Is it wrong of me to feel a little sad about how much DH and I recieved in wedding gifts? Im not bitter or angry, just kind of dissappointed. I'm not complaining but I feel like alot of our guests really just came for food and dancing. I would never ever go to a wedding and give what some guests gave us. We could care less that we didnt make it all back but we got less than a quarter back. We didnt care at first but now we're really thinking about how crazy it is.
We had 130 rsvp yes and only 120 came. About 10 people gave absolutely nothing and about 5 or 6 couples gave only $50 for 2 people. I was telling my coworker exactly what we got back and she couldnt believe it, she was literally in shock. We were hoping for at least 10k so we can pay off old debts and put the rest in the savings. We got to do neither of that because of what we got. What gets me upset is that people I know have $$ didnt give anything. For example an extremely close family member of DH (wont say his exact role in the family for lurker reasons) and his gf were in the bridal party. Sure they spent a bit on being in the party but they gave nothing in the wedding. I know for a fact they had $$ that week because we went away with them to FL 3 days after the wedding and they spent ALOT. They never even offered to buy us dinner while we were out there and they made sure we chipped in on gas which was about $300 out of our pocket.
This vent is probably dumb to some but DH and I feel like some of our guests especially the ones that gave nothing could care less about the hard work we went through to throw an amazing wedding for them to enjoy.
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Re: Wrong of me?
Posted by jennandrolo
I think my post came off a little wrong. I 100% was not expecting to get back all the $$ or could have cared less. That day DH and I were opening envelopes and counting the $$, I just shrugged it off because we just had an amazing day that everyone enjoyed and we both know it wasnt about the $.
I think I let it get to me when my coworker asked if we made off well and I told her how we made off...that led to a big talk and she made it seem like I got ripped off. Then it got me thinking but I think Im most upset about FH's brother. Everyone else that gave very little or nothing at all, I can understand why, its upsetting but Im not going to dwell on it or regret throwing the type of wedding I did.
I hate that I may have kind of come off as one of those selfish brides that only care about the $ and thats not the case.
I don't think you sound selfish at all! If someone who you care about, and you think they care about you too, completely forgets to even give u a card on your wedding day, it hurts. Honestly the same thing happened to me too, my MOH and BM didnt even give us a card, that hurt me soo much! I wasn't expecting to get ANYTHING from them, but I wanted the card. Even one of DH's best friends, gave us $30 and he brought a date, and didn't even give us a card. I just don't think either people realize what there doing isn't normal, or i don't know, they don't think period.
In the end, whats done is done, and you were a gorgeous bride and you married the love of your life!
