AM I OVERREACTING??

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I bet you guys are extremely close... me and my sister are so close it's crazy and she acts the same way with me all the time about everything. I guess when your that close with someone sometimes you can act like that. I'm sure she will go with you. and she will be happy to give you her opinion. I can see why you are upset. I get so upset about everything... my hormones are nuts also...

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You are right, I should of said something to her right then and there but I was just kinda in shock that she said that and was like 'Ok well I better go because I'm driving' ... I am sure my mother will probably call her and tell her lol

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Awww that sucks!!! Hopefully there is a reason why she wants you to pick her up but the way she said it wasnt' nice regardless of why. Hopefully it works out!

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Well, it is disappointing that she can't be a little more accommodating. However, she didn't say she wouldn't go! If you really want her help, just go and pick her up. But, it sounds like to me, that you already have your mind made up, and don't really need a second opinion anyway.

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LovelyL: You are right.. my mom even said that.... No one is going to make my mind up for me .. but having someone else's insight is always helpful... instead of hearing every girl in the bridal shop tell you its gorgeous (of course they are going to say that lol)

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I think you're not overreacting. Does she not drive or does she have some practical reason why she wouldn't be able to get to the store on her own?

If she doesn't want to give her opinion or be involved, so be it. As the last of my friends and family to get married, I'm finding out really quick that everyone else feels 'beyond' the wedding thing. It's upsetting. You may want to let your sister know how you feel, though.

And, if you're looking for opinions, you can always find them here

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I know your pain. I thought my mom and sis would be so excited to go dress shopping with me and there I am trying on gowns on my one trip to NY and they are NO WHERE TO BE FOUND!!!! Where are they? Looking at dresses for themselves. Then they proceeded to get into a huge argument over my special brial shopping lunch! NOT my favorite day and I am extremely close to both of them. You are not overreacting believe me.

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Thanks everyone! She actually does drive which is why I was shocked when she said 'come get me and bring me there'.. just made me think that it was 'out of her way' to do this and it really hurt me. I am going to call her tomorrow and tell her she really hurt my feelings.. but in the end... I know am going to make the decision on my own about the dress, I just thought she would like to be included on it.. guess not! LOL

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i don't think you are overreacting - but I am very close with both my sisters and we can get very snippy with each other (she has hormones too!) depending on where they are at.

My questions: (note: I am not insinuating you are doing any of these things, or any are true - these are questions from my own experience with my sisters!)

What is her story?

Is your sister happily married?

Does your sister maybe feel like you are getting more attention than she did at her wedding? Spending more time with your mom?

I am learining that there are always bigger/other things going on with someone else who reacts way unenthusiasically about the wedding and this might be her subtle way of saying 'I need some attention too!'

...or she could just have PMS!

Good Luck - I love both maggie and Pronovias - whatever decision you make will be the right one!

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Where I do not think you are overreacting, being an excited bride, you were expecting your sister to act in the the same excited way! She is willing to go with you, why not keep the peace and make the dress shopping experience as happy as you can. Is it a real bother to pick her up? Try and make it a happy occassion even after how she made you feel. Maybe plan to go to lunch afterwards. I hope once she sees the dresses on you and gives her input, the conversation at lunch will hit the excited tone you are looking for.

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BunnyMonkey: She is def not a jealous person. I am not sure what her deal is though. I mean shes in her 40's and she is sooo happy with her life. The more I think about it, the more I think that maybe I AM overreacting.....

ugh im confused!

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Doodles: See thats the thing... I said to her 'I'll cook dinner one night and we can go' and she didn't sound too enthused... maybe I just caught her at a bad time... who knows.. I guess I'll call her tomorrow and see if something was wrong.

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Naturally I would have felt compelled to tell her to get off her a$$, but that's one sure way of getting into an argument.

In all honesty, I would speak to her in a very nice way, explaining how you feel and tell her how important her opinion is.

The crying is normal when overwhelmed, stressed, or pre menstrual. I would have cried too out of frustration. You probably did catch her at a bad time. Don't worry, everything always works itself out in the end