Advice w/poll (kinda long)

MyLobster Posted: Jun 28, 2007 06:34 PM

Advice w/poll (kinda long)

So my grandfather got the results of a CT scan today which shows he had a minor stroke (TIA) recently. He also has several ulcers which resulted in him losing 25 lbs very recently because he cannot eat. Needless to say he is not doing well. My studies have taught that these TIA's are precursors to more serious strokes. My grandmother is in HORRIBLE shape. Lost ability to walk, has only part of her jaw due to cancer. FH's grandfather is showing signs of aging as well at a rapid pace.

Now..we are considering moving the wedding up from Nov to maybe March so there is a better chance we can have our grandparents with us. We've booked our RH, Photo, Video and Band and I got my dress. Please be honest would you move the wedding up?

jjk1007 Posted: Jun 28, 2007 06:37 PM

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Honestly, yes, I would try and move it up. Family is very important to me and I would want them to be there. Even if it meant that we lost some money.

Im very sorry to hear that theyre not doing well....

chrispar Posted: Jun 28, 2007 06:39 PM

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Honestly coming from somewho who just lost her grandmother in March and wanted her to be there more then anything I would, but you have to do whats best for you guys. If you can do it then go for it. I hope everything turns out ok

AmandaLynn04 Posted: Jun 28, 2007 06:40 PM

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If you can manage it, absolutely.

Kimbalina Posted: Jun 28, 2007 06:41 PM

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If things can be moved with little loss then YES, I would move it

JACK808 Posted: Jun 28, 2007 06:43 PM

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I'm very sorry to hear about your grandparents. This a really hard question that only you and your FH can decide the answer to. I know where you are coming from, as my own father suffered a major stroke several years ago, and several other relatives are aging as well. But...in life, there are no guarantees. Just as there is the possibility that their health may deteriorate further, it is possible that it may get better or remain the same. If you really feel that you want to move your date up, by all means do so. But please do not feel guilty if you choose to keep your original date. What matters is your grandparents are here today and see that you have found your lifelong love, and that in itself is enough to make them truly happy.

DGoldfarb0776 Posted: Jun 28, 2007 06:56 PM

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If it can be done yes I would move up the wedding date.

Autumn08 Posted: Jun 28, 2007 07:56 PM

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FMIL is very sick and I asked FH what he thought we should do and we decided not to move the date up. But that's us and this is something you and FH must decide.

SeaMaiden Posted: Jun 28, 2007 08:01 PM

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i am very sorry to hear your situation. we are also trying to move the wedding up, for a bunch of reasons, but a big one is that we want the best chance for our grandparents to be there. if you can manage it, you should do it, not only because of your grandparents, but because who wouldnt want to get married sooner!?

bemyyoko Posted: Jun 28, 2007 08:41 PM

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if it can be done, absolutely.

angl2001 Posted: Jun 28, 2007 08:52 PM

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i voted yes......if you can afford to do it. You dont wanna go into your new lives in debt! if you can pay all your vendors off by then ....i say go for it!

alymikewedding08 Posted: Jun 28, 2007 08:54 PM

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I vote yes... family is just that important.. and not having them there wouldn't make your day as happy!

SoontobeMrsH Posted: Jun 28, 2007 09:03 PM

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Absolutly! I would move it up as far in advance as I could

katleigh3 Posted: Jun 28, 2007 09:12 PM

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Posted by JACK808

I'm very sorry to hear about your grandparents. This a really hard question that only you and your FH can decide the answer to. I know where you are coming from, as my own father suffered a major stroke several years ago, and several other relatives are aging as well. But...in life, there are no guarantees. Just as there is the possibility that their health may deteriorate further, it is possible that it may get better or remain the same. If you really feel that you want to move your date up, by all means do so. But please do not feel guilty if you choose to keep your original date. What matters is your grandparents are here today and see that you have found your lifelong love, and that in itself is enough to make them truly happy.

Wow...so beautifully put! I too am so sorry to hear about your grandparents. It is so difficult to watch the people you love get old and especially when they are sick. I truly think it is up to the both of you. I didn't even vote. I'll be sending good, happy thoughts their way.

Mizzdimple Posted: Jun 28, 2007 09:15 PM

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I would definatley do it, family is important..I wish my grandmother's were still here to be with me, it will be very hard for me when they are not ther.

MrsD71208 Posted: Jun 28, 2007 09:24 PM

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I voted yes...my Nana passed away last August and it kills me she won't be here for my wedding. We were really, really close and I'm glad she got to meet FH and made it clear that she LOVED him and knew he was the one for me. I know that she will be with us in her own way......I think that something like this requires the appropriate changes. I think that the places you booked will be helpful if you tell them your situation. Lots of luck. I'll be praying for you.

sassygirl9 Posted: Jun 29, 2007 08:53 AM

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if you can do it, you should. Both are my grandparents are dead and I wish I could have them there.

He would love that I'm sure

ILOVEBRIAN2008 Posted: Jun 29, 2007 09:04 AM

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i voted yes...if u can financially do it then i say go for it bc it sounds like family is important to u and you really want them to be there

KarinAmanda Posted: Jun 29, 2007 09:08 AM

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if it is doable - do it! i only have 1 of my 4 grandparents left (lucky FH has all 4) and my father passed also ...

that is the one thing I wish I could change - to have any of them there would be the best wedding gift EVER!!