Hi everyone I'm a regular poster on here and I'm embarrassed post this message under my name.
i had an ex bf i met in college - dated for a while and things were perfect- we parted ways amicably - mostly due to logistics and where we were in life- he was graduating- i was only a sophomore.
the breakup left me shattered. this ex treated me so well, was so selfless and just wonderful all around. no one could say a bad thing about him.
fast forward 5 years. after finally getting over him (pathetic, right?), im with my fh and things are decent. my family (still to this day) compares him to my ex, and my parents dont really LOVE my fh b/c of his money issues and overbearing family. also he has bedroom issues...
now, guess who is in my town, who i run into at work functions and who hangs in my circles- my ex.
im sick to my stomach - i am drawn to him and want his attention (he is single now) and i am even having thought in my head of calling off the engagement- and i have only just spoken to my ex- nothing more! i cant stop thinnking about him and there is no way to avoid not seeing him because he is around.
i cant tell if this is just jitters or of its real. im scared and losing sleep over this.
any advice needed. im scared about these feelings im having for my ex.
brideinapril
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There is really nothing to add as these ladies all gave you wonderful advice. I would seriously take a good hard look at your current relationship to see if this is really what you want because it sounds as though you might be settleing. You need to realize once your married theres no going back, unless of course you get a divorce. But who goes into a marriage unless they are 100% sure that this is the man for you? Best of luck in whatever your decision is.
SeptWed
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I agree with all of the advice posted BUT most importantly is to look at your FH and your relationship taking away the ex-factor. I can tell from your post that you are not 100% sure this is the right guy for you. Marriage does not make issues go away, if anything they make them a lot more apparent.
Think of it this way....if you call off the wedding to your fiance adn try to get back with your ex and he is not interested can you look at yourself and still believe in your heart you made the right decision? That is worse case scenerio that you have to be able to deal with should it happen.
From my situation, i see my long term ex boyfirned alot and also some guys that i have dated in the past since i have been dating my DH and NOT ONE time have i ever thought in my mind gosh, maybe i made a mistake, maybe i should call off my relationship with my DH and try and get back with any ex.
GOod luck in whatever you do. Just go with what you heart tells you.
