i obviously planned an Oct 09 wedding. My friend got engaged last night....shes planing an October 08 wedding....Im kinda bothered by it-am I wrong? or am I just being cranky? I don't want this to be a competition thing-Im worried shes gonna use the hall I booked to. She was just at a wedding there a while ago!
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yeah i think it would bother me too! Us brides are possesive over our months! HAHAHA But just do your best to help her out! Maybe you two can go to abridal showcase and you can steer her in a different direction of RH's
Just breathe....................they say when people copy off of you it's really the highest form of flattery!
HTH I feel your pain!
tricia3381
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i wouldn't worry about it. i mean shes a whole year before u. or is that whats bothering u? that shes getting married a year before u?
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Try not to worry about it too much, Just tell her your not comfortable with her having it at the same place as you and if you are not having the same guest attend the wedding then it will not be a big deal. Also help her out but, I wouldn't tell her any unique ideas that you may have for your day
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I dont think you're wrong. I went through that with FSIL who got engaged two months ago and is now getting married 8 months after FH and I. I kinda felt like she took away my shine, but if anything now you can do planning together!
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I would feel the same way too. Just take a deep breathe. If she does just talk to her b/cit might be a competition thing with her and she wants to be married b/4 you,
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I'd feel the exact same way!!! But at least it's spaced far enough apart.. people forget things in a year so I wouldnt worry too much but I still understand why you feel like that!
My moms good friends daughter got engaged like 2 months before me I think... And my mom was talkin to her mom saying how she thought about picking a LI place and having the ceremony there too... (I just have a feeling its going to be the same place I choose)... I got extremely heated because chances are her wedding will be the same yr as mine. And 2ndly she lives in the Bronx like I do so why is she thinking of LI also I have an excuse... FI and I both work out there
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I can see why that would upset you for sure. Unfortunately, there is not much you can really do. Make sure you remember weddings are not competitions! You are both two different people and will have two very different weddings even if theya re at the same place! COncentrate on making your day as special as it can be FOR YOU...and let her worry about her own day!
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on top of everything else I am having the worst day ever at work
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i can definitely see why you'd be upset by it,... but it is true... imitation is the sincerest form of flattery....
she knows that you have already booked that hall... so if she goes in there knowing you booked already, and still does it, i think you should take it as a very high complement meaning that you have fantastic taste in wedding dates and reception halls.
keep your chin up girl... you're still on top. :)
and if she signs up for liw we can just steer her in a different direction if youd like :)
what i wanna know is how the heck shes gonna plan a wedding in a year and 4 months... we all have like over 2 years and we're already stressing. lol
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I agree with everyone in seeing why you would be upset.... but I think it will pass.... I think you may have just needed to vent & you may feel better about it in a few days.... It will be a whole year before yours..... and remember when it's your special day, her wedding wont even be a thought in your head..... It will be all about you! So try to relax & take it day by day
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Don't even let it bother you...Ive had ppl get engaged after me and are getting married before me...I don't expect them to put their lives on hold for me and have to wait until they get married. When picking a date they do it for their own reasons.
Your wedding will be different from hers, and its a whole year later dont worry about it and dont let this bring you down
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umm...I dunno I wouldnt be bothered Weddings shouldnt be a compitition...I try to tell my mom that all the time
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i know. Thanks everyone! Im not telling her to sign up for liweddings.com. Thats the LAST thing I need! heheheh Im gonna tell her to go on the knot!!!! im sooo evil!
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I think i was just being b!tchy about the whole thing....im trying not to be selfish about it. I just know she likes to keep up with the jones's and im not like that-we're doing everything ourselves (FH and I) so pretty much as long as she doesnt do it at my RH im cool with that!
and by the way we share all the same friends!
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Posted by DonnaPWhite1124
I think i was just being b!tchy about the whole thing....im trying not to be selfish about it. I just know she likes to keep up with the jones's and im not like that-we're doing everything ourselves (FH and I) so pretty much as long as she doesnt do it at my RH im cool with that!
and by the way we share all the same friends!
we have had about 6 couples get engaged after us...and getting married before us. after about the 3rd couple it started to bother me, but now i am just learning from everything they are doing and not doing.
oh, and i feel the same way about the RH!! FH and everyone makes fun of me for caring about it, but I worked hard to pick out my RH and i want to be the first one to get married there. i totally dont care if anyone gets married there AFTER us, but i am bothered by the idea of someone getting married there before us. i probably am over reacting, but thats just the way i am lol
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Posted by DonnaPWhite1124
i know. Thanks everyone! Im not telling her to sign up for liweddings.com. Thats the LAST thing I need! heheheh Im gonna tell her to go on the knot!!!! im sooo evil!
that is hysterical !!!!!! First I want to say I would get mad if she booked my RH... but you know what dont let her in on any more of your ideas .. her wedding will come first but then you'll have a whole other year to top her wedding and add the things she did not !!! Dont get mad be happy she's having hers first ,... you can learn from her mistakes!!!!
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Posted by tricia3381
i wouldn't worry about it. i mean shes a whole year before u. or is that whats bothering u? that shes getting married a year before u?
I was thinking the same thing. I personally dont see anything wrong in it...
