Am I nuts. Repost from Parenting.....

Mike and I have not been trying. We aren't using anything either. We are kinda like if it happens it happens. The night of the wedding was when we threw everything away (sorry tmi).
Some of you may know that I am really considering moving to Florida. The only thing that thing that is keeping me here is my mom. I know I know that sounds NUTS. My mom and I are even close. Its just that my mom thinks Florida is where old people go to die. And a long time ago it might have been like that but its nut anymore. I don't want to move away from my mom and have kids and her not be able to see them whenever she wants. My brother lives there with his son and I see what my mom goes through not being able to see her grandson whenever she wants. The truth is If I goto Florida Mikes grandparents will either buy us a house or give us a nice chunk of change for a house. We are just making ends meet here. Living pay check to pay check (and borrowing money from the wedding fund ).

My mom can't retire for another 3 years. My aunt is moving (soon) and my dad is retired and ready to move to Florida.

I really feel Like im ready to move to Florida but not start a family without my mom (strictly because of not wanting to hurt my moms feelings).

Is it wrong that I am thinking of going on the pill for 2 and half 3 years because this is the time my mom will retire then and she will be able to spend time there. We would love to have a baby now. We have been together for 10 years and we are ready for the next stage of our lives. BUT My mom is really depressed with all the stuff with my brother and what not.

I DON'T KNOW I just can't stop thinking about Florida. I really think moving would be a better opportunity for us.

Well, it is very considerate of you to think of your mom in all of this but you guys have to REALLY think about this. You have to do what you feel is right between you and your husband. If you think that having a baby when you move to FL without having your mom there, maybe you will want to wait solely for the purpose of saving the aggravation and hurt feelings etc. You are still young so it won't hurt to wait, I dont think....but your marriage is between you and your DH. Your mom is a 3rd party. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but thats how I see it. My DH and I have gone through the same thing with our families always butting in, and finally we had to step back and say - this is what WE want and it is our decision. What does your mom do for a living? Is there anyway she would be able to move down there when you guys do?

I think you need to print that post out and hand it to your MOm and then sit and talk with her. She has lived her life, it is time for you to start yours. Sit and be honest with her, hopefully she will understand and you can come to some kind of resolution that makes everyone happy...or at least a little happy!
Good luck!

THANKS EVERYONE!!!! First let me say my Mom and I have talked about this (well not the baby making part) She says she would miss me and but Its not her life. She says it is so nice that I think of her but I have a husband know and its between us not her. So really she is a nice lady

Having said that Mike and I talked last night and I think we came to the conclusion that maybe would be better for us to wait to start a family until we are better financially and are in a house or closer to a house (which will most likely be florida)