Would you find it odd If your MIL wanted to go out for the day with your DH, but didn't request that you come, too?
I know that mothers and daughters spend time alone, but somehow I find it strange that MIL would want to spend alone time with DH and not with me, too.
I'm not a posessive person, and its not so much about being posessive as it is about feeling left out.
My own family makes a huge effort to do everything with the both of us now and treat us as one unit since we are family now, so I guess I was taken aback when MIL requested to go out on a Sunday with DH, and not me.
Am I being crazy? Has your MIL ever done this before?
soon2bmrsdunn
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My MIL hasn't done this but I do not necessarily find it weird either.
imas98
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rkl1130
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I'm be honest...I find it a little weird.
I do so, because MIL has this weird attachment to DH--like she REFUSES to let him go. She tries to have him come over everyday and refuses to budge on Sunday dinners, which is really the only day DH and I can cook and sit and relax and enjoy a leisurely meal together. We have only spent 1 Sunday together since we got married because she has him over there early doing chores.
BunnyBride
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My MIL lives upstate so we don't see her very often. When she does come down here or we go up there, I'll often opt out of seeing a movie or the like so they get some time alone together. She has never asked though.
I wouldn't worry about it. She just wants to spend sometime alone with him. As long as it's not EVERY time they go out, I wouldn't worry
portjeffbride
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I don't think it's wierd.... I WOULD if she specifically asked that you don't come. The way it works with our families is I talk to mine, he talks to his, and if we say we're coming over, there's at least a 50% chance it will be both of us, not one. They don't specifically invite both of us, nor do they exclude anyone....
luvabul
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same here...and its SO annoying
Brian and Marie
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Def wierd!!
Aug07OFCbride
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I don't think id find it weird if they had their own time every once in a while....if it was like, they never asked for me to come thats when id think it was weird. but i think its nice sometimes for parent and child to spend quality time alone. i go out with my mom alone plenty of times and dh doesnt find it weird (im sure it gives him his own time to enjoy now and then too)...i figure i would give him the same time and space to enjoy with his mom as well...cant just figure bc we're women its acceptable to have mom/daughter time but that its weird if a man does that.
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nah--not too weird to me. i know moms/daughters and sons/dads have their own relationships---but a lot of times moms/son do have their own bond. (i know my DH can be a little bit of a mama's boy as well as my brother--he's the worst) so i wouldn't be too surprised if my DH wanted to do that.
don't feel bad--she probably just wants some time with her son and is taking to adjusting to being the second woman in his life.
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My mom likes to spend time alone with my brother when they can, which isn't that often. They go to the movies sometimes, just the two of them, not my SiL or the kids. I think it's sweet, it's not odd. Why shouldn't a mother spend time with her adult son?
This doesn't apply to me as my MiL passed away before the wedding. I wish it did, though. I wouldn't mind if they spent time together.
Don't feel left out--feel lucky that your husband has such a great relationship with his mother. It's not a reflection on you at all. So if they go out, go do something YOU want.
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I actually encourage DH to spend some 'alone' time with his Mom when she comes to visit us...they will go gambling at the casinos in CT...they always invite me but i think it's a nice thing for them to do...plus it gives me some time to myself since when she visits it's for like a week or two straight
PaddysGirl15
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I don't find it wierd. I think everyone needs time alone.
PegaLega
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I dont find it weird at all. DH and his mom have done this and I never really thought about it
LitBallerinaGirl
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DH is really close with his mom. They get together all the time without me and I don't find it weird at all. I think it's great that they have a good relationship.
hayleyandsteve
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I wouldn't find it weird at all.... I'd actually be thrilled that he was spending some quality time with her!
ligirlz
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I don't find it weird at all. My DH spends some time with his mom when he gets the chance and since we are in FL it is hard but when we visit or she visits they usually have one day where they do things and I dont mind.
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Yes, you asked for an honest answer, not that its right or wrong, I just personally think its strange.
