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if you can swing it then i say go for it....

if money is that tight then maybe not

I have to be honest - I'd be kind of bummed out if DH wanted to go to Vegas without me Just for clarification, when you say he 'blazed', he was upset, right? (sorry, I'm not cool at all LOL - I feel like a dork asking)

If DH is okay with it and you can swing the money, I say go for it. If he is bummed at the thought of you going on vacation without him, I think you should talk more about it or let it go. .. . I wouldn't go unless I knew DH was okay with it, but that is just me.

If it were me, I would go- you dont have kids yet and once you do, it will be even harder to trips with the girls like that.

as long as your dh is cool with it, I mean.

I didn't realize that you were going with your Mom - I misread it - if DH is okay with it, you should totally go.

I think everyone is entitled to their own time, but I also think its important that your DH is okay with it If you go, Have fun

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Posted by cherish83

I dont see an issue with it. IMO, Its important to have alone time. For example, the end of the month DH had planned to go upstate with his friends. I didnt mind because I know he likes going away for the weekend with them. It turns out my family is going to St. Marteen the end of the month, and DH urged me to go because I wanted to. SO I am leaving for 5 days. I will miss him terribly, but I like the moment when we see eachother again.

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i agree, even in the book 101 things i wish i knew when i got married the psychologist couple recommend this lol.

But dh has to go away this Sunday for work. On monday he was telling me he doesnt want to go anymore bc he was thinking about it the night before(he went to a friends house for superbowl party and his friend wanted to drive home but i told dh they better stay there bc he had too much to drink) but he said he realized how much he will miss me and it will be the longest we've been apart and wanted to cancel the trip. A little bit of a surprise bc we have been apart but i guess for the weekend or about 4 days when we went to vegas alone with friends, or he went to philly or boston for just a few days. I convinced him to go bc i think its something he should do for work, its a seminar type thing or something like that and said it can benefit him. Plus i said that moment when you are apart you always realize just how much you love them and are your whole life, and that moment when you do see eachother again is amazing.

Yes i will miss him terribly, and especially towards the end wil probably start thinking i need him to get home already. But it will be great to reunite.

Well I have gone away w/o DH to my parents condo in Florida while I had no school and he had work (before we were married and at the time we both lived with our parents and wouldnt have seen eachother) I felt bad about it but he didnt mind.

Now I think I'd feel bad bc if it was me away and him waking up and going to work I'd just feel bad. Dont get me wrong on weekend I wouldnt mind (this weekebd Im staying in Manhattan at a hotel for my friends bach party) but he'll be out with his friends also, but if I was on vaca while he was working I'd just feel guilty I think...

if it is to see family/friends than i dont think its a big deal - i have gone to florida without DH to visit my parents and sister..........but maybe b/c its vegas that is why it seems different - like are you going to go out partying a lot while you are there? if that is the case then i would be upset if i was your DH just b/c going out like that cost $$, which you said you were trying to save and also b/c it would seem like more of a partying trip than a visitng friends trip kwim? its not like you are going to say kansas does that make any sense?

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Posted by Future Mulligan

if it is to see family/friends than i dont think its a big deal - i have gone to florida without DH to visit my parents and sister..........but maybe b/c its vegas that is why it seems different - like are you going to go out partying a lot while you are there? if that is the case then i would be upset if i was your DH just b/c going out like that cost $$, which you said you were trying to save and also b/c it would seem like more of a partying trip than a visitng friends trip kwim? its not like you are going to say kansas does that make any sense?

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She lived in Vegas though so for her it might be about seeing friends. I might be wrong but since she has lived there, i think for her its a bit different that WOO HOO im in vegas lets party, since she was part of that for a while and doesnt have the same appeal i guess.

DH is actually going to Vegas in a few months with his female cousin. I am a little upset that I can't go b/c I don't have the money for it, but someone has to stay to watch the dog, and I really want them to have some bonding time. They have alot of fun when they hang out, and they have gone to Vegas together before we started dating, and they had so much fun. I didn't want to deprive him of that, and also why should I be there with him just b/c we are married ya know?

I think that if money isn't that big of an issue, you should get away and go have fun. You need times like that sometimes. If money is an issue, and your really going to feel guilty about going then I would say just save it for another time. Maybe you can do a small get together in the future and go to A/C? ??

