My engagement party is this weekend. It's a luau in a backyard. It's going to be pretty big. One of my bridesmaids (and closet friend) originally told me she was going to be a little late. Someone in her boyfriends family is having a birthday party. Now, she sends me a message that she is going to be leaving the first party around 6-630. My party starts at two. So now she is going to be five hours late. I told her to call first because I dont know how late the party is going to be (most likely will be still going on though). So she said okay well if it's too late we'll just have to meet up so I can give you your gift.
I know she's making an effort and maybe I'm a littl selfish but I'm sort of annoyed that she isn't coming a little earlier or having her boyfriend go to his party and her come to mine. I'm not like ripping mad but I'm kind of hurt. Am I crazy?
mrsg2be11
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You're not. I'd be mad. How come she can't come by herself and have her bf meet up with her later on? It's not like its her family having the party
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You're not. I'd be mad. How come she can't come by herself and have her bf meet up with her later on? It's not like its her family having the party
I totally agree. She should definitely come to yours earlier, even if her and bf have to separate for a little while and take separate cars. Theres no reason she has to stay at that party for that long. She said yes to being a BM, this is what comes along with it. Hopefully she does the right thing when all the even bigger stuff is happening. Good luck, and whatever happens just make sure you enjoy your party no matter what!
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Are you crazy?! NO!!! She is one of your closest friends and she has to go to her boyfriend's family's party? This is your ENGAGEMENT PARTY and she is a BRIDESMAID!!! Did you ask try to talk to her about it? Maybe she needs to be reminded that this is kind of a big deal. I'm sure she would want you at hers.
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I'd be a little hurt as well. I can understand that she may have to attend this other party for a little bit but if I were her, I would leave the other party earlier then when she is planning.
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You are crazy.....for not being crazy upset! Why can't she take two cars to the party and then come to your party earlier! I'd be fuming!!!!
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If it were something else id say not to sweat it but its yoir engagament party ans you have 1 of those. Is this a big bday party like a catered special one?
I think she should go to both and spend a substantial amount at yours. Can you discuss it w your bms and maybe have one of them talk to her and ask her to make time so it doesnt sound like its coming from you?
meghan13
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Thanks girls. I don't really want to make a big deal of it, but I am upset about it. Part of me just hopes she comes around!
SoonToBeMrsFox
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i'd be upset too.
Im getting Married
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I would be upset but if she had her plans with her BF 1st then it might be hard for her to tell them she has to leave early
But if it was me I would definately either so to the other party later or leave earlier to come to yours
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IS SHE INSANE?!
I can see running late/leaving a little early if you are in the BP but choosing a party for someone's family that's not even her own???? She must have something wrong with her...
I would DEFINITELY say something. Sorry- I don't mean to get you more fired up than you may be LOL
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You're not. I'd be mad. How come she can't come by herself and have her bf meet up with her later on? It's not like its her family having the party
I totally agree. She should definitely come to yours earlier, even if her and bf have to separate for a little while and take separate cars. Theres no reason she has to stay at that party for that long. She said yes to being a BM, this is what comes along with it. Hopefully she does the right thing when all the even bigger stuff is happening. Good luck, and whatever happens just make sure you enjoy your party no matter what!
ITA--couldnt have said it better myself
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I totally agree with everyone. She agreed to be in your BP and this comes along with it. She should want to be there the whole time! There is no reason she and her BF can't split up for the day....
