annoying guest wants me to hire a babysitter! help!!
Original post by dazey
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ahhhhhh!!!
so.. at first we wanted a no kid wedding!! then, my fh's dad insisted on bringing his 5 year old grandson from florida, and fh was so excited that i decided to invite him as well as a few other kids from my side of the family to make it fair. i have a really annoying cousin that has a 5 year old and an 8 month old. before i even told her that i was inviting the 5 year old, i get an email asking if i was inviting him because 'he loves getting dressed up and would loves weddings'. so i reply that yes he is invited, but we are not having children under 5 years old.
now i get another email asking what she should do with her baby, if we are providing a babysitter because it would be rather expensive for her to hire one. i'm fuming.
my dad kept saying no kids specifically because of this cousin, and knew there was going to be a problem. i don't even want to tell him, i want to reply to her in the best way possible.
what would you say in response? thanks
kbond06
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wow when you thought you've heard it all... redic!
VickiR510
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u HAVE TO BE KIDDING ME? Does she know how absolutely expensive a freaking wedding is & how much more of an expense it is to YOU to hire a babysitter for her freakin kids??? This is why im having no kids at my wedding. They dont likeit dont come.
Make sure you email her the point that throwing a wedding is quite an expense & that you are sorry that extra expense of hiring a babysitter for 1 child just doesnt fit into your budget!
coldasice217
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I really hate people.
marriedinmontauk
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I would ask the hotel or catering hall for babysitter references...but let her pick up the tab if she wants one.
geegee827
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Posted by coldasice217
I really hate people.
Me too!
Jayla127
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Does she have all her marbles? She can't possible think that you are suppose to plan your wedding and find her a babysitter as well.
I would tell her that is 'HER' job to make accommodations for 'HER' child.
GT143EA
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I cannot believe that soemone would have the nerve to ask you to provide a babysitter for their kid on your wedding day!! This is just beyond me!!! I would just say that you cant afford to provide a sitter for her kid and that you totally understand if they cant make it.
megsher
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Give him a list of phone #s! I have been to a number of weddings that provided babysitting in the hotel where the wedding was. But that's pretty damn annoying to ask for it!
jennaandguy09
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That's ballsy and absolutely ridiculous. I would tell her simply that due to budget concerns there is no way that you and FH can provide a babysitter, that being said, maybe she'll do you guys a favor and not come!!! Good Luck!!
FinallyMrsB18
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'Um, yeah, my wedding is a hell of a lot more expensive than your flippin babysitter lady. You got beef? Eat a pork chop lady'
I think that covers it.
Sweeteey51
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Well what do you expect when you tell parents no children allowed? There not going to leave babies home alone, they would have to get a babysitter and it costs and maybe thats money they dont have. its a recession lol. But if shes asking you to pay for one then shes crazy.
dazey
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Posted by Sweeteey51
Well what do you expect when you tell parents no children allowed? There not going to leave babies home alone, they would have to get a babysitter and it costs and maybe thats money they dont have. its a recession lol. But if shes asking you to pay for one then shes crazy.
i totally understand what you're saying. and we are allowing children, just not infants!! i'm just gonna reply with a big fat.. NO we're not providing a babysitter.. and that's that, who knows! i know that attending weddings costs money and can be an inconvenience, but give me a break it's not my problem.. she doesn't have to come, or i'm sure she has a friend that can babysit for 7 hours..
Sweeteey51
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Oh she wants you to get one then shes out her mind. thats not your responsiblity.
HappyBride22
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All i can say is WOW Explain to her that if you did this for her you would have to do this for everyone else and that would cost too much. if you want to be real nice maybe help her find someone if she is from OOT, bu you don't e.ven have to do that
meli722
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how can she ask YOU what do do with her kid? its her kid not yours lmao
i would tell her i cant afford to hire HER KID a babysitter
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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I think people get spoiled when attending others weddings. She prob went to one or heard of 1 where the b&g paid for a sitter and expects it now
dazies1011
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Some people have nerve...I wouldnt do it but, I was asked to be the babysitter once. My mother's friend was willing to pay for my room, out of town wedding, as well as pay what ever I asked for. I just felt weird because it was 4 kids that I have never meet but, would have been nice money on my end I wouls say something to het that she would even want a stranger to watch her kids.
KerriJohnS
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OH MY... Look who it is! My favorite knome friend!
Uh.. but this situataion is soooooo rude! I just can't believe that people actually act this way. Its rediculous for her to expect you to pay for a babysitter. I mean if that was something you offered thats one thing..but for her to ask you... it's just plain rude. If you really dont want small kids then I say stick to it! If I had kids and I was invited to a wedding.. I would assume I am invited and not my kids... and I wouldn't ask you for a babysitter. That's just RUDE! Ugh! And it seems as though.. just because she is your cousin... she might think it's ok to be this way... but all tooo often family crosses boundaries that if they were just your friend they wouldnt do. I think you should just write back.. that originally you didn't want kids... and still dont.. but you are making certain exceptions.. but its up to the parent if they want to bring the kid and if they do then it's their responsibility to handle their kids if they are choosing to bring them as a guest. IMO. This was you aren't saying No I will not hire a babysitter... and you are letting it be their decision. Good Luck!
MaggieLuvsJoe
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I would tell her it's better that she stays home and watches her own kids bc you don't need extra stress from her and don't need to dish out extra money for someone to watch her kid.
The nerve of some people!
KerriJohnS
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Posted by dazey
Posted by Sweeteey51
Well what do you expect when you tell parents no children allowed? There not going to leave babies home alone, they would have to get a babysitter and it costs and maybe thats money they dont have. its a recession lol. But if shes asking you to pay for one then shes crazy.
i totally understand what you're saying. and we are allowing children, just not infants!! i'm just gonna reply with a big fat.. NO we're not providing a babysitter.. and that's that, who knows! i know that attending weddings costs money and can be an inconvenience, but give me a break it's not my problem.. she doesn't have to come, or i'm sure she has a friend that can babysit for 7 hours..
I agree with you! It isn't your problem... she should be honoredd and happy to be invited! You have extended her the invitation... what her personal situation is with kids.. well that's her situation. Imagine if for EVERY SINGLE guest we invite.. we have to make the arrangements for thier children.. what's next.. should we send a dinner home to all the kids too? I mean considering the parent wont be home to cook for them... this is just insanity to me! Yea it is an expense to attend a wedding... but that's part of what you take on when you RSVP with a YES! So these people choose to come to the wedding. Does this woman work? Who watches her kids then? I'm sure there must be someone in her inner circle who can babysit for the day. I mean lets be serious here. Babies really don't belong at a wedding... and who would truly have fun if they had to take care of their infant? Bottom line.. her kid.. her responsibility. Not yours!
