Re: Anyone feel like FH doesnt help with ANY of the planning?

I have to admit FH is pretty good about it when I need him to do something. But bc he works nights I end up doing a lot of things with my mom and so he isn't as involved as I'd like him to be. This is his 2nd marriage so he really doesn't care about the wedding so much, he's only doing this bc it's what I want. I'm not upset, it gives my mom and I something to do together.

I wanted him to pick the DJ, so he did. Then I wanted him to plan our HM, so he took care of that too. We registered a little together but then I went back w/out him and finished it. He took the initiative to take care of the tuxes and when we were looking at w-rings and meeting with our officiant he was right there with me.

Everything else I research and present to him and get his approval, he cares about some things more than others. I wish he was able to go to showcases with me, but I have to say all in all that I'm pretty lucky!!

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I am right there with you!!! I feel like I've done all of the planning and when I ask him to do things with me he complains the whole time. THEN, he tells me that he feels like I don't include him!! I FLIPPED OUT on him when he said that!!!! And when I tell him I feel like I am doing it alone, he tells me that 'I am better at these things and he trusts my opinions on things'..ERRGGG!!!!

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FH has no idea what is happening with this wedding. I havent asked him to do one thing. I think its better that I dont ask, because he wont get it.

Re: Anyone feel like FH doesnt help with ANY of the planning?

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Posted by Katie&Chris2006

I have the opposite problem. I have an official groomzilla on my hands!!!! As much as I think it is adorable that my FH wants to be so involved, some things I wish I could just decide on and move on. He cares about EVERY detail, appointment, etc.!!!!

It's very sweet...but I tell him it's like two brides planning this thing!

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HYSTERICAL.....I am in the same exact position.

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I'm glad I'm not the only one!!!!

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i prefer it that way! Besides does he really know the difference between dendrobium orchids and cymbidium orchids? only thing he has left 'to do' is show up at the church...and so help me...he better not 'F' that one up!!!

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Thanks so much for the support girls! Im glad I'm not the only who has a FH not interested in making 'wedding plans' his priority.

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I agree, but I love it. I WANT to do it all.
But I could do with out the sudden opinions AFTER I make a decision.
But that always ends with- 'If you had an opinion, you should have voiced it when I asked.'

ETS- He has been working his butt offf in OT to pay for it though.
Men help in their own ways.

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no he doesn't do anything. the funniest is that he is like, oh this is not stressful at all. I'm like, it's because you are not doing anything!

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Yeah, he doesn't help, but then when I make a decision he doesn't like, oh boy watch out!! Then, I'm like 'Well you weren't interested before!' Drives me crazy!

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Posted by VadersBride2006

Yeah, he doesn't help, but then when I make a decision he doesn't like, oh boy watch out!! Then, I'm like 'Well you weren't interested before!' Drives me crazy!

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I hear that!!!!!!

FH said something about the wedding (I can't recall as of right now) but I flipped and told him, 'I'll give him my planner with all the vendors info and all the deposits made and he can take care of everything.'
You should have seen how fast he changed his tune.
That drives me crazy too!!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by shellnroc

Yes, sometimes I feel like this too!!!

When I ask him to do something it never gets done. So, I just do it myself!

He still has not gone down for his tux. I have to push him to do this too.

All, I can say is THANK GOD for my MOM. She is truly a blessing and helped me a Great Deal!!!

I feel your pain!!!


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YES!! Tuxes are another issue with us as well. I like getting things done early and he thinks its rediculous that I am asking him to go do the tuxes now (wedding is less than 3 months away). His ONE job and I'm sure it will be the week before.

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I like getting stuff done early too.
Done and out of the way!!!

Hopefully, we will be going soon. Noticed how I said, 'WE'!!!!!!!!!!!

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Don't feel so bad... just remember Men are from Mars....

My FI is a wonderful guy and I love him, but he's had practically no invovlvement in the wedding plan-et and the few times he has, he's sort of freaked out. I'm okay doing most of the leg work and have him be the fun, sweet, warm man as opposed to the monster he becomes when I try to have him help out.

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The only thing he cared about doing was the honeymoon. Other than that, my mom and i do most of the work. He tells me to do whatever makes me happy, cant even get a straight answer for our first dance song