Ok long rant here...DH is down visiting his sister & Mom..and tells me they had a 'family talk' about Mom moving from Indiana to VA to live with sister. (Mom is about 65 healthy & independent..just wants to be by the grandkids) So Mom will sell her house & sister will be adding an apartment onto her McMansion. It will cost about $300k to add on to her McMansion and DH offered to give her $100k toward the add-on (eventually, cause we sure as hell don't have that now or anytime soon).
Mom is not poor...neither is sister...we ARE. Why are WE giving $$$ is what i asked DH...he says to help take care of Mom. Mom will be selling her house...why isn't that $ going toward construction since that will be her new home? DH is mad at me saying it's to help take care of his Mom...I told him I'd like to be able to BUY our own house before we offer $ to help someone else. (we live in a house i own with my brothers...DH doesn't want to invest any $ into this house because he doesn't own it..same reason I don't want to pay to add on to his sisters monster house!) He argues that he'd do the same for my folks..which i know he would...i told him that the difference is...my Mom would be happy with a room of her own & wouldn't need her own $300k apartment added on! Uggghh..i know i am sounding so selfish & mean right now...but his family just as a higher standard of living compared to mine & i don't feel like paying for it! Vent over....thanks for listening to the rant.
werock0709
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Thats NUTS!!!!
Daisy Bride
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Does he realize how much $ that is. To help is giving 1 or $2,000 but $100,000, that's crazy. Maybe you can comprimise somehow or tell him after you buy a house you will see how much you will be able to help her (which will probably be not at all, with the price of houses)
rfilipofornow
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while i can see both sides of this story, the fact that he didn't consult you first is what irks me! my DH does stuff like that all the time, but i'd really like to think that when it came to a large sum of money, he'd come to me and discuss it first. regardless of whether or not your SIL/MIL need the money, he really should've asked you about it first, as you are his WIFE now, so i think you are completely justified in being upset!! i know i would be. good luck talking things out!
Mooshyboo
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Sorry you are going through this ~ I would be a bit upset!
