My mom is a huge part of my life but not part of the wedding process at all! She is very happy for us but she is not into weddings - she has her reasons and I completely get it. I'll call her to tell her little things and she'll be like 'oh good' and then she moves onto telling me about something the cats did When I want/need that 'excited' reaction, I'll call grandma and she never lets me down!
That is such a great idea! i never get any excitement out of her, she is always so deadpan, but grandma is great...
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My mom is a huge part of my life but not part of the wedding process at all! She is very happy for us but she is not into weddings - she has her reasons and I completely get it. I'll call her to tell her little things and she'll be like 'oh good' and then she moves onto telling me about something the cats did When I want/need that 'excited' reaction, I'll call grandma and she never lets me down!
Sounds All Too Familiar! Ditto!
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My mom is a huge part of my life but not part of the wedding process at all! She is very happy for us but she is not into weddings - she has her reasons and I completely get it. I'll call her to tell her little things and she'll be like 'oh good' and then she moves onto telling me about something the cats did When I want/need that 'excited' reaction, I'll call grandma and she never lets me down!
That is such a great idea! i never get any excitement out of her, she is always so deadpan, but grandma is great...
Grandmas are the BEST!
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my mom is not with us, so she's not part of the planning process, but i really wish she could be
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I think LIW became so important to me because it filled in that mom gap
wow i feel the same way LIweddings
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well, she's a part of my life.. but i rather have her not being part of the 'help' i think it takes out some stress :)
I'm so glad you posted this, because this is exactly how I feel.
My mom causes me such stress about things, I don't know why and I don't know how to get her to stop it.
I love her and respect her, but oh my god she can make me crazy!
That is my dad! It is hard to take. He is the most negative person I know and often brings a toxic vibe to things...
That sounds like my dad a bit. Although he really likes my fiancee and is happy that I'm happy. When i told him he proposed his first words were, 'well you're not having a big wedding are you, thats a waste!!' He also told my sister that he's not helping with the wedding because he gave me $$ for my first wedding. (he gave us a small amount and it wasn't even a big wedding). My mother on the other hand...has nothing and has already bought my dress, gave me some $$ and gives more here and there when she can. That's the difference between them and is probably why they aren't together anymore. It's not even about the money..it about the moral support.. i just wanted to hear something else besides 'why are you having a big wedding?? what a waste' THANKS!!! I almost feel as though having him walk me down the aisle and dance with me will be fake since his heart isn't in this...
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YEP. That's me.
Me too. It made me feel funny sometimes when I would read all the posts about everyone's mom being so helpful. I would love to have a mother like that!!! My mother is a very toxic person and didn't play a part in my planning at all.
Wow , it is trully comforting that other future brides are dealing with the same thing I am. I mean it is sad, whatever the circumstances. My mother is not a part my life.. She is a bit of a wackco, If you mean that you are estranged from her then i know what you are feeling. Wedding are for the parents as well and well although my father is GREAT not much of a planner. It feels bit weird and some people don't understand but If your FMIL is cool , I have seen mine seem to feel as though she need to fill that role, so it has brought us closer.In the end I remind myself that those who care about me and I care about will be there for me on My Special Day!
Good luck to all
I totally hear you...my MIL and SIL have filled the gap for me a little because they were excited and wanted to be in on all the details.
