An invite question that will make your head spin!
This is a long one (sorry). I have an interesting question. How do you ladies feel about inviting a married couple and you absolutely HATE the wife?
Here's the story as to why even I would use such strong language...
I never really liked her but I'll call her 'Nasty'. Nasty is married to my FH's childhood friend we'll call 'Underdog'. Well, Nasty is the type of woman who is VERY opinionated and is not open to those who disagree with her. Nasty and Underdog got married a few months ago and we never really saw a lot of them since I've been in the picture anyway - I've maybe had to tolerate them 3 or 4 times in 2 years. Underdog is a really, really nice guy! In the wedding program he made a special thank you to FH's parent's for being there for him and how he loved them like a second set of parents!
So, so far, no big deal, right. Well, around the time of their wedding FH and I got into a huge fight (this was months ago) and I stupidly threw my e-ring in his face and said some horrible things that I truly regret. Needless to say, FH decided to hold onto the jewelry for a bit to see if we can get through some issues mostly revolving around his ex who had been wreaking havoc and his son. Months later we had rebuilt and it was a matter of time before e-ring would be back on my little ring finger. In no time were doing great again (the power of love)! We had bought a house together months before the fight... please keep in mind that neither of us had move out of the house that both of our names are on during the rough times.
So a few months ago my FH's family threw my FFIL a surprise b-day party. FH and I were there and MY parents were there too (our family's get together with us regularly). Well, here's where the story gets interesting...
Nasty approached my FFIL and told him she'd love to set up FH with one of her friends!!!! My mother was within hearing range of this!!!! I thought it was INCREDIBLY disrespectful to me and even worse... to my family! She had no right to do such a thing. No one ever moved out, no formal announcement regarding the ending of the engagement had been made and by fact that we have the house, as far as my family is concerned that meant that the engagement was never completely broken (dollar for dollar a house is still worth more than most e-rings). My ring is beautiful and I did get it back 4th of July weekend... I whole heartedly regret the horrible things I said to FH, we did get engaged 5 months after we had met which with all the things we had going on may have been a bit premature for our situation... now it's been almost 2 years and despite all of our trials and tribulations we love eachother so much. I personally think we are stronger as a couple for having gone through a hard time. Sure being that he's a divorce and has a kid - that's rough, but the fight was about us, not about his past and we got through it. That makes me feel so good about us.
Now, I know that one day FH and I will have to finalize our invite list... I have a bad feeling this couple will be on the list. Now, the husband knows what his wife did and I have a hard time believing that he'd have the guts to show up at our wedding anyway, but I really don't want to see her face, and my mother... I cannot repeat on here what my mother said about her being at our wedding that my parent's are paying half for and we are paying the other half... FH's family - I am not expecting any contribution from. FFIL and I spoke about what Nasty did. He basically told me that they'd do anything for Underdog and they think Nasty is a piece of crap not worth getting upset about and in this family (the one I'm joining) we don't get upset about the stupidity of others - we're bigger than that. Basically, I'm supposed to get over it.
What would you guys do? Part of me thinks that if she actually showed up... nothing should give me greater vengence than making her watch me marry FH!
Here's the story as to why even I would use such strong language...
I never really liked her but I'll call her 'Nasty'. Nasty is married to my FH's childhood friend we'll call 'Underdog'. Well, Nasty is the type of woman who is VERY opinionated and is not open to those who disagree with her. Nasty and Underdog got married a few months ago and we never really saw a lot of them since I've been in the picture anyway - I've maybe had to tolerate them 3 or 4 times in 2 years. Underdog is a really, really nice guy! In the wedding program he made a special thank you to FH's parent's for being there for him and how he loved them like a second set of parents!
So, so far, no big deal, right. Well, around the time of their wedding FH and I got into a huge fight (this was months ago) and I stupidly threw my e-ring in his face and said some horrible things that I truly regret. Needless to say, FH decided to hold onto the jewelry for a bit to see if we can get through some issues mostly revolving around his ex who had been wreaking havoc and his son. Months later we had rebuilt and it was a matter of time before e-ring would be back on my little ring finger. In no time were doing great again (the power of love)! We had bought a house together months before the fight... please keep in mind that neither of us had move out of the house that both of our names are on during the rough times.
So a few months ago my FH's family threw my FFIL a surprise b-day party. FH and I were there and MY parents were there too (our family's get together with us regularly). Well, here's where the story gets interesting...
Nasty approached my FFIL and told him she'd love to set up FH with one of her friends!!!! My mother was within hearing range of this!!!! I thought it was INCREDIBLY disrespectful to me and even worse... to my family! She had no right to do such a thing. No one ever moved out, no formal announcement regarding the ending of the engagement had been made and by fact that we have the house, as far as my family is concerned that meant that the engagement was never completely broken (dollar for dollar a house is still worth more than most e-rings). My ring is beautiful and I did get it back 4th of July weekend... I whole heartedly regret the horrible things I said to FH, we did get engaged 5 months after we had met which with all the things we had going on may have been a bit premature for our situation... now it's been almost 2 years and despite all of our trials and tribulations we love eachother so much. I personally think we are stronger as a couple for having gone through a hard time. Sure being that he's a divorce and has a kid - that's rough, but the fight was about us, not about his past and we got through it. That makes me feel so good about us.
Now, I know that one day FH and I will have to finalize our invite list... I have a bad feeling this couple will be on the list. Now, the husband knows what his wife did and I have a hard time believing that he'd have the guts to show up at our wedding anyway, but I really don't want to see her face, and my mother... I cannot repeat on here what my mother said about her being at our wedding that my parent's are paying half for and we are paying the other half... FH's family - I am not expecting any contribution from. FFIL and I spoke about what Nasty did. He basically told me that they'd do anything for Underdog and they think Nasty is a piece of crap not worth getting upset about and in this family (the one I'm joining) we don't get upset about the stupidity of others - we're bigger than that. Basically, I'm supposed to get over it.
What would you guys do? Part of me thinks that if she actually showed up... nothing should give me greater vengence than making her watch me marry FH!
