a 2nd JOB ??

to you! I can completely understand what you are going through. FH just got a new job and is taking a pay cut (it's worth it!). So this means that I have to continue to work at my 2nd job until after the wedding. It's hard, but I just keep thinking that we'll have a great wedding without being in over our heads.

I was thinking of one of those testing things ??? ya know you become apart of a pannel taste testing and stuff-- but then you would have to go into the city and that is $$$$ ?????????????????? then I was going to strip ( joking) for 1 night make a quick 'G'

I was thinking of getting a second job, because I feel bad that my parents can't really do much for us. While my FH see's his parent's doing so much for his sister (and not even half for us). Sometimes I really feel bad that he is with a girl that her parents can contribute and I am making his life just that much harder to marry I feel this way because he doesn't care for the big wedding, because he hates attention. This whole wedding is to make me happy, he does everything to make me happy and I feel bad we won't be where he wants to be financially because I want this huge wedding.

If I get a second job I think I will go out of my mind I live really far from work 80 miles a day back and forth, as it is I don't have time to do a thing.

If your FH has money to give you and you are Financially established don't break your back to get a second job. I did it last x-mas and I was just exhausted everyday with no day off!

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Posted by LuvMyFH
I was thinking of getting a second job, because I feel bad that my parents can't really do much for us. While my FH see's his parent's doing so much for his sister (and not even half for us). Sometimes I really feel bad that he is with a girl that her parents can contribute and I am making his life just that much harder to marry I feel this way because he doesn't care for the big wedding, because he hates attention. This whole wedding is to make me happy, he does everything to make me happy and I feel bad we won't be where he wants to be financially because I want this huge wedding.
If your FH has money to give you and you are Financially established don't break your back to get a second job. I did it last x-mas and I was just exhausted everyday with no day off!

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Its not even just for the wedding-- I like to buy things -- shoes or clothes what ever-- i cant now because I pay the bills he pays the morgage--He thinks I do not need to buy uninportant htings like that. But it make me feel good every now and then,so i figured a 2nd job then i willnot feel guilty :)

Ohh I know what your talking about.

We don't have a house yet but he saves I pay all the bills and save the extra. However I am always shopping and not saving as much! He doesn't really say anything though.

I really don't know what advice to give you. Try cutting down on the spending a little bit but still do spend. Try the second job but it is exhausting (especially when you have a house to clean).

Good luck

He can give me the money!

Just Kidding...if he's offerring to give you the $$$, I would take it. You're getting married and sharing your lives together, I'm sure there will be a time when he needs something from you and you will provide for him.

No need for a second job - he wants to see you more!

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Posted by ChristineAE

He can give me the money!

Just Kidding...if he's offerring to give you the $$$, I would take it. You're getting married and sharing your lives together, I'm sure there will be a time when he needs something from you and you will provide for him.

No need for a second job - he wants to see you more!

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While I agree with this, both of us have a 2nd job because we like to have extra money. I don't know if I could give it up now considering it's now a part of our permanent income. I always had a second job because I don't like to have all my eggs in one basket.

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Posted by Blu-ize

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Posted by ChristineAE

He can give me the money!

Just Kidding...if he's offerring to give you the $$$, I would take it. You're getting married and sharing your lives together, I'm sure there will be a time when he needs something from you and you will provide for him.

No need for a second job - he wants to see you more!

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While I agree with this, both of us have a 2nd job because we like to have extra money. I don't know if I could give it up now considering it's now a part of our permanent income. I always had a second job because I don't like to have all my eggs in one basket.

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I am the Queen of second jobs, LOL At first it was XTRA cash...but yes eventually it becomes NECESSARY..it's a monster. FH and I are really working towards BOTH being down to one job after wedding...we don't have enough time for life right now!..AVOID 2nd job if possible!

i think that is FH makes enough $$ that you don't HAVE to get a second job - then you shouldn't. you are not a freeloader - you work and pay many of the bills.

i found that when planning our wedding - i am apt to pay for things he wouldn't even think of (jordan almonds, place cards, tulle, etc.) -little things that we need. especially if you guys live together - how many times do you just 'pick up' things for the house that he gets to enjoy (i.e. toothpaste, toilet paper)

its hard getting used to the idea (i am pretty independant myself) - but maybe throw some money in a joint account or get a joint credit card - so he can see in black and white all the slack that you may be picking up that you both don't realize.

I am working 2 part time jobs and trying to get a weekend job for extra money...it ***** but sometimes you just have to do it