Ok...at my e party (perhaps 6/2!) will be the first time our familes have really 'hung out' and mixed with one another....
My family is this big happy go lucky italian family. We love to party...they are not all thin and pretty, and some are not as well off as my immediate family. My other side is german and they just loooooooove to drink!
FHs family is totally different! They dont so eparties and they are uptight. Im horrified that they are going to look down on my family.
Did anyone else have this fear?
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I definately know where you are coming from. FH and I had the same fears. My family is just as down to earth as yours (if not more) and his family is very quiet, proper, and 'churchy' We were terriefied to even have our parents meet. we were together for 3 years before his mother finally went and introduced herself to my mom when she was at work! Needless to say, we have gotten them together, and don't get me wrong it is scary every time, but it always is great. they have fun together, and still can be themselves. I wouldn't worry about it. I got myself sick about it in the past, and now our parents get together on their own.
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and YAY!! you sorta picked an eparty date!
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Posted by madseason
Ok...at my e party (perhaps 6/2!) will be the first time our familes have really 'hung out' and mixed with one another....
My family is this big happy go lucky italian family. We love to party...they are not all thin and pretty, and some are not as well off as my immediate family. My other side is german and they just loooooooove to drink!
FHs family is totally different! They dont so eparties and they are uptight. Im horrified that they are going to look down on my family.
Did anyone else have this fear?
You know what, I kinda stressed out about how our 2 families would mesh together and then I just decided not to worry about it...You can't change the people in your family and he can't change his...just go with the flow and it will all work out fine....even if they hate each others guts. j/k
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Posted by truelove5803
I definately know where you are coming from. FH and I had the same fears. My family is just as down to earth as yours (if not more) and his family is very quiet, proper, and 'churchy' We were terriefied to even have our parents meet. we were together for 3 years before his mother finally went and introduced herself to my mom when she was at work! Needless to say, we have gotten them together, and don't get me wrong it is scary every time, but it always is great. they have fun together, and still can be themselves. I wouldn't worry about it. I got myself sick about it in the past, and now our parents get together on their own.
oh jess we have to get together!
3 years? try 6!!!!!!!! im mortified!!! I know his family is gonna talk about mine...but they r my family, regardless of how sloppy my aunt can be (she has a drug issue) or the weight of my other relatives (FHs mom is an herbalife dealer and frowns upon anyone who isnt on the 'product') or how drunk everyone is...i just cant relax aorund her..
Oh well, RIGHT? I feel better knowing im not the only one with this fear..
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oh jess we have to get together!
3 years? try 6!!!!!!!! im mortified!!! I know his family is gonna talk about mine...but they r my family, regardless of how sloppy my aunt can be (she has a drug issue) or the weight of my other relatives (FHs mom is an herbalife dealer and frowns upon anyone who isnt on the 'product') or how drunk everyone is...i just cant relax aorund her..
Oh well, RIGHT? I feel better knowing im not the only one with this fear..
I know! We definately have to get together! Did you find out about tomorrw? anyway, I wouldn't worry about it. I'll tell you some stories about the fears I had with our families meeting. FH's mom used to make you pray if you said crap in the house, and my mom says penis every other word at times....she says whats on her mind. I thought the seas would part when I got them together. But everything just seems to work out. They both love you and FH and though crap on what they think.
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OMG I know exactaly how you feel!!! FH's family are the drinking Germans too!!! ALL of them!!! My families idea of a good time is sitting around the dinner table talking... although FMIL (who is planning the e party) promised there will not be a keg there, I'm def. very nervous!! I love FH's family so much they are so much fun!!! I just hope they all get along!
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Thankfully...I don't have the fear. I do want to say though...family is family...his or yours. The good news is you guys are starting your own family. They don't have to 'like' eachother...but out of RESPECT for you and FH...they NEED to get along and co-exist for ALL of the wedding festivities!!!! ...and if anyone does anything to jeopardize any of your wedding planning...(eparty, batch party, shower...WEDDING). I will personally help you kick their a$$!
