ok kinda long vent.... Fh was dating a girl before me for 5yrs, was close with her family. when we got together he still talked to them etc... i really didnt care all that much...then they were invited to our babyshower...and i flipped i just thought it was very strange and made me uncomfortable. FMIL thought that it was no big deal and cant understand why this bothers me. After our daughter was born Fh went over their home and brought our daughter to visit, that was about the last time he had talked to them because we got into a big argument over it. I am sorry i just dont see the reason for this the relationship is over and there is no need for this. FH now respects my feeling s and has severed the relationship. FMIL still talks to this girls parents everyweek and tells them all about our lives etc....which makes me mad. So fmil called lastweek and said that they wanted to know where my Bridal shower wa, she told them it was in buffalo so they asked where we were registered so they could send a gift. its like hello MOVE ON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you would not be invited to my shower if it were on Li and i told Fh they are not invited to the wedding , does anyone else think this is strange or is it me?---sorry so long had to vent!!
Jackie&Justin
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No, it is not you...if Justin was talking to his ex I would FREAK out, I am a bit jealous....Tell Tom that if he respects you, he will not need to keep in contact with them...as far as your MIL, she is probably doing it to see your reaction, so ignore her!!!!! Do you two get along?
acre730
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I had a whole post like this awhile ago. Me not wanting one of FI's exes at wedding, FMIL insisting that she had to be there.... I tend to think that you are not overreacting because I tend to feel the same way as you. I know that there are people who totally would think that we are overreacting, but I know what makes me comfortable and for me if she was there I wouldnt be comfortable. Your FI, like mine, understands this so it shouldnt be a problem, but I do understand entirely how you feel...good luck
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no no the daughter his ex moved out like 4 yrs ago and is married with kids she dose not even live in this state...it is her parents . my Fmil is a B**** an dthat is it i think now that she knows it pi**** me off she does it all the more! God i cant stand that woman. Tom really has not talked to them he told me they are my past you are my future his mother just keeps on......why would they even want to be invited to MY shower? wierd
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Posted by acre730
I had a whole post like this awhile ago. Me not wanting one of FI's exes at wedding, FMIL insisting that she had to be there.... I tend to think that you are not overreacting because I tend to feel the same way as you. I know that there are people who totally would think that we are overreacting, but I know what makes me comfortable and for me if she was there I wouldnt be comfortable. Your FI, like mine, understands this so it shouldnt be a problem, but I do understand entirely how you feel...good luck
thank you !! i do remember your post and i responded the same way to it that you did to mine. All my friends and family think i am not crazy its just his mother and sisters ...whatever!!! thanks !!! lol
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It can go either way............................
You have moved on and so have they, it just so happens that they remained friends (the parents that is) I think they sincerely respect your relationship with you FH. I mean come one, you already have a child together and now you guys are making your family 'offical.'
I wouldn't worry about it. You have everything you want. They are no threat and seems like they only have good intentions.
On the bright side, right or wrong , your FH respected your opinion and severed the relationship. B/c your feelings and happiness come first.
Unless your FMIL is devious, I wouldn't worry about it.
Good luck with your wedding planning and you baby girl!!!!!!!!
tjs
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thank you very much!!!!
acre730
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Posted by Love_my_Freddybear
Unless your FMIL is devious, I wouldn't worry about it. QUOTE]
What if your FMIL is devious ...unfortunately she is...
tjs
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my lovely fmil takes any dig she can at me and trys to act klike she is the sweet innocent little martyr ....urgghhhh
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hmmm! that is very strange, I agree with you, time to move on.
I hope they don't think they're invited to the wedding. Talk about WEIRD!
This actually reminds me of a similar situation. my friend went out with this guy in HS for a long time, several years. he be-friended her parents, especially her dad. even after they broke up, he still kept in touch with them and my friend hated it.
My friend married someone else and so did he, but her parents went his wedding.
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What if your FMIL is devious ...unfortunately she is...
then I think her son needs to have a chat with her. It's his mom. And he should tell his mother how 'they' feel about her actions.
Otherwise, let it go and move on.
I also don't really think it's odd that people who knew each other for 5 years are still friends. It seems as though this goes 'beyond' the original relationship of both their children. The children have moved on. Where is the threat?
