Why Do You Want Kids?

In the past, I have always been the person that said they would never have kids; I would have 15 dogs before having a child.

But now I have been thinking about it more, especially with the pregnancies of friends of mine. I always knew the reasons why I didn't want to have kids, but now I can't seem to put into words why I might.

So I know it could be a personal question and difficult to answer, but any guidance is appreciated.

Unfortunately cant answer that right now.

I am hoping it will come to me or just hit me out of the blu

I think I am just too selfish for the moment and I think about the amount of responsibilities involved. - it Scares the piss out of me.

I say if you feel it right now GO WITH YOUR GUT That is wonderful news

Hmmm what an interesting question... I'd have to say it seems like a 'natural' extension of DH & I's relationship now? That's not to say that choosing 'no kids' isn't natural - it definitely is for many couples, and that's AOK.
I feel like I love the guy so much and I'm filled with curiousity about what his little offspring will be like; coupled with the fact that we're finally kind of 'settled in' with each other, and want to move on to the next phase. I feel like I have so much love in my heart and a baby is just the right place to direct it right now (finally).
G*d that sounds really queer, cut me some slack, i'm PG with

Also, I hear they are very handy for
--Changing the tv channel when you lose the remote
--bringing daddy a beer after a tough day at work
--and providing excellent care to their mamas when they become doting old fools.

I have wanted to be a mommy since I was 15 years old. I was going to be a kindergarden teacher, but I didn't have the grades.

I have a great skill with children, they LOVE me. It sounds silly - but it's true. My close friends have called me the baby whisperer...their children are 'difficult' or 'don't like everyone', but they always warm to me right away...

I am so crazy in love with Dave that I cannot wait to have a child with him. We are trying now and are both so excited to see a small version of the two of us.

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Posted by gemmifer

Unfortunately cant answer that right now.

I am hoping it will come to me or just hit me out of the blu

I think I am just too selfish for the moment and I think about the amount of responsibilities involved. - it Scares the piss out of me.

I say if you feel it right now GO WITH YOUR GUT That is wonderful news

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wow, i feel the same way. I think I am way too selfish to have kids and we are so used to our routines... and even though I don't really want an only child because i love have 3 sisters, I really don't think I can handle more than one.

We're waiting at least two years, until I'm done with B-school, before we even think about a kid. I love all my nieces and nephews, but I'm definitely not ready to have my own and also hope one day it'll just hit me (and DH, he's petrified!).

Hard to explain....

but a few thoughts:

1. i think it is an extension of the love DH and I have together
2. we loo forward to passing on our religion and culture to our children so that they grow up with those values and experiences
3. Chidlren bring so much joy and love to life--- i look forward to experiencing that with my own children one day
4. it's just natural---don't know how else to say it, but this is how life continues...

Kind of like Jess said above, I love kids so much and I am so in love w/ DH that i could never imagine not trying to have a child with him. Bringing a child/children into the world would be such a huge blessing from the Lord!!!!!! Family is the most important thing to me, aside from the big guy upstairs!

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Posted by donegal419

Hard to explain....

but a few thoughts:

1. i think it is an extension of the love DH and I have together
2. we loo forward to passing on our religion and culture to our children so that they grow up with those values and experiences
3. Chidlren bring so much joy and love to life--- i look forward to experiencing that with my own children one day
4. it's just natural---don't know how else to say it, but this is how life continues...

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hey, thanks. lol you kind of summed up my feelings on having children perfectly! i couldnt find the right words!

To see what they look like .. I'll tell ya when that feeling turns on for me. But everyone elses responses are awesome

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Posted by davenjess

I have wanted to be a mommy since I was 15 years old. I was going to be a kindergarden teacher, but I didn't have the grades.

I have a great skill with children, they LOVE me. It sounds silly - but it's true. My close friends have called me the baby whisperer...their children are 'difficult' or 'don't like everyone', but they always warm to me right away...

I am so crazy in love with Dave that I cannot wait to have a child with him. We are trying now and are both so excited to see a small version of the two of us.

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I can vow for how much kids love them !!!!!!!!

and I quote ' we love the skirts'

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Posted by gemmifer

Unfortunately cant answer that right now.

I am hoping it will come to me or just hit me out of the blu

I think I am just too selfish for the moment and I think about the amount of responsibilities involved. - it Scares the piss out of me.

I say if you feel it right now GO WITH YOUR GUT That is wonderful news

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This is how I feel exactly. So not ready & don't know if I'll ever be!

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Posted by leafgirl

To see what they look like .. I'll tell ya when that feeling turns on for me. But everyone elses responses are awesome

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SAME HERE!! lol..well thats part of it

I am just so darn curious to see how our children are going to look...

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Posted by Colette

Hmmm what an interesting question... I'd have to say it seems like a 'natural' extension of DH & I's relationship now? That's not to say that choosing 'no kids' isn't natural - it definitely is for many couples, and that's AOK.
I feel like I love the guy so much and I'm filled with curiousity about what his little offspring will be like; coupled with the fact that we're finally kind of 'settled in' with each other, and want to move on to the next phase. I feel like I have so much love in my heart and a baby is just the right place to direct it right now (finally).
G*d that sounds really queer, cut me some slack, i'm PG with

Also, I hear they are very handy for
--Changing the tv channel when you lose the remote
--bringing daddy a beer after a tough day at work
--and providing excellent care to their mamas when they become doting old fools.

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I think this was very well put and adorable I must say. You took the words right out of my mouth ..

Their love is so unconditional !!