advice needed

does anyones FH;s have 1 friend who you absolutely hate. Like honestly you don't even want FH to hang out with but also can't tell them who to be friends with and not.

I do. I hate this guy, I hate how FH is with him. What can I do?

OMG - I cannot even tell you. I've been trying to get rid of FH's BF for years. In my experience - there's nothing you can really do. However, at this point, he's begun to realize what an idiot his BF is and they have grown apart - he's still around now and then - but not like he used to be.

I used to be like that with Mike's best friend. They are no longer friends, but it had nothing to do with me. It had everything to do with him showing up to our e-party almost 2 hours late looking like he was completely hungover and just rolled out of bed.

Unfortunately, there's not much you can do. It took Mike over 20 years to learn what an a$$ this guy was.

TOTALLY!!! FH has this 1 friend that makes my blood boil when I am around him. After all these years, he is like an unwanted step brother, but it has gotten better. He ended up making a fool of himself so many times and FH has finally noticed it, so slowly he has been creeping out of the picture.

You definitely need to talk to your FH about him.

I had this issue, but it was because the guy was really a jerk to me and as soon as FH saw it firsthand he stopped talking to the guy...I think I told him that I didn't like him because he was rude to me, but I wouldn't have and couldn't tell him who he can and can't be friends with...I wouldn't want him to tell me who I could and couldn't be friends with.

Sorry you're going through this

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Posted by Lsorrent


Unfortunately, there's not much you can do. It took Mike over 20 years to learn what an a$$ this guy was.

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Same thing!!!!!!!!!!!

OMG I completely understand!! FH has a friend who we went to college with...when FH graduated a year before me he was living near the guy in NYC and the guy was constantly trying to get him to double date with girls...he told FH he should be single at that point in his life & enjoy NYC...clearly we didn't break up but it was like 'thanks a lot a$$hole...' I had always thought that we were cool.

THEN...when we got engaged this idiot told FH he wanted to take him out for drinks to celebrate & ended up the whole time asking him if he was sure....HELLO the guy already proposed OF COURSE HE IS SURE!!

I hate that FH & I even fought about him but in the end he agreed not to invite the guy to the wedding...I don't want some jerk there that doesn't even want to stand up for us and our marriage...ugh.

Some guys are so desperate to have their friends close and like them (i.e.single or whatever) they don't care about their happiness.

i'll trade you your FH's annoying friend for my FH's psychotic sister.

but i mean, either way... it *****.

omg it took 6 years and a wedding for him to realize what a jerk his friend was...his friend got very drunk at our wedding, didn't give a gift, tried hitting on his sister and was not sucessful, and punched one of our GM at the after party

before that i told DH if u want to hang out w/ him, i dont want to be around

now....we haven't talked or seen him since the wedding...

and im not upset about it either!!!

sorry you all have issues like this too although happy I am not alone

thanks everyone

Im waiting for FH to see this guy is a JERK! There isnt much you can do You are not alone.

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Posted by irisheyes23

My FH wanted his best friend to be the best man at our wedding. Thank GOD that didn't happen but I didn't get rid of this a** hole until he got a new girlfriend. Shauna does this guy have a girlfriend?

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no, and I can't imagine it is easy for him to find one. Not to be mean but for reasons out of his control he wouldn't find one easy. I'd rather not say online why I feel this way. Sorry to be so cryptic