7 replies back, and I already have a dilema!!!!!

Original post by truelove5803

Jan 25, 2008 07:18 PM

OK, so today I came home from work to see 7 replies in the mail!!!! I was so excited! Well, when we opened them, we got a big surprise....My Dad's cousin (who we really only invited because we went to their wedding about a year ago, and felt it was only right to invite them) replied, with a Mr, Mrs, and Jr! We only invited the Mr and Mrs!!!! Jr is only about 10 yrs old, and we aren't having kids at the wedding.....we also are really close to our Max head count, we were planning on people not coming to be able to seat everyone, and now we are getting people added to our list!!!!!! I don't know what to do....it's not like we talk to them on a regular basis, so it would be weird to call and say something I think.......HELP!!!!!!

heathermatt Posted: Jan 25, 2008 10:14 PM

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I am fearful that I am going to have the same problem...That is why I decided that I am goingt o provide a babysitter...Probable at the hotel. It will be STRONGLY suggested that the children stay there

Soon2beAlberti Posted: Jan 25, 2008 10:25 PM

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I'm gonna say 'adult reception to follow' I may have the FG and ring barer there for a short bit but even their mom said she's having them taken home early. MAYBE if FH's cousin can't find a babysitter his god daughter can come too...but thats his god daughter...i don't care what anyone feels or has to say about it...it's our wedding and I'm not gonna have a bunch of kids running around playing hide and seek or duck duck goose around chairs and tables while adults are drinking and dancing.

GtBride Posted: Jan 28, 2008 12:48 AM

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hyphenbride Posted: Jan 28, 2008 12:52 AM

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I don't know if people do this because of nerve or ignorance! I would second the asking your dad to take care of it. If he can't, I would call at a time where they wouldn't be home.

And as always, just say, 'sorry we're not inviting children under 14.' And don't give explanations! Once you do, people try to argue you.

Jamnike Posted: Jan 28, 2008 06:19 AM

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dont feel bad calling and letting them know that there is an age limit....just explain that you cannot have kids there. I had the same situation explaining to FH's fam that we cant invite kids, even tho i know a bunch of ppl on his side want to bring them. You cant let one person do it and not others....its just that simple. :( hope that helps!

MrsK2008 Posted: Jan 28, 2008 09:25 AM

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have someone who is indifferent do your dirty work. You run the risk of them not coming at all, however.

good luck!

keep us posted

minibride08 Posted: Jan 28, 2008 09:27 AM

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Say your age cut off is teenagers... so the 14 & 16 yr. olds you invited make the cut and the 10 yr. old does not... I would just call and explain. Maybe they didn't realize they weren't invited....

Julybride08 Posted: Jan 28, 2008 10:03 AM

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Maybe your dad can call and just explain to them that your at your max and that they can't bring JR.

emomma17 Posted: Jan 28, 2008 10:04 AM

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wow that boggles my mind that people will do that but maybe your dad can help out and give them a call, if not maybe you can give a call and explain the situation to them as well.

truelove5803 Posted: Jan 28, 2008 10:09 AM

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Thanks for all the advise girls, but I think my dad is too chicken to call them. Do you think I can send them an email?

jenlen Posted: Jan 28, 2008 10:10 AM

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Eeek...that's alwasy a toughie...especialy since they're family (albeit extended family). I would definitely have your dad call.

Wedding999 Posted: Jan 28, 2008 10:40 AM

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You dont have to say its adult only - just call (or have someone else call) and say - 'we got your response - but the invite was for Mr & Mrs Smith only - will you still be making the wedding or do you need some time and will call us back?