Am I stupid for thinking this way?? (kinda long)

OK, so here is my long *** story....

Well I was hanging out with my friend Maria (she lives in NJ) this past weekend. We met up in the city for some drinks and som late lunch! We got to talking about me being engaged and if I set a date yet.

Now here is the thing- her boyfriend is in the Marine Corps just as my FI is. And that is how her and I met, through our men. They were both stationed in San Diego. However, her boyfriend is now stationed in Japan until May- and then he is done with the Marine Corps and gets to go home for good.

Now Maria was saying how she thinks her boyfriend might propose right after he gets home (hopefully within the first 3 months that he is home she said). And then they will get married within the year- like end of 2007 (like early or end of 2008).

But the thing is- I know for the fact!! that her boyfriend has cheated on her with 3 different girls while in San Diego. My FI even met the 3 different girls Maria's boyfriend slept with bec 2 of them were Marines (Females).

Now since I am already I feel kinda upset or angry that she might have her wedding before mine if she gets proposed to right after her bf comes home!! I mean I feel angry because he has cheated on her several times and I kinda feel I deserve to be married before them!! And I know my FI and I cannot get married before he gets out (which is in July 2008) because we both dont want the Marine Corps screwing up our plans since he might be deployed the last year he is in. And also, we kinda dont want a winter wedding so we chose May of 2009.

But anyway- am I wrong in feeling kinda angry and upset mostly because I know he treats her like crap by cheating on her!! lol I know I am prob silly= any one else feel this way ever...??

HEY! Well I know how u feel. Because I have felt this way before. But you have to look at their situation and then look at yours. Your man has been ginuine and hers untrue. Lets just hope their wedding gets over and done with in 07 and then everyone will forget about theirs and look forward to urs.

Remember ur taking ur time to have a good beautiful wedding. She's going to rush u know how bad rushing something is and what that leads to

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Posted by MillerFord742008

HEY! Well I know how u feel. Because I have felt this way before. But you have to look at their situation and then look at yours. Your man has been ginuine and hers untrue. Lets just hope their wedding gets over and done with in 07 and then everyone will forget about theirs and look forward to urs.

Remember ur taking ur time to have a good beautiful wedding. She's going to rush u know how bad rushing something is and what that leads to

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Thanks soo much!! I appreciate your advice. That is true what you said, I am definitely going to look at it the way you have said to look at it!

Its true like you said mine and FH relationship is so much more genuine then theirs and FH and I are actually saving money and giving ourselves time to have the wedding we feel we want!!

Thanks again!! I guess I just needed to vent

If anything, I would be worried about your friend. Do you want to see her actually MARRY a guy who is a low-life cheater? I know it's a hard situation but I don't know how I could live with knowing that and not telling her... perhaps you and FH can find a way to help her out of this dishonest relationship....

but if they do get married before you, it doesn't matter. everyone loves weddings and your day will be wonderful and special even if it is after hers!

GOOD LUCK!

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Posted by donegal419

If anything, I would be worried about your friend. Do you want to see her actually MARRY a guy who is a low-life cheater? I know it's a hard situation but I don't know how I could live with knowing that and not telling her... perhaps you and FH can find a way to help her out of this dishonest relationship....

but if they do get married before you, it doesn't matter. everyone loves weddings and your day will be wonderful and special even if it is after hers!

GOOD LUCK!

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Couldn't have said it better myself!!

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Posted by donegal419

If anything, I would be worried about your friend. Do you want to see her actually MARRY a guy who is a low-life cheater? I know it's a hard situation but I don't know how I could live with knowing that and not telling her... perhaps you and FH can find a way to help her out of this dishonest relationship....

but if they do get married before you, it doesn't matter. everyone loves weddings and your day will be wonderful and special even if it is after hers!

GOOD LUCK!

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I agree! I would probably say something to my friend if her b/f ever did that