Last night I get home, eat dinner and then FH falls asleep (I think he stayed at happy hour a bit too long). ANYWAY....
His phone beeps and I know it's not his regular ring so I look at it. It's a text message. So of course I look at it, because nobody sends him text messages. The nessage just said, 'How are you?' I see a random area code so I googled it and it's from Arizona. Conveniently where his ex-girlfriend lives. I used the computer because I have a subscription to one of those peoplefinder companies and of course her name comes up. They broke up 5 years ago. Why is she texting him? I wake him up and tell him. Clearly I look psycho. He says he is going to call her and tell her he's engaged and not to call him anymore. I said that I want to be there when he calls her, but he said that would be too weird but I can listen from the other room.
I trust him completely (he literally tells me everything, many things I don't even want to know about). Am I stressing over nothing? I didn't sleep at all last night. I know it's not his fault that she texted him but I'm still just annoyed!
Just needed to vent.
bemyyoko
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my exboyfriend from college IM's me... texts me... and calls... not OFTEN but frequently enough that FH and I just roll our eyes.
The worst part? I've changed my number TWICE since college. Which means one of my friends is giving it to him.
FH trusts me completely. If i wanted to be with the EX I would be...
Besides, he lives out of state and I'm way too lazy to travel for sex
Seriously though... i understand being annoyed... but be annoyed/mad at her. not him. unless you have reasons to mistrust or be annoyed with him... i'd let it go.
bemyyoko
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Posted by LT
I think he should change his #, that will solve a lot of problems.
change his number b/c his ex texted him once? seems a bit extreme to me, espcecially if he's had the number for over 5 years...
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Posted by skinny237
He says he is going to call her and tell her he's engaged and not to call him anymore. I said that I want to be there when he calls her, but he said that would be too weird but I can listen from the other room.
I'd be more annoyed that he wouldn't let me be in the same room when he calls her than the fact that she randomly text messaged him. I agree with the others that she's probably lonely or something, but I'm not too sure on how it would be too weird if you were there when he tells her not to call him anymore....if you can listen in from the other room, why can't you listen in from the same room?
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I would have been upset too but at least it wasnt a text like 'it was nice seeing you' or something like that. She asked how he was doing which means she hasnt been in contact with him. I probably would have texted back, 'This is his fiance and weve been so busy planning our wedding but he's doing great, who is this by the way?'
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Cleary she hasnt talked to him in FOREVER. He should just text her back, 'I'm good, I'm getting married, hope you're great, have a nice holiday!'
Lori-Chris2008
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Some girls I guess just cant let go..
To me when I brake up with a boyfriend thats it , is over. I would personally feel like a loser if out of the blue I contacted an ex to say hi or whatever. Once they are out of my life, thats it time to move on.
I will never understand the girls/guys who after YEAR's of being broken up still feel the need to contact there EX. Like EX means EX for a reason!!!!
Dont worry girl I am sure its nothing. Some ppl cant let go. Feel sorry for the girl. That's what I always feel for those types. Sorry that they cant get over the fact that you and your ex are BROKEN up for a reason!!! Me and my FH laugh over this all the time....
we all have delt with crazy Ex's with every boyfriend I am sure. I look at it like you and your fh are happy now and your the one with the ring on your finger. All she has is a phone, a text message plan, and a LOT of time on her hands hehehehehehe.
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If the message popped up from the number like 'message from 111-444-5555' and not 'message from Susie' then obviously he doesn't have her # saved and this is an isolated incident. No big deal.
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The other good news is that her number isn't in his phone and it didn't come up with her name just her #.....before i did anything too physcho i would see if it happens again. I would be a little upset too in my stomach, not at FH though....(well i would if i found out they were talking lol)
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see im a psycho i would text her back 'hi, this is his fiance, he's doing great thanks ;)'
I would do this too!
lmao...I was just going to say the same thing!!!!! awesome! I would have never brought it to FH's attention, I would have probably answered for him. LOL!!!
PeterNina Mom
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I know how you feel and I too would be a psycho and either text her back or call her. When my DH and I were dating and he was packing up to move in with me an ex called him for a booty call. The next day I got all her numbers from him and had him call and then I called her work number and told her to stay away!!!!!! We all feel the same about that no matter how old we are!!!!!
P.S. She never tried that again! I also ripped up his little black book!
chrispar
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Try not to be too upset. She probably was thinking about him and has no idea what he has been up to. Honestly both FH and I still talk to our ex's. They are ex's for a reason.
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see im a psycho i would text her back 'hi, this is his fiance, he's doing great thanks ;)'
ha ha i wasj ust thinking the same thing...
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I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. Both my ex and fh's ex pop up here or there (he lives in my moms town and her parents live in the town we just bought a house).
As long as you love and trust each other there is no reason to worry.
MeaganAndJoeC
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If you trust him there is no need to worry.. I prob would not ahve slept over that either though.. reguardless of how much trust I had.. It is just annoying
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Posted by xXxNovember08xXx
ex is prob goign through a 'lonely' phase and if the # was the same she might be checing it out to have someone she knew to talk to ...
i woudl be the same.. dont worry.
I agree with this- prob just one of those phases that ex's go through.
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I would be annoyed too if this happened to my FH. I agree with the other girls though - she is probably going through some sort of lonely phase and just decided to text your FH to talk. I wouldn't worry about it.
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Thanks again everyone! All of your thoughts and input really helped. FH is at the Ranger Game tonight but he just called to tell me that he's sorry that she called and he feels bad that I didn't sleep and of course I have nothing to worry about.
Really, though, thanks again. I really appreciate everyone listening today!!!
SugaBeans
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wow. i would be the same way you are... but then i would calm down and realize i was being silly.
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see im a psycho i would text her back 'hi, this is his fiance, he's doing great thanks ;)'
haha me too but I'm crazy and his ex's have known this since day one! I've nipped that in the bud years ago!!
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Posted by Lori-Chris2008
Some girls I guess just cant let go..
To me when I brake up with a boyfriend thats it , is over. I would personally feel like a loser if out of the blue I contacted an ex to say hi or whatever. Once they are out of my life, thats it time to move on.
I will never understand the girls/guys who after YEAR's of being broken up still feel the need to contact there EX. Like EX means EX for a reason!!!!
Dont worry girl I am sure its nothing. Some ppl cant let go. Feel sorry for the girl. That's what I always feel for those types. Sorry that they cant get over the fact that you and your ex are BROKEN up for a reason!!! Me and my FH laugh over this all the time....
we all have delt with crazy Ex's with every boyfriend I am sure. I look at it like you and your fh are happy now and your the one with the ring on your finger. All she has is a phone, a text message plan, and a LOT of time on her hands hehehehehehe.
yep, i never understood (i really just typed understanded...I must be tired) when FH was friendly with his exes...because to me...I only broke up with someone if they did me wrong in some way or were not a good person...so why would i want anything to do with them?
he was friends with an ex but I ended up being 100% right when i warned FH about her. FH actually said 'babe you said it from day one...you had her pegged and you were right' GOD I LOVE IT WHEN GIRLS HELP TO PROVE ME RIGHT!
