A little upset with posts.

Original post by MichJhovi

Feb 09, 2009 01:31 PM

I thought the point of this board was to help eachother? I think it is extremely rude and inconsiderate for some to bash venues/vendors the way I have read recently. I think it is sufficient to simply state why you don't like a particular vendor. I don't think there is a need to be rude or nasty. To state that a venue (that a lot of brides on here have booked) is 'low end' or 'a wedding mill' is rude and definitely not appreciated.

I, personally, would never bash any venue/vendor on here out of the respect for others that may have booked it. I would just SIMPLY state if I liked the venue or not. I think opinions can easily go from being helpful to being rude. JMO

I please ask for posters to be a little more considerate with their posts. Please consider how you would feel if you read nasty posts about your own venue. This site should be helpful not hurtful.Thanks for reading.

MichJhovi Posted: Feb 09, 2009 02:02 PM

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Posted by 20mrsc10

Posted by Espo22

Posted by MitziandAndrew

I appreciate your input. Thank you. As far as venting...I have to say Most of the time brides only understand other brides. Perhaps we can all put a mad emote-con on our thread subjects if we are going to say something that might not be pleasurable to some. From there it's a choice if you want to open the thread and read it. I have no problems with brides posting their experiences whether it be bad or good. But I agree that is might be hurtful to call some vendors 'low-end'. Everyone has a wedding they can afford. Big or small, a wedding is beautiful when love is involved! JMO

i think this would be the best idea--because as hurt as i could be if someone started saying bad things about my rh, i also looked here to see if there were bad things before i booked--because i wanted to know not just the good things, but the problems as well--i even called someone i knew before i put my deposit down and specifically asked what problems they had when they had their reception

I agree with this, I did the same thing with EVERY vendor I booked, but the point we're trying to make is that there are more tasteful ways to post things. I have never read anything about any venue the way it was written today.

MichJhovi Posted: Feb 09, 2009 02:03 PM

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Posted by MitziandAndrew

Quote of the day:

'Make your words tasteful because you might just have to eat them one day.'

LOVE IT!!!

MichJhovi Posted: Feb 09, 2009 02:05 PM

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Posted by emc282rjm

I agree...I've never heard anything bad either...and the condescending and nasty way it came out was what hurt me...I love this site and I'm very supportive...I would just like the same respect back....thankfully 99.9999999% of the people on this site are awesome!!!

I totally agree. I think that it's fine to express a concern about a vendor or RH--that is what this site is for. But you could say: I don't love the food there, I prefer the other venue, instead of degrading a venue that LOTS of girls are using. I don't think anyone wants all of the posts to be sunshine and roses and great things, but concerns and criticism can be constructive.

EXACTLY. Thank you for wording it perfectly.

babylin19 Posted: Feb 09, 2009 02:06 PM

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i just think people can express their opinion without coming off as insulting.

HamptonsBride Posted: Feb 09, 2009 02:06 PM

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I have been to 'high-end' weddings that in my opinion stunk...boring, stuffy & the food was OK..nothing spectacular...remember that everything is a matter of opinion...some people just don't express it as nicely as others...and some people are never happy no matter what....sorry people are making you feel bad!!

MichJhovi Posted: Feb 09, 2009 02:09 PM

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Posted by HamptonsBride

I have been to 'high-end' weddings that in my opinion stunk...boring, stuffy & the food was OK..nothing spectacular...remember that everything is a matter of opinion...some people just don't express it as nicely as others...and some people are never happy no matter what....sorry people are making you feel bad!!

Thank you!

EmiNoa628 Posted: Feb 09, 2009 02:09 PM

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Posted by lori7570

ITA

ITA... Its of bad taste to do things like that.. Just be a little more concious of other brides when commenting on vendors..

Future Mulligan Posted: Feb 09, 2009 02:10 PM

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i didn't see the post but don't let it get to you

MnM182008 Posted: Feb 09, 2009 02:11 PM

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Well, I couldn't agree more. I think it is rude to trash or belittle a vendor even if you are unhappy.
However, I think its acceptable to tell everyone that you didn't like a vendor if you have a good reason. I was unhappy with a vendor and did express why I was unhappy. I felt that this was my right, since I paid for a service and I was not given what I paid for. I kept my post clean and tried not blame anyone.

Brides need to hear the good, the bad, and the ugly, it just doesn't have to get as ugly as some brides get. People are also emotional when it comes to vendors and venues attached to their wedding that cost a significant amount of money. I think it is easy to see why some Brides become outraged and speak harshly of a vendor/venue.

MitziandAndrew Posted: Feb 09, 2009 02:11 PM

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Posted by HamptonsBride

I have been to 'high-end' weddings that in my opinion stunk...boring, stuffy & the food was OK..nothing spectacular...remember that everything is a matter of opinion...some people just don't express it as nicely as others...and some people are never happy no matter what....sorry people are making you feel bad!!

