A Bridal Party Question.....

gina674 Posted: Dec 07, 2004 12:27 PM

A Bridal Party Question.....

I have a question...... I'm having a small wedding, around 100 people or so, and I wanted to keep my Bridal Party small. I originally wanted my sister (Moh), and two best friends (bm's), and I was thinking of having Fh's two neices as jr bm's (in 2 years they will be in early teens). Now, my mom wants me to have my cousins (all teenagers 15-19) in my party, but I'm NOT close with them. MY DILEMA: I have 3 cousins... 2 are from one family, and 1 from another.
Would you include family, just to make mom happy, OR would you just do what you want???

Keep in mind, It's all 3 or none, otherwise there are hurt feelings....

hmm8191 Posted: Dec 07, 2004 12:29 PM

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just do what you want

BlondeJD Posted: Dec 07, 2004 12:29 PM

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I say do what you want--it's your wedding and you and FH should be in control of who is the BP. The BP should be people who are special and close to you, not people that you felt obligated to ask.

randella Posted: Dec 07, 2004 12:29 PM

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I think since your wedding is small- that having a bridal party that represents 10 to 15% of your total guest lists is a little weird.

I would say- yes in other circumstances, to make mom happy- but, it is a lot of people for a small wedding- that can be your arguement to your mom.

12-3Princess Posted: Dec 07, 2004 12:46 PM

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I'd say do what you want.

MsKitty1274 Posted: Dec 07, 2004 12:47 PM

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Hey Gina!
A suggestion is involve them, but not in the wedding party directly. Have them do any of the following, hand out programs at the ceremony (if you're doig that), hand out the 'throw-aways' (bubbles, rose petals, bubbles, etc), if possible, they can do a reading, at the reception, they can pass around the guest book.

If I think of anything else, I'll let you know. I know it's tough trying to make 'everyone' happy and do what you want! Fun, fun, fun!!!

-Jill

soon2bmrs2004 Posted: Dec 07, 2004 12:58 PM

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Posted by hmm8191

just do what you want

DITTO!

Bebalina Posted: Dec 07, 2004 01:15 PM

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do what you want...

tell ur mom if u had much more then a 100 ppl then u would include those relatives,
but since ur not, you'd like to keep the bridal party small as well....
dats all..

Judy&Jesh Posted: Dec 07, 2004 01:18 PM

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Girl..its YOUR WEDDING! NOT your Mom's! Do what you want!

alibali Posted: Dec 07, 2004 02:14 PM

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your mom got to pick her BP and you get to pick yours.

even if someone picked hers for her, its still not fair for you. its your wedding. you pick them.

jfabbride Posted: Dec 07, 2004 02:24 PM

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I agree with the other girls...do what you want. It's your wedding and believe you me, there is no way you will make everyone happy so just amke yourself happy.

gina674 Posted: Dec 07, 2004 05:56 PM

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Posted by MsKitty1274

Hey Gina!
A suggestion is involve them, but not in the wedding party directly. Have them do any of the following, hand out programs at the ceremony (if you're doig that), hand out the 'throw-aways' (bubbles, rose petals, bubbles, etc), if possible, they can do a reading, at the reception, they can pass around the guest book.

If I think of anything else, I'll let you know. I know it's tough trying to make 'everyone' happy and do what you want! Fun, fun, fun!!!

-Jill

I didn't think of that!!! Thanks Jill!!!!
And thank you girls.. You're right.. It is my wedding, I just feel like every idea I have starts little debates... But Thanks Girls!!!!!