about the boy/girl thing in TCOYF...and other questions

LisaT Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:13 PM

about the boy/girl thing in TCOYF...and other questions

for those that have read it - what did you think about the part that explaining how you could try to determine the sex of your baby based on when you had sex?

have any of you tested that theory?

also, for those of you that got pregnant without charting, ov. tests. etc - did you do anything special other than not use birth control and go at it?

I'm just trying to get a feel for how often conception just happens without special timing...
When the time comes, I don't want to make getting pregnant a process (if I can avoid it).

(not trying, and not ready - just getting educated)

JennRenee Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:18 PM

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A friend of mine had a son and wanted a daughter. She read EVERY book imaginable on the sex selection, and just gave birth to a baby girl about 3 weeks ago. She SWEARS she chose the sex of her baby by timing 'the deed' a few days before ovulation.
I'm not sure I buy the theory, but she has 2 beautiful kids, so who cares.

LisaT Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:25 PM

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I guess I feel like its better left up to fate, but I'm intrigued at the possibility of it actually working.

I could see people trying it in some situations (like my cousin who has 2 gorgeous boys and went for #3 to get a girl. But its gonna be another boy. I wonder if she had known about this, if they would've tried it). My parents on the other hand, got 3 girls (but they couldn't have tried for a boy for #3, since they weren't planning on a 3rd at all )

Elizabeth Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:28 PM

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my sil read the book and swears they did everything right to have a girl and they gave me another nephew so i dont know what they did wrong.
i'd rather get what i get than try to control it but thats just me. nor could i be bothered with the research and planning of trying to conceive a specific gender. either way a baby is a gift from God

good luck

shamma Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:30 PM

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sounds like too much planning, what happens to the fun part

LisaT Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:33 PM

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Elizabeth - you hit the nail on the head. I don't want to go through the process of planning/timing the conception let alone the sex of the baby. I just want it to happen when it happens (hopefully).

chmlengr Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:33 PM

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They say if your planning a girl, you should do the deed a few days before ovulation because the female sperm live longer. If your looking for a boy, they say to do the deed on the day of ovulation because they're quicker and will beat the female sperm to the egg. I don’t think we'll try this method. I agree it's better left up to fate. Shamma's right - too much planning will kill the joy of babymaking!

LisaT Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:35 PM

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exactly Shamma!

but TCOYF is all about planning and charting. It was interesting to read and I did learn things but I don't think its right for me. I can see how it would be very helpful if you were having problems conceiving.

JennRenee Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:39 PM

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I read TCOYF, and since I never ovulated, it didn't help me a bit. I also wanted to have a baby whenever it happened... all that charting seemed too time consuming, and I figured we had plenty of time.
Unfortunately, we weren't able to do things that way, and I can tell you with MUCH certainty that timing DOES kill the mood. I hope this isn't TMI, but on the night my lima bean was conceived, I remember saying 'Okay, there's 20 minutes till Seinfeld. Think we can get this over with in time??'
Passion, nope. Success?? YEP!

anna Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:42 PM

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Jenn I am ROLLING !!
You are tooooo funny !!!!!!!!

LisaW Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:43 PM

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LMAO JennRenee
I know EXACTLY what you mean

LisaT Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:46 PM

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Elizabeth, Anna, Niha, other moms or moms to be - how'd you get pregnant? I mean I know HOW, but did you use any timing techniques? predictor tests, etc? or did it just happen?

LisaT Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:50 PM

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JennRenee - I'm confused. Didn't you do IUI? But you didn't concieve from that?

My friend is going through this now - she's on clomid (she also doesn't ovulate) and I think her second IUI cycle.

anna Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:50 PM

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'just happened' no techniques. I dont beleive in any of that stuff.

LisaT Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:53 PM

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thanks anna - how long were you trying?

(feel free to ignore me if I'm asking too many or too personal questions.)

natasha Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:54 PM

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What is TCOYF????

anna Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:54 PM

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got it on the 2nd try we knew we were 'trying' but didnt expect it to happen so soon! does that make sense?

I LOVE HOW everyones getting the baby itch !

YAYYYYYYY

shamma Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:57 PM

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TAKING CHARGE OF YOR FERTILITY THE BOOK

LisaT Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:58 PM

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I don't have the baby itch yet, but so many of my friends are trying or have babies. I feel like I should be more educated on the subject.
And have realistic expectations, so when we are ready, we know what we're in for. Al saw I was reading TCOYF and was like 'WHY are you reading THAT?!

Natasha - Taking Charge of Your Fertility book(TCOYF)

shamma Posted: Apr 23, 2003 05:59 PM

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Lisa, I am glad you got this going b/c I have questions galore.

If an egg is realeased and it does not get to meet with a sperm and make a baby what happens to it, does it gets wasted??? I know us women are born with our eggs and if they are being released will we not run out of eggs soon.