I HATE HATE HATE this question... this rant is totally going to make me sound nuts. And I will throw in a disclaimer before anyone takes this the wrong way... I am not saying there is anything wrong with wanting children, in fact it is perfectly normal.... I just don't want any right now and wish people would stop asking about it.
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Ummm ok DH's friend from college who I have met maybe 5 times uhh I don't know when we're having kids so even if you ask me AGAIN the next time we see you I'm still not going to know and if I did know you would not be the first person we told... She likes to follow up my 'Oh, not just yet' with things like 'But you have so much room in your house, you could definitely have children here.' Yeah, we know, we bought the house and I clean it every week, we are fully aware of how big our house is, that doesn't mean we're ready to fill it will children. 'But you're 30 right?' Yes I am 30, I am not 70 and I am not dead, I think we'll be ok. I feel like asking her when she's going to STOP having children.
And 3 times in the past month things I have posted on my FB page people have some how turned it into about us having babies....
New car post = 'New car for the new baby?' WHAT??? Seriously?
Went to see the movie Due Date = more than one person thought we were making an announcement about babies.
Had my friend and her toddler over = 'are you trying to get some practice in?' I had to delete this one because my grandma seriously thought I was having a baby after she read it through the entire thing.
End vent. Thank you for listening to my crazy.
MLAngelo
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It stops after a year of being married. Only my parents still bring it up and in a non-annoying way. I guess if I haven't seen someone since the wedding they will still ask, but otherwise I think even at 6 months people stopped asking this question.
I ask it all the time though... since I am ready and all my fellow pregnant newlyweds are not helping. I know were not there financially, I want to lose the weight from my illness last fall, and there is Paris in spring. But I want one.
christine2010
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I hate that question too. DH & I really do not want to go into all the reasons why with every person who asks us. So, my new answer is: We like to sleep late on the weekends still.
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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Posted by christine2010
I hate that question too. DH & I really do not want to go into all the reasons why with every person who asks us. So, my new answer is: We like to sleep late on the weekends still.
omg... totally agree... i think about all the ones with small children who have to wake up at 6am on the weekends and i think to myself... oh hell no... omg, and seriously, how about the littles ones who dont know that the clocks went back an hour... 5am sunday wakeup calls... holy cow i just cant... not sure if I'll ever be ready to take that on
I think the worst part of it all is the people who try to make you feel bad for not wanting children... like that is the sole purpose of our existence..
PoppedInASnap
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make them feel stupid... say 'We're having some personal issues right now' they will NEVER ask again
little do they know the personal issues = their big mouths
flibbertigibbet
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... you're welcome / I'm sorry. Whichever you want to take.
AugustBridein09
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After a year *most* people have stopped but some of the old women I know aka my boss, the lady in our office will STILL ask and my response has really gotten snotty b/c I am soooo sick of answering it
My old answer:
'John & I don't want children---we want to wait like 10 years and really enjoy ourselves---we aren't ready for the responsibility'
My new answer:
'John & I hate kids---I'm a selfish b*tch---and unless you are going to take care of it while John & I are on vacation, sleeping in till noon, and out drinking till 5am - FAWK OFF!'
fdnybride163
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people have no couth at all!!
before we were engaged EVERY wedding we went to i got ' maybe your next!!!'
I felt like turning around the next time we were at a funeral and say to that old person in the room ' maybe your next!!!'
why do people care when we have kids???? Its expensive, its time consuming and it is not something that you just randomly decide to do one day. It takes a lot of planning and decisions and im not about to drop trow and bang out a kid because you saw a cute outfit in the store on sale and want someone to buy it for. get a dog.
edit: one fo the wives from the fire house (who got pregnant a year after dating, got married then had another one, is now 25, unemployeed and uneducated, and sits at home all day with two kids under the age of 3) asked me when we were having babies. I said I wanted to get married first, and she turnes around and says' what are you judging me because i didnt get married first?' no jacknut I just like to plan my life out a little more than you!!!~ dont ask a question if you dont like the answer
scatteredx12
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People don't really ask us anymore either.. They asked us NONSTOP at the beginning, and my response was 'Well, I'm 21 and still in school!' but that didn't seem to matter. And I swear to some people it seemed like they thought we were getting married because I was pregnant already... now that we've been married for just about 10 months and there's no baby, I think they've realized that we have no intentions of starting a family anytime soon lol. The sad part is that my FIL, who I love so much because he's just totally awesome, is the worst! He wants a grandchild so bad! It breaks my heart every time I have to tell him no lol.
GR2010
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Posted by twoifbysea
This seems blunt, but I find that the only people who ask have children already, who are probably a little jealous that they don't have the flexibility to do things they used to or, especially when they hear that DH and I go on an impromptu weekend trip, go into the city, go on vacation, etc.
This is true... the only people who ask are the ones who have kids already (and my mother)... I just couldn't imagine ever asking people such a personal question - what if I COULDN'T have kids? I mean they would feel like a jackass for even saying something.
And Becki... You're awesome... I was hysterucal when I saw that on my FB page. I'm waiting for DH to see it.
luckycouple05
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OH EM GEE! I am asked EVERYDAY BY SOMEONE
Just b/c I am married now doesnt mean I am ready for a baby. AND I didnt get married to have a baby!!!!!!!!! At least not yet! I am only 25, can they at least wait until I fully learn how to take care of myself before I even begin to think of taking care of my kids? Sheesh! Ppl are so annoying !
ETA: its like the people who have kids, are miserable or something and want u to be on the same boat! I SWEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
