Anyone did/ will not do the bok/garter toss?

Original post by hogie2be

Apr 29, 2008 11:01 PM

I will only have a few singles there and it seems as though most people are shy and must be dragged out. Shouldn't I just skip it and spare them??

jaep129 Posted: Apr 30, 2008 08:56 AM

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Posted by DavaDay

Spare them. Please.

At every wedding I've been to when the bride throws her bouquet (only 2 or 3 out of the last 12 I've been to), no one wants to catch it and it just plops down on the floor. It's kind of embarrassing, so the first time, I picked it up, and everyone cheered, 'Yay! You caught it!' So I was put through the whole garter nonsense (I had never seen it before and it was a total shock) and I was horrified. I find it humiliating and kind of sexist, actually, to have a bunch of girls fight for the right to be married off next. and then to have some stranger put his hand up a girl's leg.

Must agree!

MrsInglima Posted: Apr 30, 2008 10:07 AM

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I'm not doing one. We just think it's kind of dumb, and a little bit embarrassing for me while FH sticks his hand up my dress in front of my grandparents which cheesey music playing in the background? No thanks!

nicopico13 Posted: Apr 30, 2008 10:26 AM

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The more I thought about it the less I wanted to do the whole Bo-k garter thing. We were planning on doing an Anniversary dance for our grandparents, but my grandpa passed away this past August and FH's grandpa recently passed away so I don't know now! Maybe we can have Bo-k's made for the grandmas....

soon2bmrsdunn Posted: Apr 30, 2008 10:28 AM

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We did the anniversary dance instead but I also gave my MOH the actaul toss Bok. I really wanted her to have it!

snowcutie82 Posted: Apr 30, 2008 10:31 AM

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we're not doing it. the last wedding where it was done...no one wanted to go out...they had to drag the guys for the garter cuz there weren't enough ppl.

and the other few weddings - they just skipped it completely. i dont think anyone cared or noticed...and it just meant more dancing

KickinDandelions Posted: Apr 30, 2008 12:42 PM

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i skipped the garter toss and bouquet toss...no one seemed to miss it, and everyone had such a great time dancing that it would have ruined the flow of the evening..

deb08 Posted: Apr 30, 2008 12:52 PM

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I think we are going to pass also- only 1 or two people not going to be married SO why bother- think we will go a anniversary dance and give the toss away bk to longest married couple.

DGoldfarb0776 Posted: Apr 30, 2008 01:24 PM

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I did both and they had fun with it.

One bride (on the 08 boards) instead of doing the bo-k toss just gave each single female a rose... they didn't do the garter toss.

That's an idea if you don't have many single people there.

vicky1125 Posted: Apr 30, 2008 01:43 PM

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I also won't be having many single people if any at all so I will be skipping those.

CloudNine Posted: Apr 30, 2008 07:13 PM

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im skipping the garter and bo-k toss..i dont lik ethe hwole idea, think its kinda tacky. i think we're gonna do the anniversary dance instead

CristinanBen2010 Posted: Apr 30, 2008 07:40 PM

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Im skipping both, I feel like no one ever wants to go up anyway, I rather have everyone dancing all night instead of taking a break for this. I actually have seen the bok toss after the ceremony at church and I liked the idea, Im not sure if I would do that though

CristinanBen2010 Posted: Apr 30, 2008 07:41 PM

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Can someone tell me what the annversary dance is? I never heard of it,

ace730 Posted: Apr 30, 2008 08:21 PM

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Posted by CristinanBen2010

Can someone tell me what the annversary dance is? I never heard of it,

Not sure what this is either??

Also I am not having the garter toss. I am not having my FH put his hand up my dress in front of all of our guests, lol!

hogie2be Posted: Apr 30, 2008 09:45 PM

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I absolutely want more dancing and I'm not doing it. Thanks all!!

PegaLega Posted: May 01, 2008 12:10 AM

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Posted by CristinanBen2010

Can someone tell me what the annversary dance is? I never heard of it,

All married couples come up and dance and they call off years of marriage-the couple married the longest gets the bok and a gift from the B&G

We did just the bok toss-the girls loved it since a few were engaged-and others in long relationships.

JenNDan07 Posted: May 01, 2008 01:04 AM

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We didn't do either. We gave the tossing bok to my aunt and uncle who had just celebrated their 20 year anniversary 3 days earlier. We surprised them by calling them to the dance floor to dance to their wedding song.

kewlpuff Posted: May 01, 2008 12:14 PM

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i'm not doing either. i read of a really nice alternative on another forum. basically the couple gave the bouquet and garter to honor the longest married couple at their wedding. it was really sweet

Augustbride08 Posted: May 01, 2008 12:20 PM

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I'm not doing it. I hate having to participate in it at other weddings so I won't put others through it. Plus we aren't having that many single people at the wedding. We are going to do the Bouquet dance for the married couples. Who ever is married the longest gets it. It is going to be my grandparents. They will be married 50 years to the day.

ValnChris Posted: May 01, 2008 02:34 PM

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Posted by sparklycat

I want to do both, but I do NOT want to do the hand up the strangers skirt thing. Does anyone know of any alternatives?

me too, I wnat to keep my garter somehow..

SoonToBeMrsBrady Posted: May 01, 2008 03:15 PM

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Posted by MrsInglima

I'm not doing one. We just think it's kind of dumb, and a little bit embarrassing for me while FH sticks his hand up my dress in front of my grandparents which cheesey music playing in the background? No thanks!

I hear ya! And I am NOT giving away my beautiful bouquet either.