Who is right? Me or him????

At our wedding, our best man (dh's cousin) and one of our bridesmaids (they are a couple) had sex in the bathroom upstairs.

I thought it was disgusting, and it really ticked me off.

Dh agreed with me, especially since we needed them for something and couldn't find them.

After they were done, they came downstairs and everyone knew (but me- I did not find out till later).

So anyway, I went and told another one of dh's family memebers what happened (she didn't know) and that I was mad.

Dh says I had no right to tell her- it was not my place and she is going to tell everyone. I said it was not their place to have sex at MY wedding and if they were going to be ashamed, they shouldn't have done it.

This turned into a war. I think I wanted it to get back to them and embarrass them. Am I wrong??

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I am sorry, I have to agree with DH.

I know you were ticked off, but you should not have said anything. If anything Dh should have been the one to say something.

That is truly bad form on their parts though.

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Yup sweetie, I would love to agree with you, you should not have told anyone else. You should have spoken to them directly. SOrry it happened at your wedding, how horny were they, disgusting and disrespectful

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It is nobody else's business...I would have confronted the couple if I had an issue with it rather then tell other people about it. I agree with you being mad though

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I know, I know, you are right.

I am spiteful- but I am still glad I told!! (I am a bad girl)

I think maybe they should have kept their pants on.

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As much as I think you should not have told your DH's family member, I probably would have done that too LOL I know how you feel. It was rude and selfish of them to do that esp when you guys were looking for them to do something at your wedding.

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Posted by MrsTC

As much as I think you should not have told your DH's family member, I probably would have done that too LOL I know how you feel. It was rude and selfish of them to do that esp when you guys were looking for them to do something at your wedding.

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Ditto!!!

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Posted by 2nd-time-around

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Posted by MrsTC

As much as I think you should not have told your DH's family member, I probably would have done that too LOL I know how you feel. It was rude and selfish of them to do that esp when you guys were looking for them to do something at your wedding.

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Ditto!!!

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same here

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Personally, I dont know what the big deal is?

'They got their groove on, I think its cute

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Wacky, you would say that

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I think you have a right to tell a story of what happened at your wedding...that said, if these people are your close friends, I do think its the loyal thing to do to keep it a secret.

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Maybe I'm wrong, but if everyone else knew and this one person didn't know...if you didn't tell her someone else would have.

I guess I am the minority, I don't see what the big deal is that you said something to the relative.

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Although I may not have said anything, who cares.. it's been said.

I HATE arguments about things I've already done... 'oh you shouldn't have.. blah blah' my opinion is.. OK so maybe I shouldnt have.. but oh well, its too late now.. moving on now.

Damn, getting your groove on at a wedding you're supposed to be there helping out with? Couldnt you wait? Sheesh.

It is kinda funny though. Sorry I know it sucked and i'd be mad if it were my wedding, but I'd laugh later.

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It totally would not bother me. They are a couple, they are adults. It is kind of tacky, but doing stuff like that is what its about when you are young.

However, if they did it on the dance floor, the altar, or got it on with my dear aunt carolyn, I would be upset.

If it happened, I probably would have told someone because I like to gossip. But it is really not right to.

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Posted by 2003fallwedding

Maybe I'm wrong, but if everyone else knew and this one person didn't know...if you didn't tell her someone else would have.

I guess I am the minority, I don't see what the big deal is that you said something to the relative.

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I agree! And I do think it is tacky. I may be wrong for telliing (I can admit it) But I am still glad I did!!

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if these people are so rude as to behave like this at your wedding, their behaviour shouldn't be hidden

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Posted by dubliner

if these people are so rude as to behave like this at your wedding, their behaviour shouldn't be hidden

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i agree!!!! if most people already knew, i don't see what the big deal is. the gossip-er in me, wouldn't have been able to keep that a secret either!!

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There is a time and place for everything, a public bathroom is neither.

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Posted by am470

It totally would not bother me. They are a couple, they are adults. It is kind of tacky, but doing stuff like that is what its about when you are young.

However, if they did it on the dance floor, the altar, or got it on with my dear aunt carolyn, I would be upset.

If it happened, I probably would have told someone because I like to gossip. But it is really not right to.

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