A question about the Terri Sheivo story

Let's just say that her husband had left the decision to her parents and they decided to take out the feeding tube. Would you opinion on the situation change?


It just seems as if some people are more upset about the fact that the husband was allowed to make the decision and not the result of the decision itself.

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Posted by BriBri529

I think if one side wanted her alive that they should have the right to take care of her- whether it be the parents or the husband. What kills things for me is this man moved on and had 2 children with another woman. I don't feel he should have both- the rights to what happens to her and the right to move on. Wedding vows are sacred and if he couldn't walk away completely before moving on he should have kept his vows. For me when it comes to wedding vows it is black and white - no grey areas.

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I agree.

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Posted by BriBri529

I think if one side wanted her alive that they should have the right to take care of her- whether it be the parents or the husband. What kills things for me is this man moved on and had 2 children with another woman. I don't feel he should have both- the rights to what happens to her and the right to move on. Wedding vows are sacred and if he couldn't walk away completely before moving on he should have kept his vows. For me when it comes to wedding vows it is black and white - no grey areas.

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that wasn't the question!

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Posted by BriBri529

I think if one side wanted her alive that they should have the right to take care of her- whether it be the parents or the husband. What kills things for me is this man moved on and had 2 children with another woman. I don't feel he should have both- the rights to what happens to her and the right to move on. Wedding vows are sacred and if he couldn't walk away completely before moving on he should have kept his vows. For me when it comes to wedding vows it is black and white - no grey areas.

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agreed.

I don't think life support (of any type) should be terminated unless all sides agree. (This being in the absense of any documentation based on what the patient wanted)

And, I don't think that someone who has already moved on should be able to decide if she lives or dies.

Just for argument's sake, what would this man do if Terri did make a full recovery? Would he leave his new family and be with her? I doubt it! Therefore, he should not have a say in whether she lives or dies.

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Posted by suven

I don't think life support (of any type) should be terminated unless all sides agree. (This being in the absense of any documentation based on what the patient wanted)

And, I don't think that someone who has already moved on should be able to decide if she lives or dies.

Just for argument's sake, what would this man do if Terri did make a full recovery? Would he leave his new family and be with her? I doubt it! Therefore, he should not have a say in whether she lives or dies.

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SUE...IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HER HUSBAND AND EVERYTHING OT DO WITH HER CONDITION

HER CONDITION...IS WHAT IS IMPORTANT HERE

NOT HER HUSBAND NOT THE MONEY NOT THE DOCTORS....
TERRI!!!

So if terris parents said to let her go...that would be ok????

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Posted by RedHead

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Posted by BriBri529

I think if one side wanted her alive that they should have the right to take care of her- whether it be the parents or the husband. What kills things for me is this man moved on and had 2 children with another woman. I don't feel he should have both- the rights to what happens to her and the right to move on. Wedding vows are sacred and if he couldn't walk away completely before moving on he should have kept his vows. For me when it comes to wedding vows it is black and white - no grey areas.

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that wasn't the question!

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Well it kind of was- if he did not care either way then I think the parents' decision either way is fine. This question did not state the perspective of the husband- are we reversing
roles or does he still want the feeding tube removed?

If he wanted it removed, but left it up to the parents and they decided to keep it in, so be it.

If he wanted it to stay in and the parents didn't then it should still stay in.

If both parties agree then that decision they agree on should be.

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Posted by newbie

That is the problem I personally have with this case. I believe in a person's right to die based on his/her quality of life. I just question Teri Schiavo's husband's motives, here. I do hope the courts have not made their decisions on the basis of his testimony of her wishes, alone.

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Isn't that what is most important? What HER wishes were?

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Posted by Sassyz75

My problem is more with HIM than anything.

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well then that is TRULY sad.....You would rather have her like that...living her life like that just because you THINK he is bad.

WHY is it that NONE of you are thinking of TERRI!

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Posted by wc0143

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Posted by newbie

That is the problem I personally have with this case. I believe in a person's right to die based on his/her quality of life. I just question Teri Schiavo's husband's motives, here. I do hope the courts have not made their decisions on the basis of his testimony of her wishes, alone.

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Isn't that what is most important? What HER wishes were?

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OF COURSE! But nobody knows what she wanted and seriously, what if this man is not honest and his testimony is not truthful?

if her parents would have said

starve her to death

that would still be wrong

it's inhumane

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Posted by BriBri529

Well it kind of was- if he did not care either way then I think the parents' decision either way is fine. This question did not state the perspective of the husband- are we reversing
roles or does he still want the feeding tube removed?

If he wanted it removed, but left it up to the parents and they decided to keep it in, so be it.

If he wanted it to stay in and the parents didn't then it should still stay in.

If both parties agree then that decision they agree on should be.

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No it wasn't...You would rather have that women living like that the rest of her life because someone moved on with their life??????????

HE is the one MAKING the right decision ...him being a money grubbing azzhole has NOTHING to do with it..
HE IS MAKING THE RIGHT DECISION!!!

AND terri is MOST important here...

Keeping her as a vegetable is SICK AND WRONG!

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Posted by don424

if her parents would have said

starve her to death

that would still be wrong

it's inhumane

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WRONG!
It is not inhumane...what is inhumane is keeping her a vegetable...having her body exist for her parents sake
THAT IS INHUMANE

We treat our pets better than that!

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Posted by RedHead

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Posted by BriBri529

Well it kind of was- if he did not care either way then I think the parents' decision either way is fine. This question did not state the perspective of the husband- are we reversing
roles or does he still want the feeding tube removed?

If he wanted it removed, but left it up to the parents and they decided to keep it in, so be it.

If he wanted it to stay in and the parents didn't then it should still stay in.

If both parties agree then that decision they agree on should be.

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No it wasn't...You would rather have that women living like that the rest of her life because someone moved on with their life??????????

HE is the one MAKING the right decision ...him being a money grubbing azzhole has NOTHING to do with it..
HE IS MAKING THE RIGHT DECISION!!!

AND terri is MOST important here...

Keeping her as a vegetable is SICK AND WRONG!

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so we should kill all the vegetables?

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Posted by wc0143

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Posted by newbie

That is the problem I personally have with this case. I believe in a person's right to die based on his/her quality of life. I just question Teri Schiavo's husband's motives, here. I do hope the courts have not made their decisions on the basis of his testimony of her wishes, alone.

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Isn't that what is most important? What HER wishes were?

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Absolutely. Her wishes are what's most important. I just don't know whether her husband is credible. There seems to be no mention of her telling anyone else that this was her wish. Of course, it's normal that a woman would discuss things with her husband that she might not discuss with others. In this case, though, her husband clearly has moved on and probably would like to close this chapter in his life.

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Posted by don424

so we should kill all the vegetables?

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IMO...If they are brain dead..they should be taken off life support system YES!

Keeping bodies here is disgusting and abusive!

SHe is waiting to be at peace!