Posted by Greeneyes8705
I wouldn't get one. FYI, inheritance is not up for grabs during a divorce. Whoever inherits the money keeps it.
This is not necessarily true. If you inherit money during the marriage and deposit that money into a joint account, it may be considered joint property (to be divided among you and your spouse). If you keep the inheritance separate, then the law considers it separate property.
I don't know. I've always heard that any inheritance money was not up for grabs.
This is true. Once it becomes joint, its just that...joint.
I am sooo surprised by what I am reading,most of these responses have brought tears to my eyes. I understand lots of you are not married yet and are still blinded by bliss ..but for the lawyers here..what a surprise!
I agree that a prenup is not needed in every case but to be so naive as to think 'it can never happen to me' well, live & learn.
Let me tell you about my ex-husband..we were also very much in love,we had a son together and then.. things went sour. Lets just say he became another person totally! Not only was I surprised but my whole family was in disbelief. My family was very generous to us,especially when their first grandchild was born. We have a family run business and things were very lucrative..I ( & only I) worked very hard with my parents...they rewarded me with giving me $$ to buy a house. The house was only in my name,but that didn't protect me( acquired during duration of marriage) thank GOD I signed a waiver by the urging of my lawyer that I owed my parents Xamount of $$$,just as a precaution. My parents would never ask me to pay-up so I new I was only signing it to give my parents piece of mind. My ex never knew of it since it was between my parents & myself. It was notorized & I never thought much of it. Anyway.. like I said,things went bad. When I was married I was naive & never in my wildest dreams thought I'd be a statistic..also I was just finishing school & also could have no way of knowing 'properties' I would one day have. By the time we were in mediation he wanted EVERYTHING. Wanted me to sell the house my parents bought ( they rather gave me the $$ while they were alive than rather as an inheritance later) actually told me that 'OUR' son & myself can go live in a basement for all he cared...did I mention that he was having an affair? You girls would be surprised by the power of pu$$*. He ended up cleaning out bank accounts (because they were joint) maxing out CC ( I ended up paying off because it ruined my credit) took a car I bought because 'it was aquired during the marriage'..it was beyond bitter. He didn't get the house because that little piece of paper that I was actually mad at my parents & lawyer for even suggesting..saved me!
Now,sorry it got sooooo personal but many of you need a wake-up call. God forbid this was to be YOUR situation but.. they say 1 in 2 right? If its not you,it'll be someone you know. Pre-nups are not evil,they do not 'doom' a marriage... why don't you think of it as 'we have this agreement but we are confident that we will NEVER need it' & then put it away. If you don't care about yourself..then think of it as protecting your future children.
Last year I got remarried,I absolutely adore my husband & he truely is my soulmate. But,we have a pre-nup. At 32 & 36 we each have assets to protect,God forbid something happens to me,I have a child to protect.
Like I said,I trust & love my husband and feel I will never have to enforce this paper..but..never say never. My ex wanted a piece of the action,a house and business he never invested a dime in..things my parents worked hard for. I'm not morbid & negative thinking this will be your reality,just not naive.
Good Luck & God Bless you all.
Sorry if I got too personal..but I don't want any of you to suffer.
