Anybody up yet? What do you think of this....

FI niece's b-day is coming up. FMIL sends us both a nice long email detailing all 'permissible' or 'acceptable' gifts for the little angel, including types of clothing (elastic band waist pants only, no snaps or buttons) sizes, which books, which toys, etc, etc. We did not ASK for any of this info, by the way, b/c NiecesMom already sent us an email weeks ago with the kid's amazon.com wishlist. This kid is basically REGISTERED for her b-day and she's gonna be 3!

Then she mentions that NiecesMom and NiecesDad are discussing Christmas and THAT list will follow soon. CHRISTMAS?!? Already?? OMG.

Now, I know she means well, but come on... isn't this a little much? This is going to be our flower girl though she doesn't know it yet and neither do her parents. Stuff like this makes me scared to ask!!! Should I reconsider that? I think I might be in for quite a NIGHTMARE...

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Wow, that's crazy. Poor little girl is going to get so used to the idea of always getting exactly what she wants that I hope she doesn't grow up to expect the same. Some parents have really gone overboard in making sure that they are in control of everything when it comes to their children but I think that this may be a little much. As far as her being your flower girl, I can understand why you would be hesitant. I can forsee problems with picking out a dress that both you and her parents agree on that is suitable. You probably won't find a dress that doesn't at least snap or zipper. But, if this little girl is special to you and your fiance and you want to have her as part of your big day, well, I understand that to. It is really a judgement call on your part but I definately see why you are concerned. If you and your fiance are really close to this child and you couldn't see your wedding without her being a part of it, than I would still put her in and deal with the possible agony later.

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That is so outrageous, I don't know what to say. They are going to raise such a spoiled, ungrateful child at the rate they are going. I would be extremely hesitant to put this child in the wedding. Her parents will expect to control everything. I wouldn't say don't do it. If its important to you and you're okay with the agravation that's coming, than go ahead.

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I am shocked and amazed at this...how absolutely ridiculous...I have never heard of such a thing in all of my life!!!!

But, to reconsider having this girl be your flowergirl is going to be entirely up to you...it looks like if and when you ask, you're going to have her mother to answer to (not that that is right...but just from this I gather she is pretty bossy).

Good Luck!

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My FBIL and FSIL did this last year for Christmas. In a way, I think they're trying to make it easier for 'the buyer' and themselves (so they don't have returns) BUT I thought it was kinda rude. IMO

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thats crazy!!!

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OMG...and I thought my FSIL was bad when she verbally says what she would like for her kids. but I never for a list from her. That is bad. a gift is just that....a gift!!!! I can't beleive people have the balls to register for a 3 year old! That really ****es me off, when people do not appreciate a gift!!!!!!

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Well,

My mom still kinda does this with my Aunts and Uncles - tells them what to get me for Chanukah/Birthday, etc. I don't really like the idea, to be honest. This year, since we're engaged, she's asking me what she should tell Aunt Lynne what to get me off the registry! I have, of course, told mom to chill and let Aunt Lynne get me what she wants to get me.

As for me, I'm an only child, and a product of this gift behavior, and I don't really think I'm that spoiled. My mom DOES like to buy me stuff (I have to tell her to leave something on the registry for the other gifts), but there are few people who would say that I am spoiled (ask my Bridesmaids!).

I don't know that this little girl is spoiled already, because she may or may not know about this gift requesting behavior. I would sit down with the parents and lay out the rules.