Angry with church, need to vent!

I am livid right now and I really need to vent!!! This is going to be my second marriage, so I have been working on getting an annulment from the church for the past 7 months. When I started the whole process I was told that I would have to submit a statement(about 15 pages) and needed to have 3 witnesses also submit(lengthy)statements, then I would meet with a judge at the Tribunal who would decide if I got the annulment. After this, I might have to see a counselor, but it was not a big deal-they just want to make sure you're in the right frame of mind to get married again. I paid the $1,000, wrote my statement(going back to the day I was born basically), had 4(they increased it)witnesses submit statements(had to ask an aunt and uncle when it's really none of their business), met with the judge and got my letter that said my annulment was granted. The letter also said that I had to call this woman to arrange for the post-annulment counseling. I called the woman, who told me that MY FI and I need to go see(AND PAY) a therapist for 3-4 sessions. The therapist then has to write a report and send it to the Tribunal and THEN AND ONLY THEN will my annulment decree be released. From the way they made light of the counseling in the beginning, I figured that I would have to see someone else at the Trubunal one or two time tops(with no extra charge). My insurance doesn't cover therapy so it's going to cost me ANOTHER $300 to be allowed to get married in the church. It is like a slap in the face after the huge emotional strain of writing the statement and meeting with the judge. My annulment was GRANTED and I am being FORCED to see a therapist and pay more $ in order get the piece of paper. ARRRGGGGHHHH!!!!!!!!!

Don't Worry Be Happy!

I know you are angry but people nowadays get married & divorced too easily and unfortunatly you are having to pay for their mistakes. Please try to look at the good side of it, you got out of a bad marriage and found love again, some people don't even find love once in a lifetime. I know it is easy for me too say this because i'm not in your situation but I feel that everything happens for a reason:0)

Don`t Worry Be Happy!

Jenn, I can totally relate to your situation. That is one of the reasons we opted NOT to getmarrid in the Catholic Church..Always seems to point to the dollar sign

Angry with church, need to vent!/feel your pain

My FI and I have been also going to church every Tues night and every Sunday to get communion and confirmation in order for us to get married..We started in Oct! we thought it would end on the Easter virgil only to be told we can to come up until June, can you imagine? I muttered something under my breath about planning a wedding and the sister went on and on about how I 'need' to be ready and if I'm not then I shouldn't be there. I wanted to scream! making a commitment for twice a week I would think meant we wanted to be there. I am not knocking the church but it's so stressful what is required when we go to mass every Sunday and that's optional. Just take a deep breath and relax, I know you feeling like saying '%$%### it' like I did, but it will all be a memory. Good Luck.

Angry with church, need to vent!

Ask your church for a phone number for a therapist at the Catholic Learning Center. I think they tend to make it financially less burdensome.

Angry with church, need to vent!

Thank you all. I was sitting here at work with steam coming out of my ears. I needed to get my frustrations out.

Angry with church, need to vent!

That's why I Converted!!!!Ouch!!

Angry with church, need to vent!

sorry to hear that!