anyone have issues w/ exes?? VERY VERY LONG

i don't know what it is about our exes (had a problem with mine at my eng party) but FH's ex was so psycotic ever since we started dating. it's a long story but she called him at weird hours of the night knowing i was there and had her friends call too and she'd write emails to him about how much she loves him and she even called his brother and a couple of his friends to try to get them to get FH to break up with me (when we were dating). then we get engaged and her mom (who was friends with FH's mom) flips out and screams at her, slamming on the dashboard of the car. anyway, that was in dec. i thought this was over - there is more to the story- but it's too long to get into.

anyway, FH got an email at his work account yesterday from her after all these months.

i need to vent so i'm attaching it - subject is 'overtures of reconciliation'

Oh, I know, if you're even reading this at all, you are cringing to
hear
from me, the enemy. I don't know how I came to bear that role, but so I
have. In writing you, I am not trying to interfere with your new life.
But
our lives have been so intertwined that I find, even now, that I am
haunted
by the ending we found. I think you hate me because you feel guilty
about
things, and because J has such vehement lashings-out when I pop into
the
picture. What she doesn't understand is that I wasn't just some girl
you
dated. Or maybe she does understand it, and that's why she loathes me
so.
But you see, she overlapped my time. I never got to say goodbye, never
got
to grieve my loss of my friend. She staked claim before I should
have
been gone. It hurts me so to be discarded like that. After all, I loved
you
thoroughly. And you loved me. We will always be that boy and girl who
discovered love together, no matter where we go from there. I'm not
asking
you for much. I just want a real goodbye. A face to face, a hug, a
'hey,
I'm glad we had each other when we did.' It's too much to think that we
could ever understand what went wrong with us. Maybe you know. Maybe
you
don't want to say. Maybe you don't, and it was just one of those
things.
Nitpicking all the trifles is futile and hurtful. I just can't stand
the
thought that I'm hated, by YOU. I don't know whether you think of me
anymore, but we did have so much more good history than bad. I need to
remember that. I wish you would. And you know, seeing me would probably
be
good for both of us. I
want to end on a good note. I always was a happy ending girl. God,
please
look inside yourself and find that man that I loved, the one with the
good
heart, and help me find some closure.


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I dont know whether to laugh or cry! And we didn't start dating until a year after they broke up. He even dated someone else for a couple of months. He tried to remain friends with her since they were childhood friends but obviously it didn't work out.

I know he loves me and all of that - I am not questioning anything he did- he's more than wonderful. But this makes me so angry. Esp since she's blaming me!! I mean, they broke up 4 years ago!!!!! And they were so on and off- it was during college that they dated - and he saw other people (with her knowing this) at the time too. UGHHHHH!!!!!!!!

thanks for letting me vent