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swags1016 Posted: Aug 09, 2003 10:50 PM+

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franksbride Posted: Aug 09, 2003 10:54 PM+

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Posted: Aug 09, 2003 10:54 PM

Re: Wedding announcements

Swags...make Mom happy and send the announcements. I don't think it's a hint for gifts...and if they send any, accept them and thank them for their generosity.

kmcwed Posted: Aug 09, 2003 11:01 PM+

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Posted: Aug 09, 2003 11:01 PM

Re: Wedding announcements

Hi Jamie,

That's a tough one. My first reaction is to say it was your wedding, and it should be up to you whether or not you send out announcements. On the other hand, I can see how you don't want to upset your mom either.

Did you talk to her about how you feel? Did you tell her it would make you uncomfortable??

Sonicstef Posted: Aug 09, 2003 11:22 PM+

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Posted: Aug 09, 2003 11:22 PM

Re: Wedding announcements

It depends on how strongly you feel about it. If you really dont want to do it, put your foot down.

But it seems a pretty easy request to satisfy.

I really dont think an announcment is a call for gifts. I would not feel obligated to send a gift for a wedding that I was not invited. The most they might do is give a congratulatory card or phonecall.

michele31 Posted: Aug 10, 2003 09:42 AM+

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Posted: Aug 10, 2003 09:42 AM

Re: Wedding announcements

I agree with Stef. You can also wait for holiday time and just send a nice holiday card with a wedding photo in it for them.

Stacey1403 Posted: Aug 10, 2003 10:35 AM+

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Posted: Aug 10, 2003 10:35 AM

Re: Wedding announcements

or have your Mom send announcements

swags1016 Posted: Aug 10, 2003 10:52 AM+

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HeatherandNick Posted: Aug 10, 2003 01:02 PM+

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Posted: Aug 10, 2003 01:02 PM

Re: Wedding announcements

if it'll make Mom happy - do it. SHe can send them as her way of anouncing it.

Claud2001 Posted: Aug 10, 2003 01:08 PM+

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Posted: Aug 10, 2003 01:08 PM

Re: Wedding announcements

I agree w/Stacey - have the announcements worded so that they are coming from your Mom (especially if they are her relatives). Use your Mom's address as the return address, too. This will definitely come across as only an announcement and not a call for gifts.

I had the same debate w/my MIL when I got married. She wanted to send an acutal invite to EVERYONE - even if she knew they would NOT attend, and I would NOT stand for it. I told her she was more than welcomed to send announcements to these people AFTER the wedding and she agreed, but it ended up never happening anyway.