Am I selfish? (long)

I am feeling overwhelmed, because of many things happening (WR and NWR) and I'm wondering if I'm being selfish.......

A few weeks ago my BM dresses came in and the girls have had big problems with the 'measurements' being too big (They are all OOT and had to call in measurments.) I have hardly slept since they told me and the shop said they can alter them. (Again, they are all OOT) I remedied the situation by buying two more dresses, and everyone is exchanging amongst themselves, along with the new dresses. (That I am hoping come in in time)

Then my FI's aunt passed away. The entire family is close.

We got back from the funeral last night, and I received a call from the doctor that is not so good for me. (Nothing terminal, but not good)

Then today my SIL ends up in the ER because her ovarian cyst has grown to grapefruit proportions and they aren't sure if it is leaking.

I feel overwhelmed, but I feel awful that I am being overwhelmed. Has anyone just felt like screaming 'I CAN'T TAKE ANYMORE!!!' Who should I be concentrating on? I feel like I don't know what to do. Thanks for letting me vent.

You've just got a lot going on, and it's okay to be overwhelmed. Just remember to take care of yourself, and be there for your FH.

First off...I am so sorry about your FH's aunt

Secondly...I hope your SIL is okay

It sounds like you have alot going on and you have every right to want to scream 'Enough already, I can't take it anymore!!!' If you need to cry...cry. It sometimes hard to think positive at times like these...so I'll help you. If can't get any worse...it will get better. You can work through all of these feeling of sadness that you are feeling. But in the mean time here are a ton of hugs for you

ps, I hope whatever is going on with you personally is okay too

Oh my gosh, I don't even understand how you can think you're being selfish!!!!!!! So much has been thrown at you, and you have so many other things to deal with.

Listen, if you said that you told your SIL that she'd better get healthy again in time for your wedding so she can look good in pictures, I'd say you were being selfish. But feeling overwhelmed? That's a normal, natural reaction!!!!!!

Just remember:

'I know you can be overwhelmed, and I know you can be underwhelmed, but can you just be whelmed?

I think you can in Europe.'

You are not being selfish. There is only so much that a person can take and I don't know if I could handle all that. Right now I feel selfish for worrying about such petty things as compared to what you're going through. Hope things get better soon.

Your not selfish you have a lot going on

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Posted by PrincessRose


Listen, if you said that you told your SIL that she'd better get healthy again in time for your wedding so she can look good in pictures, I'd say you were being selfish. But feeling overwhelmed? That's a normal, natural reaction!!!!!!

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That made me laugh. Thanks! Unfortunately, I know brides that are like that.

i'm so sorry to hear that!


i hope things get better for you...and you are able to try and make it thru the holidays as best as you can.

Planning a wedding in it's own right is overwhelming enough. Throw in family issues (we ALL have them), the approaching holiday stress and your own health concerns (hope you're OK) and you've got a cocktail for a breakdown.

Try going and getting a massage, pedicure or facial. The time taken to recollect your thoughts is well-deserved and much needed.

It's all about how you handle the curve balls that life throws at you. I used to let a lot of things really get to me (and I still do sometimes), but I have learned that many people are all about themselves and you need to 'roll with the punches'.

You can either deal with the issues at hand by accepting them and handling them appropriately, or dwell in the misery. I think you know which is better....

Good Luck, and no, you aren't being selfish.

You are so not being selffish. You have had a lot come at you within a short period and you have every right to feel overwhelmed and like you need a break. Take a deep breath!!!! Your first concern needs to be your health right now. You can't help anyone else if you make yourself sick or don't take care of you. And I'm sure you are doing the best you can for your family and FI. I am so sorry you are going through this and I hope everything works out with your sister's health and FI's loss. Just take one day at a time.

no you are not being selfish at all. you just have a lot going on. 'they' (who ever these they people are, please identify yourself....) that getting married and moving are the two most stressful things in life.