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excellently put! also, you can also threaten them with their future grandchildren if the 'act up'
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Oh I have that fear every day. Our parents havent even met yet since FHs parents live upstate. My dad is quite Italian as well, likes to be loud and have a good time and tends to throw around the F-bomb quite a bit. He also doesnt really think before he talks, so what comes out is either hysterical or highly offensive, depending on who he's talking to. FH's mom is a very quiet and very religious person, so Im afraid my dad is just going to offend her every way possible. Should be interesting when they finally meet. But like what everyone else says, family is family and they dont have a choice when it comes to getting along anymore!
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ugh i hate this part! my family is very quiet - english is not their first language so they can be very shy
FH's family is half Italian and half Irish - but they are all American - they like to party and are very loud.
My parents are also TWENTY years older than his!
whenever they have gotten together - his family has 'over compensated' in a way - always making sure that my parents are included in everything. . . my parents love it and think it is great . . but i am HORRIBLE i feel so embarrassed when they do that!!!
when they came to his HS grad party- everyone kept stealing my parents seats when they got up - so FH's family made these THRONES with tin foil and taped their names on the back of it!!!! My parents laughed but were a little shy about it - however, I cried in the bathroom ( no one knew) i know it sounds silly even when i think of it rationally but in the moment i just cant handle it!!!!
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I know how you feel. I didn't have a fear, but I was a little nervous for our e-party since it was the first time our extended families were meeting for the first time. Everything was great though and everyone mingled so well. I'm sure you'll be fine!
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Posted by Chanwich
My dad is quite Italian as well, likes to be loud and have a good time and tends to throw around the F-bomb quite a bit. He also doesnt really think before he talks, so what comes out is either hysterical or highly offensive, depending on who he's talking to.
Are we related??? thats my moms family....wow...
I guess I shouldnt be nervous, or my jitters are just normal. I just sit and watch FH's family just talk and talk and talk (ok its just his mom) like everyone is beneath her, shes always right, and i know that shes not going to 'approve' of my laid back, nutsy family. They have nothing in common.
I guess shell just have to get over it and so will I. Right???
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my fam and fh fam are pretty different but i think they will mesh well together. im not worried. but i can see why many girls would be.
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ughh yeah I am kinda fearing this at our e-party as well. I mean my parents have met some of FH's family...I mean of course they have met his parents since we have known each other for 14 years.
But all of Fh's immediate family is invited to the e-party as well as mine and they have never met so i am a little nervous. i mean there are definitely people on my side that love to party and drink and there are definitely some on FH side that are like that but I am still nervous it will be like a little seperate...and especially since i am not that close with FH's extended family besides one of his aunts and uncles and their children but the other aunts and uncles invited i only met like 4 times because they dont really get to come to too many things for some reason...idk its a weird situation with FH's side so i am nervous they wont even come as well...idk why i think that but we will see!! i hope they do!!
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Posted by madseason
Ok...at my e party (perhaps 6/2!) will be the first time our familes have really 'hung out' and mixed with one another....
My family is this big happy go lucky italian family. We love to party...they are not all thin and pretty, and some are not as well off as my immediate family. My other side is german and they just loooooooove to drink!
FHs family is totally different! They dont so eparties and they are uptight. Im horrified that they are going to look down on my family.
Did anyone else have this fear?
Your a lucky to have a fun family!! dont worry let them sit and stare while you all are having the best time of your life!!!enjoy!!!!
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whats really freaking me out is from FH;s side itll be his mom, dad, brother, maybe grandparents, and an aunt and uncle...thats it!!!! Then maybe 60 or so of my family members! AAAAAHHHHH!
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our families wont really mingle for the first time until the day before the wedding..and we are very diff from Fh family..im scared of the same thing..but at the same time both family are pretty messed up that it should work out just fine..lol
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our families wont really mingle for the first time until the day before the wedding..and we are very diff from Fh family..im scared of the same thing..but at the same time both family are pretty messed up that it should work out just fine..lol
thats why i love you dominique!!! I never thought about that!!!!!!
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i did bc my mom is overweight ( i dont ever see her as that but u kno what i mean)...and fh mom said negative things about women who are overweight (which hurts bc its not always someones fault. people need to be sensitive)
also...i was just worried that they would look down on my family and that my fam would be intimidated. my fam is much more fun and down to earth then fh's.
i LOVE my fam to death and think they are the life of the party, friendly funny and FUN! and luckily boths sides got a long great...thank the lordy..