I dont see traveling with out your DH as being a reason not to go but to be honest if money is the only reason he's not going to go then I'd say its kind of unfair.

If me and DH wanted to go away and we couldnt afford it for both of us and he wanted to go with out me I think I'd be a little unhappy.

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Posted by Future Mulligan

if it is to see family/friends than i dont think its a big deal - i have gone to florida without DH to visit my parents and sister..........but maybe b/c its vegas that is why it seems different - like are you going to go out partying a lot while you are there? if that is the case then i would be upset if i was your DH just b/c going out like that cost $$, which you said you were trying to save and also b/c it would seem like more of a partying trip than a visitng friends trip kwim? its not like you are going to say kansas does that make any sense?

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so lets say she planned to go out one night to a bar or something and party with her girls, thats not okay?!

as long as you trust the other person, i dont see an issue with 'going out'

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Posted by TM2008

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Posted by Future Mulligan

if it is to see family/friends than i dont think its a big deal - i have gone to florida without DH to visit my parents and sister..........but maybe b/c its vegas that is why it seems different - like are you going to go out partying a lot while you are there? if that is the case then i would be upset if i was your DH just b/c going out like that cost $$, which you said you were trying to save and also b/c it would seem like more of a partying trip than a visitng friends trip kwim? its not like you are going to say kansas does that make any sense?

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so lets say she planned to go out one night to a bar or something and party with her girls, thats not okay?!

as long as you trust the other person, i dont see an issue with 'going out'

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ITA, I think the only factor should be the money issue. I think sometimes you need to get away and go have a party night with the girls.

I sometimes wish DH would go out and get hammered with his boys. It's just fun lol

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Posted by Future_Farrell

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Posted by TM2008

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Posted by Future Mulligan

if it is to see family/friends than i dont think its a big deal - i have gone to florida without DH to visit my parents and sister..........but maybe b/c its vegas that is why it seems different - like are you going to go out partying a lot while you are there? if that is the case then i would be upset if i was your DH just b/c going out like that cost $$, which you said you were trying to save and also b/c it would seem like more of a partying trip than a visitng friends trip kwim? its not like you are going to say kansas does that make any sense?

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so lets say she planned to go out one night to a bar or something and party with her girls, thats not okay?!

as long as you trust the other person, i dont see an issue with 'going out'

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ITA, I think the only factor should be the money issue. I think sometimes you need to get away and go have a party night with the girls.

I sometimes wish DH would go out and get hammered with his boys. It's just fun lol

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I agree. I went to Vegas with two of my friends in August, and DH was a not upset, but jealous because he loves Vegas too. I'll be honest, I was hysterical crying when he dropped me off at my friends house the morning we were leaving. But I got over it on the plane and was one of the best trips. Its nice to get away with the girls. DH knows that I'm not one to go out clubbing and get wild, yes we did go to clubs and bars, but he knows that nothing would ever happen and vice versa. If you two trust eachother than I think its healthy that you go away. Trust me, seeing him when you come back is such a great feeling!

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Posted by TommysWife08

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Posted by Future Mulligan

if it is to see family/friends than i dont think its a big deal - i have gone to florida without DH to visit my parents and sister..........but maybe b/c its vegas that is why it seems different - like are you going to go out partying a lot while you are there? if that is the case then i would be upset if i was your DH just b/c going out like that cost $$, which you said you were trying to save and also b/c it would seem like more of a partying trip than a visitng friends trip kwim? its not like you are going to say kansas does that make any sense?

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so lets say she planned to go out one night to a bar or something and party with her girls, thats not okay?!

as long as you trust the other person, i dont see an issue with 'going out'

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i do if its excessive......i trust DH and dont mind if he goes out drinking or whatever and i do the same.... but i would be upset if he went to vegas and got wasted and partied for 4 days straight without me - and i know he would feel the same way...

OK I guess there are MORE factors I am forgetting to mention:

-I have to leave the day after DH's bday
-he doesnt have that many friends here to hang with when I am gone
-he travels alot and will be gone 3 days before I leave (like Sun-Wed and I would leave Sat)
- and yes the money is the biggest factor....its not cheap to go to vegas

I may go out like 1 night and dinner and drinks and stuff but nothing crazy. I dont think hes worried about that but I just feel bad running off the vegas and all of the above things. I am leaning toward not going at this point.....but I still really kinda do want to go if you know what I mean.