I know what you mean but
Who is to say what is 'high end' or 'low end'....
(speaking as a guest) When we go to weddings it is horrible that we judge the RH etc.
when they invited the guests who are dear to them and we should just support and enjoy their special day. It's not for us as guests but for them as a newlywed couple.

jch8 Posted: Feb 09, 2009 02:12 PM

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I am not getting married there either, but I do think its ok to be upset by the post. It is ok to say a negative, constructive criticism, but I agree that the comment was rude.

There are negative things or bad experiences about every RH, but every bride is looking for something different and for different reasons. I have heard bad things about my RH, and at first it did get me worried, but I have also heard tons of great things.

I have never been to the CH for a wedding, but had my company holiday party there a few years ago, and everything was great

JenBill61210 Posted: Feb 09, 2009 02:18 PM

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i agree that some people on here can be a little bit insensitive to other brides on here. I mean don't start bashing a place knowing that there are other girls booked there. There are nicer ways to word it than 'the food ******!!'

FuTuRe MrS MaZz Posted: Feb 09, 2009 02:19 PM

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try not to get TOO upset... im sure i could pull up old posts of where the 'rude' indiviudals are getting married and show em that their hall has their issues too... I do agree that it was out of line... mine is tech a wedding mill so to say... 3 events at once... who the F cares?!?! as long as you're wedding is at a catering hall, you will be getting 'wedding mill' type of food.... some better than others, but heck, cant that apply to everything in life

Espo22 Posted: Feb 09, 2009 02:22 PM

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

try not to get TOO upset... im sure i could pull up old posts of where the 'rude' indiviudals are getting married and show em that their hall has their issues too... I do agree that it was out of line... mine is tech a wedding mill so to say... 3 events at once... who the F cares?!?! as long as you're wedding is at a catering hall, you will be getting 'wedding mill' type of food.... some better than others, but heck, cant that apply to everything in life

true, half of us are getting married/got married at wedding mills then lol. JT def does more than 1 wedding at a time, i got lucky and was the only event that night which even i would say was a MIRACLE lol but sadly i think bc somebody cancelled. But theres tons more places that do more than 1 wedding at a time than vice versa.

dont worry to the OP, i still had the best day of my life even at a wedding mill type place

soontobecruz Posted: Feb 09, 2009 02:32 PM

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Instead of quoting everythin on here and I agree with just about everything in his post. I will just say to those of you hurt I am sending hugs to all of u!!

People can be insensitive it makes me sad. You will all have an amazing day no matter when or where bc u are marrying the loves of ur lives! Congrats

NYYankeeGirl72 Posted: Feb 09, 2009 02:39 PM

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I know which post you are talking about.....I am really sorry that your feelings got hurt.

I think sometimes people forget that other people have already booked with vendors. It is very inconsiderate, but at times i think you just write how you feel to try to help someone who is asking for an opinion and don't realize that others might get offended.

I have posted my reviews of RH's, and/or vendors I have visited with. I always put a disclaimer....'please do not get offended, this is only opinion'...

Also, if there is anything serious that I think a person should know about, I usually tell them to FM me for details.

BeLissa Posted: Feb 09, 2009 02:52 PM

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i completely agree...
Better Words should have been chosen. I have seen a lot of times that the brides that are young of age tend to write things that might not be wise to say. I am not saying all brides but what I have seen. It would definitely hurt me If i had read something distasteful about my FARM wedding.

it was way rude. And, it happened to have not been a younger bride...... but i think anyone should have known better than to give their opinion in such an insulting way. ever hear of FM??? To call a RH that you KNOW many girls on the site are getting married at 'low end' is just obnoxious.

Sandradv121 Posted: Feb 09, 2009 02:55 PM

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Please don't be upset. Some people are overly crass and can't help being that way. Look, you are marrying the love of your life and thats all the matters. I think your wedding will be beautiful, and I want you to have nothing but confidence that it will the best day of your life. Regardless of what people say. :)

Celeste617 Posted: Feb 09, 2009 02:57 PM

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I think sometimes there are just people out there that only feel happy when putting others choices down. I have known TOO many of these types. Nevermind the people that want to bash your choices - you chose these vendors and venues for a reason. I try to be as tactful as possible when I'm posting about something that I don't agree with. Mostly if I want to say something that might offend someone else, I'll send an FM. No need to start unwanted drama, IMO. To the CHCC girls, I've always seen good things about your hall so no worries!

futureMrsJSL Posted: Feb 09, 2009 03:15 PM

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I agree that people should be a little more considerate when they post... My RH doesn't get a lot of attention on this site but when I look at reviews of women who have actually had their wedding their, they all love it and I love everything about my RH.

The only thing that should matter is that you love your RH forget about other peoples comments because on your wedding day it's going to be about you, your FH and the all the fun you both will have!!!