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Swags...make Mom happy and send the announcements. I don't think it's a hint for gifts...and if they send any, accept them and thank them for their generosity.

Hi Jamie,

That's a tough one. My first reaction is to say it was your wedding, and it should be up to you whether or not you send out announcements. On the other hand, I can see how you don't want to upset your mom either.

Did you talk to her about how you feel? Did you tell her it would make you uncomfortable??

It depends on how strongly you feel about it. If you really dont want to do it, put your foot down.

But it seems a pretty easy request to satisfy.

I really dont think an announcment is a call for gifts. I would not feel obligated to send a gift for a wedding that I was not invited. The most they might do is give a congratulatory card or phonecall.

or have your Mom send announcements

I agree w/Stacey - have the announcements worded so that they are coming from your Mom (especially if they are her relatives). Use your Mom's address as the return address, too. This will definitely come across as only an announcement and not a call for gifts.

I had the same debate w/my MIL when I got married. She wanted to send an acutal invite to EVERYONE - even if she knew they would NOT attend, and I would NOT stand for it. I told her she was more than welcomed to send announcements to these people AFTER the wedding and she agreed, but it ended up never happening anyway.