really plan life, things happen and u have to be able to roll with all that comes ur way as an individual and as a couple

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Posted by jilliibabii

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Posted by AngnShaun

but as a married couple the idea of having an abortion seems borderline ridiculous to me...

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I'm sorry, but ITA. I didn't want to say it but my first reaction would be hurt that DH would consider aborting our baby.

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I'm inclined to agree, but I just want to bring up a point, that when I took a woman's studies class, I read an article about abortion and the majority of women getting abortions in one particular clinic were actually married women who already had children and just couldn't afford another one. That said, as a newlywed, I don't think it would make sense for me to have an abortion, since we'd want to have a baby eventually. I think oftentimes a baby is a surprise and choosing an abortion is a serious decision. There are repurcussions that aren't mentioned that they don't prepare everyone for....a lot of women go through depression 2wks after when the hormone levels drop down (also common 2wks after giving birth.) and some people take a long time to get over it. One of my roomates had one and it still haunts her, even years later. And honesetly, even if he did not want to keep it, I'd leave him before I'd have an abortion.

I'm inclined to agree, but I just want to bring up a point, that when I took a woman's studies class, I read an article about abortion and the majority of women getting abortions in one particular clinic were actually married women who already had children and just couldn't afford another one. That said, as a newlywed, I don't think it would make sense for me to have an abortion, since we'd want to have a baby eventually. I think oftentimes a baby is a surprise and choosing an abortion is a serious decision. There are repurcussions that aren't mentioned that they don't prepare everyone for....a lot of women go through depression 2wks after when the hormone levels drop down (also common 2wks after giving birth.) and some people take a long time to get over it. One of my roomates had one and it still haunts her, even years later. And honesetly, even if he did not want to keep it, I'd leave him before I'd have an abortion.

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Ita. I'd be so hurt and angry if DH told me to get an abortion.

We are TTC, so we would be over the moon!!!!

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Posted by Lsorrent

DH are not even close to TTC, but if I found out I was preggo today, we'd make it work.

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ITA. My primary concern would be our living situation b/c there is 0 room for a baby in our apt. Aside from that, right now we both have pretty stable jobs and decent incomes. Buying a house would either need to be done asap or put on the backburner for awhile.

Emotionally I'm not ready but I feel like that could change very easily. The other day DH thought I might be cuz my boobs got huge, I was very pissy, ran out at 8pm at night to get pasta from trader joes that I was craving, and decided to make brownies just to smell them. (Good thing cuz I cooked them too long and they were hard as a rock.) lol It should be coming tomorrow though and i'm on the pill so realistically I shouldn't be.

Although whatever's meant to be will be at this point.