Adultery and Cheating

So the QOTD got me thinking.
How do you ladies feel about adultery? I know we all hate it but god-forbid if this were to happen during you marriage would you forgive and forget or would it be over? Does FH feel the same as you do? I know this is a different type of question but I feel as though we play it safe on this board, I just want to know everyone's true feelings.

honestly, even if it was just a kiss, i'd be done. I explained from day 1...you cheat, say goodbye. This is something we both believe in. Why be together then?

I've been cheated on quite a few times (past BFs & ex fiance) and that's it! My foot is down and I'm not tolerating anymore lol. I myself would NOT do it.

If agreed to have an open relationship then I see no problem but if not, obviously there's a problem.

I feel so strongly about this it actually gets me mad just thinking about it (for the people that do cheat)

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Posted by Alyssa79

I feel so strongly about this it actually gets me mad just thinking about it (for the people that do cheat)

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You and me both!!!! FH and I have made it very clear that if it ever happened on either end, it would be over, no exceptions.

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Posted by LMTF2010

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Posted by Alyssa79

I feel so strongly about this it actually gets me mad just thinking about it (for the people that do cheat)

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You and me both!!!! FH and I have made it very clear that if it ever happened on either end, it would be over, no exceptions.

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I feel the same exact way. I was gonna wait to reply but i just couldn't. FH feels the same way but its weird. He doesn't beleive in divorce, so if I cheated which would NEVER happen, the relationship would be over but he would remain married. I learned this like a month ago.

I may be one of the younger brides-to-be on here but I am a bit traditional and conservative when it comes to marriage and relationships. This maybe TMI, FH and I were both each other's first everything and we will each other's last. Engraved in our rings will be ' My first , my last, my everything'. Having a monogamous relationship and your 'own' love means so much to me.

I unfortunatly have been the cheater .... ( NEVER ON FH ) in previous relationships ...

But if i were to get cheated on (which fortunately enough i have never been .... at least not to my knowledge )

ID BE DONE ..... I just would be able to even think of him seeing someone else ... the thought of it makes me want to throwww up .

Fh isnt very fogiving so although we have never talked about it .. im sure hed be done if i ever cheated

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Posted by LMTF2010

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Posted by Alyssa79

I feel so strongly about this it actually gets me mad just thinking about it (for the people that do cheat)

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You and me both!!!! FH and I have made it very clear that if it ever happened on either end, it would be over, no exceptions.

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Im with you both here. I was cheated on and its the worst feeling in the world. I would not want anyone to feel that

i always told FH that I know too many people in too many places. I WILL find out!

I also am almost glad that getting a divorce is soo easy now. It's not like my parents where they stuck through everything(that whole generation). Now I'm not saying I'd get one if we got into a fight or anything stupid like that (when I say my vows I mean them!), BUT if cheating went on...you bet!

When it comes to cheating, people talk about the hurt they feel from knowing that their significant other had intimate feelings for another person and acted out on them.

For me, I can deal with that part because I believe time can heal those wounds.

HOWEVER!!!! emphasis on the ever!

I can not deal with the fact of someone I love intentionally putting MY health at risk by sleeping with another person who God only knows has what. I could not tolerate it and I don't even want to think of what I might do to someone in that situation!

::Cooling Down::: So uh yea, to answer the question. lol. FH knows the ramifications of cheating!

I wouldn't be able to deal with any part of it. I would constantly keep envisioning him with someone else...Plus I respect my body and self too much to have someone potentially destroy it with their irresponsibility.

Alyssa: I think that nowadays people throw things away very easily, they don't necessarily want to put in the effort and fight since divorce is accessible. I mean back in days you hear about couples staying together through it all adultery, abuse etc, not saying anyone should cause iId be out but things just were taken for granted.

I wouldn't stand for it and fh knows it, i just wouldn't be able to look at him in the same way. And he feels the same way.

i would not stand for it whatsoever...and FH knows it. I was cheated on in my last relationship and it just rips out your heart when you find out about it....If he even just touched another woman or another woman touched him I would freak...I will leave him immediately no questions asked if he cheated on me.


I would walk out so fast he would get wind burn from it....b-stard....

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Posted by CristinanBen2010

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Posted by LMTF2010

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Posted by Alyssa79

I feel so strongly about this it actually gets me mad just thinking about it (for the people that do cheat)

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You and me both!!!! FH and I have made it very clear that if it ever happened on either end, it would be over, no exceptions.

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Im with you both here. I was cheated on and its the worst feeling in the world. I would not want anyone to feel that

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I'm with you ladies. It would be OVER!!!!!!!!!!

In my last relationship (before FH) I was cheated on, and I took him back... my self-esteem took such a beating that I will NEVER, EVER, EVER allow myself to be treated like that again.

The key is open communication. If you're always communicating then no one in the marriage will feel like they need to look elsewhere to fulfill their needs (emotional, physical, etc.)

I don't want to have a divorice, and I will work very hard with FH to ensure we have a great marriage... and both of us believe in monogamy.

Plus: the whole health issue... don't you dare put my health at risk so you can get your rocks off... Nope. I'd be done.

So, yeah, cheating: No.