annoying guest wants me to hire a babysitter! help!!

ahhhhhh!!!

so.. at first we wanted a no kid wedding!! then, my fh's dad insisted on bringing his 5 year old grandson from florida, and fh was so excited that i decided to invite him as well as a few other kids from my side of the family to make it fair. i have a really annoying cousin that has a 5 year old and an 8 month old. before i even told her that i was inviting the 5 year old, i get an email asking if i was inviting him because 'he loves getting dressed up and would loves weddings'. so i reply that yes he is invited, but we are not having children under 5 years old.

now i get another email asking what she should do with her baby, if we are providing a babysitter because it would be rather expensive for her to hire one. i'm fuming.

my dad kept saying no kids specifically because of this cousin, and knew there was going to be a problem. i don't even want to tell him, i want to reply to her in the best way possible.

what would you say in response? thanks

OMG.....are you kidding me? I babysitter?! as if you werent spending enough money on the day as it is.

That just made me livid.

Oh wow! I'm sorry to hear your going through this. I would just be honest with her and say listen we're not planning on providing a babysitter. Due to us not having money in our budget to provide one for our guests. She should understand that you have enough to pay for, that you can't pay for someone to watch someone elses kids for them so they can have fun..

good Luck!

Tell her to umm go fuc.....well, nevermind.

No honestly, you can tell her NO in a nice way. For example:

Well I understand that a babysitter is expensive, I'm sure you can understand that a wedding is expensive too and although I would love to provide a babysitter, unfortunately that is not within my budget.

I hope you, as well as anyone else with small children, do not take great offense to our wishes for our wedding, as it is nothing personal against you or your children!!

We hope you understand and can still make it!!!



Kill 'em with kindness girl!

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Posted by Aristotelina

Tell her to umm go fuc.....well, nevermind.

No honestly, you can tell her NO in a nice way. For example:

Well I understand that a babysitter is expensive, I'm sure you can understand that a wedding is expensive too and although I would love to provide a babysitter, unfortunately that is not within my budget.

I hope you, as well as anyone else with small children, do not take great offense to our wishes for our wedding, as it is nothing personal against you or your children!!

We hope you understand and can still make it!!!



Kill 'em with kindness girl!

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This is a great, respectful, mature, adult, response although I would probably wind up going the first route with my response

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Posted by NikkiR515

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Posted by Aristotelina

Tell her to umm go fuc.....well, nevermind.

No honestly, you can tell her NO in a nice way. For example:

Well I understand that a babysitter is expensive, I'm sure you can understand that a wedding is expensive too and although I would love to provide a babysitter, unfortunately that is not within my budget.

I hope you, as well as anyone else with small children, do not take great offense to our wishes for our wedding, as it is nothing personal against you or your children!!

We hope you understand and can still make it!!!



Kill 'em with kindness girl!

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This is a great, respectful, mature, adult, response although I would probably wind up going the first route with my response

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Yeah, me too!!!

F THAT!!! That's just plain old rude
But I guess you can't just say that...

Stick to your guns girlie! Be kind, but stern!

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Posted by Aristotelina

Tell her to umm go fuc.....well, nevermind.

No honestly, you can tell her NO in a nice way. For example:

Well I understand that a babysitter is expensive, I'm sure you can understand that a wedding is expensive too and although I would love to provide a babysitter, unfortunately that is not within my budget.

I hope you, as well as anyone else with small children, do not take great offense to our wishes for our wedding, as it is nothing personal against you or your children!!

We hope you understand and can still make it!!!



Kill 'em with kindness girl!

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I like this but I would HAVE TO add:
...I would love to provide a babysitter, unfortunately that is not within my budget NOR OUR RESPONSIBILITY...

I would just have to put a zinger in.

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Posted by chadjennwedding

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Posted by Aristotelina

Tell her to umm go fuc.....well, nevermind.

No honestly, you can tell her NO in a nice way. For example:

Well I understand that a babysitter is expensive, I'm sure you can understand that a wedding is expensive too and although I would love to provide a babysitter, unfortunately that is not within my budget.

I hope you, as well as anyone else with small children, do not take great offense to our wishes for our wedding, as it is nothing personal against you or your children!!

We hope you understand and can still make it!!!



Kill 'em with kindness girl!

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I like this but I would HAVE TO add:
...I would love to provide a babysitter, unfortunately that is not within my budget NOR OUR RESPONSIBILITY...

I would just have to put a zinger in.

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YEAH, yeah..that's good!!!

thank you, i have to write a nice response respectfully. they are the kind of parents that bring so much attention to themselves and their kids, they totally made a mockery of my sisters sweet 16, changing diapers and disciplining their son in the middle of the dance floor screaming. i'm getting really nervous now about how they will act at the wedding, if even before the wedding they are causing problems.

thank you everyone though, i am gonna wait it out and respond tomorrow, that way i can sleep on it and calm my nerves!

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Posted by Aristotelina

Tell her to umm go fuc.....well, nevermind.

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exactly! hello, presumptuous much?

that is insane!!!!!! i cannot believe she said that

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Posted by dazey

thank you, i have to write a nice response respectfully. they are the kind of parents that bring so much attention to themselves and their kids, they totally made a mockery of my sisters sweet 16, changing diapers and disciplining their son in the middle of the dance floor screaming. i'm getting really nervous now about how they will act at the wedding, if even before the wedding they are causing problems.

thank you everyone though, i am gonna wait it out and respond tomorrow, that way i can sleep on it and calm my nerves!

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Warn the Maitre'd at your rh about them and they can quietly take care of any scenes.