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I have this one aunt who just cant understand why her kids cant bring their girlfriends/boyfriends. Granted my cousins are in their 20's and still living at home. Im sure everyone else would invite them with a guest but I just cant financially. I have never met my cousins boyfriend/girlfriends, I dont even know their names. My aunt says, 'Why cant they come? Your boyfriend doesnt have a lot of family' I WAS FURIOUS AT THIS COMMENT. She knows his parents are dead. How can she say this??? Then she says to cut out some of our friends and she ends our convo with, 'Well if they cant bring their SO's then I doubt theyll come so Im just gonna RSVP for me and your uncle' I dismissed her and walked away. I cant believe that my family cant understand that I CANT AFFORD to invite people I dont know. And honestly, if my cousins choose not to come to my wedding because they cant bring their SO's then I dont want them coming anyway. Im not throwing a fcukin party. They should want to come to be with me on my special day. And please dont reply with, 'everyone should be invited with a guest' cause obviously I CANNOT do that. Im not trying to be a b itch. I went to Philly to spend time with my fam and I have to deal with this. Ugh. Sorry so long, I had to get this off my chest.
when you are paying for your own wedding everything you do is your choice, If people can't understant that u can't afford it then they don't belong at YOUR wedding.
im glad u posted this because ive been going back and forth on deciding to let my cousins (25 + 22 that still live with their parents) bring their girlfriends or not. i cant really afford to and i feel kinda bad but what can ya do?
It's a hard situation, but bottom line is......you can't go bankrupt inviting + 1's, because you still have a life to live after the wedding. It's a shame that your aunt doesn't realize that. You know what you can and can't afford....if you really can't afford the +1's, don't invite them......if your cousins won't come because of it, it's their loss for missing out on such a beautiful event.
People like her tick me off too. Just wait until her kids get married. Say everything you want then!
people are going to say things no matter what (you can not please them all) just remember it is your special day and you do what you can afford & what makes you & Fh happy
Posted by BoxOfRocks
I agree with bluegreen08. Wise words!
It sounds like the aunt and cousins don't know about the financial constraints. Why not explain the situation to them open and honestly? I agree your aunt shouldn't have just dropped that comment in your lap, though.
