All women invited to wedding must be invited to bridal shower??

What are your thoughts on this?

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i think if you aren't having a big wedding and don't plan on inviting alot of people to the wedding, then you shouldn't invite them to a bridal shower. JMO

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I've been an invitee to showers for FH's friend's wives - if anything I find them uncomfortable b/c - I didn't even know anyone at the last one and I wasn't close with the bride... if anything it was more inconvenient than anything - it's not like FH was invited as well. If it wasn't for my association with him, I wouldn't even have known these people.

That's just my opinion. I am not planning on having every female on our guest list at my shower - just his mom and Godmother and otherwise my family and close friends.

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I've heard it said before, and I think it's the right thing to do, that you don't invite those to the bridal shower who are not invited to the wedding.

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i don't think every woman invited to the wedding has to be invited to the shower. i would keep it to family and your friends. i'm not inviting co-workers or FH's friends girlfriends (if we are not close), etc.

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Ididn't invite everybody to my bridal shower who have attended the wedding.

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Posted by gina&ken

i don't think every woman invited to the wedding has to be invited to the shower. i would keep it to family and your friends. i'm not inviting co-workers or FH's friends girlfriends (if we are not close), etc.

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Yes, but it is true that if you invite someone to the bridal shower they must be invited to the wedding.

JMO but I also feel bridal showers have become excessive. The last one I was invited to had almost 100 women there (last year). It was held at a restaurant/bar and there were so many gifts they needed to put them on the stage where the band played. I remember when most of my friends and family got married (pre 1995) most showers were about 30 women and held at someones house. I don't plan on inviting women I don't know, it's just asking for a gift.

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okay but how the heck do you decide on who to invite and who not to?? that's my dilemma!!!

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Posted by littlebookworm4

okay but how the heck do you decide on who to invite and who not to?? that's my dilemma!!!

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My mom asked me to give her a list of the women that I wanted her to invite.

Our side was simple. I only wish that I had invited my friend from Grad School. I didn't because she would have been the only one there, but in retrospect, she was the only one of the group to come to my wedding, so I'm sure she would have come to my shower, too.

for DH's side, I sat down with his mom and she just wanted me to have my mom invite EVERY woman. I got aggrevated because there were women that I had never met. So, I kept it to his close family only. But, again, there were more women that I should have added to the list. Like, the adult daughters of some of the women in DH's family.

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This was an issue for me too. I invited my immediate family and his immediate family, my close friends (i had many other acquaintences at our wedding that i did not invite to my shower) and some of my close guy friends wifes/girlfriends. The only reason i did that with them though is because we hang out with them a lot....

My mom and his mom invited their friends which i did not want but they did it anyway. It made things very awkward for me when i opened up their gifts and didn't even know who to look at to thank.

All the showers i have been too are my good friends. I have been to many weddings where i did not go to the shower.

I would invite your close friends, acquaintences that you might hang out with alot and family.

However, its your choice. Just remember that someone has to pay for the shower and you want to keep the list down if possible. That is why i actually cut some off of mine because my bridal party was paying for mine.

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IMO the shower is for only close family and friends of the bride.

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definately not!
I am inviting a lot of my father's co-workers, and my mothers - because they MUST be invited in the words of my mother, but I will definately not invite them to the shower. I don't really know them. It would be REALLY weird.

I think to the shower you only invite women that are close to you, that you want to be there celebrating with.

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No not necessary... The reverse actually you have to invite women to the wedding who were invited to the shower. The shower is usally a bit more intimate

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i didnt invite all the woman to my shower that were coming to the wedding simply for the fact that i wouldnt even know alot of them because they were friends of my dh or married to my dhs friends. i just invited the woman that were invited on my side and his family from his side and the wives of the guys in the bridal party.