LIWeddings.com
Post New Topic

Advice needed NWR

ZeppsGirl Posted:

Advice needed NWR

THanks for all the advice ladies!

LuvMyAlfonse Posted:

Re: Advice needed NWR

hmmmmmmm toughie. I was in a similar position and I just told him straight out (he knew I was dating Alfonse) and I told him we got engaged about 2 days after we did.

Mrs. V 2008 Posted:

Re: Advice needed NWR

I would just tell him flat out..i don't know any other way around it..

ZeppsGirl Posted:

Re: Advice needed NWR

do I say it like I am excited...or should I contain my self out of respoect for him?

Espo22 Posted:

Re: Advice needed NWR

just come out and say it, and say it however you want to say it. Don't even worry about it

Mrs. V 2008 Posted:

Re: Advice needed NWR

Posted by ZeppsGirl

do I say it like I am excited...or should I contain my self out of respoect for him?


well you have every right to be excited....but i would just say..there is something important i have to tell you and tell him...i mean you don't have to be overly excited..but at least let him know your happy!! he'll probably be happy if your happy!
LuvMyAlfonse Posted:

Re: Advice needed NWR

Posted by ZeppsGirl

do I say it like I am excited...or should I contain my self out of respoect for him?


say it like you're exited... you are! you don't have to rub it in though you know?

kind of like:

you: Hey Dave, what's going on?
him: not much, chillin'
you: what have you been up to?
him: not much - same old, same old. you?
you: Zepp and I got engaged so I've been swamped with wedding planning....
him: oh. (sadly, but then) that's great, I'm really happy for you. You really deserve the best.
you: thanks!
ZeppsGirl Posted:

Re: Advice needed NWR

thanks ladies.

LuvMyAlfonse Posted:

Re: Advice needed NWR

don't be sad... it will be awkward but it won't be that bad... he obviously loves you and will be sad but he knows you deserve the best.
dream426 Posted:

Re: Advice needed NWR

Posted by Espo22

just come out and say it, and say it however you want to say it. Don't even worry about it


I agree. There is no easy way to say it. And even if you say you are going to do it a certain way when it comes time it will just come out however.
ant n tilde Posted:

Re: Advice needed NWR

are you going to invite him??

oh i think you have to just come out and tell him and you have to be as happy as you feel! dont hide your feelings, if he is a true friend he will be happy even if he still has feelings for you!
ZeppsGirl Posted:

Re: Advice needed NWR

I think that I need to be happy and tell him. And yes he will be happy for me I just am a girl and a bit sensitive.

ZeppsGirl Posted:

Re: Advice needed NWR

I dont think that I am going to invite him, zepp and I have spoken about it but i dont have him on my list yet.

ant n tilde Posted:

Re: Advice needed NWR

Posted by ZeppsGirl

I dont think that I am going to invite him, zepp and I have spoken about it but i dont have him on my list yet.


i have someone who thinks that he is invited and keeps asking me the date so he can come up from florida. . . i keep telling him i didnt book yet. . . feel bad, but i cant have him there you know? we are just friends of course but it would just be too odd. . . FH would probably have a heart failure
DavaDay Posted:

Re: Advice needed NWR

I had a similar situation, but with a guy friend of mine who I've been friends with since college. We never dated or anything, but we were really close friends for a while, and I always kind of considered him a 'back-up' when I was with my ex before FH, so you know, I have thought about it (ooh, that sounds terrible!). Anyway, I waited about 3 months to tell him - I don't know why, it was just weird to tell him. I didn't know how and was a total chicken and e-mailed him and wrote as if it had happened really recently. I forwarded him a bunch of pictures and acted really happy and excited. I haven't heard back from him yet.

Why am I telling you this? Sorry. Guess your situation brought out the need for me to tell my story.

Anyway, just tell him! It doesn't matter how, really, the end result is the same: you're getting married and are off the market, and that's what he will remember months/years from now, not how you told him.
ant n tilde Posted:

Re: Advice needed NWR

Posted by DavaDay


Why am I telling you this? Sorry. Guess your situation brought out the need for me to tell my story.




lol dont worry i thought the same thing after i posted
bettybcafe Posted:

Re: Advice needed NWR

Posted by Bride 2 Be

I would just tell him flat out..i don't know any other way around it..
I agree. Just say it.
Ilovebriani Posted:

Re: Advice needed NWR

awww...this is a tough one, but i agree with the rest of the girls. just come out and say it! and you ARE excited, so i wouldnt pretend like u arent...it will be hard, but this will help him to get over you (i know that sounds bad but u know what i mean....) i am sure he will realize u are happy and be happy for u.

SoontobeMrsH Posted:

Re: Advice needed NWR

Would you invite him to the wedding? Tell him as you feel it. He knows you were dating fh? Mention it the next time you speak or call him, and open w/ somthing to the effect of, Oh, guess what _(friend's name) (Fh's name)proposed ...

HTH
Kimbalina Posted:

Re: Advice needed NWR

Posted by LuvMyAlfonse

Posted by ZeppsGirl

do I say it like I am excited...or should I contain my self out of respoect for him?


say it like you're exited... you are! you don't have to rub it in though you know?

kind of like:

you: Hey Dave, what's going on?
him: not much, chillin'
you: what have you been up to?
him: not much - same old, same old. you?
you: Zepp and I got engaged so I've been swamped with wedding planning....
him: oh. (sadly, but then) that's great, I'm really happy for you. You really deserve the best.
you: thanks!


Or print this out and give it too him as a guide!

I had to do this, but the guy already knew....

Reply to this topic

Log in to reply or quote a post.