A text message from FH's EX!

skinny237 Posted: Nov 29, 2007 10:49 AM

A text message from FH's EX!

Last night I get home, eat dinner and then FH falls asleep (I think he stayed at happy hour a bit too long). ANYWAY....

His phone beeps and I know it's not his regular ring so I look at it. It's a text message. So of course I look at it, because nobody sends him text messages. The nessage just said, 'How are you?' I see a random area code so I googled it and it's from Arizona. Conveniently where his ex-girlfriend lives. I used the computer because I have a subscription to one of those peoplefinder companies and of course her name comes up. They broke up 5 years ago. Why is she texting him? I wake him up and tell him. Clearly I look psycho. He says he is going to call her and tell her he's engaged and not to call him anymore. I said that I want to be there when he calls her, but he said that would be too weird but I can listen from the other room.

I trust him completely (he literally tells me everything, many things I don't even want to know about). Am I stressing over nothing? I didn't sleep at all last night. I know it's not his fault that she texted him but I'm still just annoyed!

Just needed to vent.

Espo22 Posted: Nov 29, 2007 10:51 AM

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has he had the same number for 5 years?

skinny237 Posted: Nov 29, 2007 10:52 AM

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Yes.

jeffamanda080808 Posted: Nov 29, 2007 10:52 AM

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I think you might be stressing over nothing but on that note.........the biotch needs to know he's engaged and that the secret text messages are stopping ASAP.

FutureMrsPD Posted: Nov 29, 2007 10:52 AM

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thats what i was wondering...just think back and make sure his # stayed the same. youre not over reacting at ALL!!!! I would be FUMING!!!!!

Soon2beAlberti Posted: Nov 29, 2007 10:55 AM

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well, if he's had the same number all this time and its an isolated event i wouldn't worry. besides she said 'how are you?' meaning she's not really up to date on him and his life which means they don't keep in touch...or at least not too often. I wouldn't worry...but u did the right thing...you let him know it bothered you and told him to fix it.

xXxNovember08xXx Posted: Nov 29, 2007 10:56 AM

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ex is prob goign through a 'lonely' phase and if the # was the same she might be checing it out to have someone she knew to talk to ...

i woudl be the same.. dont worry.

emomma17 Posted: Nov 29, 2007 10:56 AM

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i would be highly annoyed too! FH ex did the drunk dial thing for a year when we first started dating it happened again a few months ago and i put an end to that one quickly by calling her myself. You can be annoyed but you have to be trusting in him and believe in him too.

Espo22 Posted: Nov 29, 2007 10:58 AM

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Well if you trust him then just let it go...sometimes these things do happen...i had an ex i havent even seen in over 5 years and thats just seeing them out somewhere but they messaged me recently but it was on myspace, fh didnt like it but it wasn't my fault not like i did anything for that to happen.

if something just doesnt seem right then do some investigation i guess

Espo22 Posted: Nov 29, 2007 11:00 AM

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but she didn't say 'hey its me' or something i mean unless shes had the same number for 5 years too and she figured he would know who it is bc he'd recognize the number

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Nov 29, 2007 11:04 AM

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Posted by Espo22

has he had the same number for 5 years?

My FH has had the same number since highschool
just about 10 years now

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Nov 29, 2007 11:05 AM

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im sure she was just texting him cause she hasnt talked to him in a long time, if he doesnt call her back she probably would get the hint

MikeandJess Posted: Nov 29, 2007 11:07 AM

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I'd be a little upset but it's hard to control who FH's ex texts, as long as you trust him that's all that matters. He shouldn't even contact her back, he should just ignore her and not answer her at all, she'll get the hint.

lkdrnw Posted: Nov 29, 2007 11:08 AM

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I would be mad, but not at FH---I would have him tell her that he is engaged and to move on. My ex calls every once in awhile, but I ignore the calls--you think he would get the hint(and he knows I am engaged)
But in you FH's defense--you can tell he has not spoken to her or doesn't have her ## cause if it was in his phone, it would come up under her name---I think she is just lonely and looking to see if her ex's are with someone or if she maybe has a chance again

SparkyandAng Posted: Nov 29, 2007 11:09 AM

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Posted by MikeandJess

I'd be a little upset but it's hard to control who FH's ex texts, as long as you trust him that's all that matters. He shouldn't even contact her back, he should just ignore her and not answer her at all, she'll get the hint.

I agree he shouldn't even bother answering her.

minibride08 Posted: Nov 29, 2007 11:12 AM

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Posted by xXxNovember08xXx

ex is prob goign through a 'lonely' phase and if the # was the same she might be checing it out to have someone she knew to talk to ...

i woudl be the same.. dont worry.

I agree! Seems as if he hasn't spoken to her b/c of what she texted.. I wouldn't even give it a second thought & if it's stressing you out- just ask him about it.

kBr Posted: Nov 29, 2007 11:19 AM

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see im a psycho i would text her back 'hi, this is his fiance, he's doing great thanks ;)'

kBr Posted: Nov 29, 2007 11:19 AM

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Posted by Soon2beAlberti

well, if he's had the same number all this time and its an isolated event i wouldn't worry. besides she said 'how are you?' meaning she's not really up to date on him and his life which means they don't keep in touch...or at least not too often. I wouldn't worry...but u did the right thing...you let him know it bothered you and told him to fix it.

i agree with this.. though i would still do what i said in my last post just to be funny lol

skinny237 Posted: Nov 29, 2007 11:20 AM

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Posted by o8bride

see im a psycho i would text her back 'hi, this is his fiance, he's doing great thanks ;)'

I tried to but his phone is a piece of crap and I couldn't figure out how to send a message from his phone. I didn't want to admit that in the original posting.