A text message from FH's EX!

Original post by skinny237

Nov 29, 2007 10:49 AM

Last night I get home, eat dinner and then FH falls asleep (I think he stayed at happy hour a bit too long). ANYWAY....

His phone beeps and I know it's not his regular ring so I look at it. It's a text message. So of course I look at it, because nobody sends him text messages. The nessage just said, 'How are you?' I see a random area code so I googled it and it's from Arizona. Conveniently where his ex-girlfriend lives. I used the computer because I have a subscription to one of those peoplefinder companies and of course her name comes up. They broke up 5 years ago. Why is she texting him? I wake him up and tell him. Clearly I look psycho. He says he is going to call her and tell her he's engaged and not to call him anymore. I said that I want to be there when he calls her, but he said that would be too weird but I can listen from the other room.

I trust him completely (he literally tells me everything, many things I don't even want to know about). Am I stressing over nothing? I didn't sleep at all last night. I know it's not his fault that she texted him but I'm still just annoyed!

Just needed to vent.

SOTHISISLOVE53109 Posted: Nov 29, 2007 11:24 AM

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what I would have done was: waited to see if he told you she texted him. Being that you already knew it would have been a true test if he was truthful. He has def. moved on from his ex you guys are engaged...I don't think you have anything to be worried about. Have him call her or you text her back pretending to me him and tell her to not text that I'm engaged and can't be playing these games!!

SOTHISISLOVE53109 Posted: Nov 29, 2007 11:25 AM

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Posted by Espo22

Posted by o8bride

see im a psycho i would text her back 'hi, this is his fiance, he's doing great thanks ;)'

that would be perfect

I didn't see this before I posted - this is even better!

GinaBambina08 Posted: Nov 29, 2007 11:28 AM

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OMG, I HATE ex-girlfriends move on and get a life, LOSERS

Randilotus Posted: Nov 29, 2007 11:29 AM

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don't stress ex's are ex's for a reason!

Mici n KC Posted: Nov 29, 2007 11:33 AM

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Posted by o8bride

see im a psycho i would text her back 'hi, this is his fiance, he's doing great thanks ;)'

I would do this too!

kBr Posted: Nov 29, 2007 11:37 AM

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Posted by MiciB115

Posted by o8bride

see im a psycho i would text her back 'hi, this is his fiance, he's doing great thanks ;)'

I would do this too!

i guess im not that psychotic then! hahaha.. hey now that i think about it, ive only ever been called psycho by GUYS lmaooo what do they know?!

JoesFutureWife Posted: Nov 29, 2007 11:53 AM

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I'd be fuming too....unfortunately you can't control her actions or her deciding to text. It doesn't sound like he was expecting it at all so i wouldn't be too worried. But geez after 5 years she needs a clue!

anneandchris Posted: Nov 29, 2007 11:58 AM

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I agree with they are ex's for a reason.

If he has had the same number forever and all it said was 'How are you?' -- seems like she is just lonely. And her name didn't come up so he doesn't have her number stored.

He should just ignore it but if it happens again he needs to say something.

Don't get mad at him -- he has no control over what other people do.

skinny237 Posted: Nov 29, 2007 12:16 PM

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Thanks everyone for replying! I really appreciate it and your comments helped me a lot today.

ChristineAaron08 Posted: Nov 29, 2007 12:35 PM

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maybe she just found out he was engaged and wanted to be like- oh yeah- im doing wonderful too, ya know- one one those type things

if she still calls after he tells her not to-then worry

ChristineAaron08 Posted: Nov 29, 2007 12:37 PM

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Posted by MiciB115

Posted by o8bride

see im a psycho i would text her back 'hi, this is his fiance, he's doing great thanks ;)'

I would do this too!

come to think of it, i would just text back as him and say- im great, im engaged

teenigrrl Posted: Nov 29, 2007 12:38 PM

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this actually happened to me a couple of weeks ago, where someone i dated about 4 years ago sent me a random text because they were in my old neighborhood. FH didn't see it when i got it, but i told him about because i thought it was just so random and funny. i never replied to the text. i'm sure it's completely innocent if he's had the # for years, her name isn't saved on his phone, and all it said was How are you? for all you know she could have drunk-texted him. i know i was guilty of that in my single days......

kristi313 Posted: Nov 29, 2007 12:38 PM

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Posted by ChristineAaron08

Posted by MiciB115

Posted by o8bride

see im a psycho i would text her back 'hi, this is his fiance, he's doing great thanks ;)'

I would do this too!

come to think of it, i would just text back as him and say- im great, im engaged

i'd have to agree, if she doesn't get the point or it becomes a new habit for her to contact him, it could be time to change the #

Teamhurldon Posted: Nov 29, 2007 12:41 PM

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i still recieve and send texts to my ex.... and my fh gets and sends to his.... i think as long as its in the open and we all know they are still friends... no worries, she should know he is engaged though

Cutechef729 Posted: Nov 29, 2007 12:45 PM

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You are not overreacting! She needs to find her own man, not one that is taken! Tell FH to get rid of her!

lilangel369 Posted: Nov 29, 2007 12:47 PM

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Posted by SparkyandAng

Posted by MikeandJess

I'd be a little upset but it's hard to control who FH's ex texts, as long as you trust him that's all that matters. He shouldn't even contact her back, he should just ignore her and not answer her at all, she'll get the hint.

I agree he shouldn't even bother answering her.

ditto on that .. he shouldn't even bother answering her.

LT Posted: Nov 29, 2007 12:51 PM

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I think he should change his #, that will solve a lot of problems.

JimmysPants Posted: Nov 29, 2007 12:57 PM

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I would totally let him deal with it BUT I would be right there when he does. If it keeps happening then for sure I would be calling her to let her know the deal or else!!

debismom Posted: Nov 29, 2007 01:31 PM

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Jennifer, my other Daughter, could identify with your experience, although she's still waiting for the e-ring, hopefully, for Christmas. But, some time ago, her boyfriend's ex-girlfriend,from Texas, who is married, kept e-mailing my Daughter's boyfriend, telling him she still loves him and wants him!!!!! Huh??? He finally told her about his commitment with my Daughter, and to my knowledge, has stopped trying to contact him. Needless to say, my Daughter was pretty steamed!! Mary MOB