Re: Anyone not registering for Wedding? What do I do?

I feel if you are not registering as you both already have everything you need, then there wouldn't be a need for a bridal shower. My best friend did this as she felt they had everything they needed, and told us therefore not to throw her a shower.

Otherwise I agree with the other girls, if there are things you can upgrade like towels, dishes,etc. then create a registry, so you'll receive things you can use and will make it easire on your guests. I know FH and I could use new of everything at our place!

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I feel you so much. I know you have a ton of replies but here is my stance:

My FH and I both are young and have been living together for almost 3 years. We have everything, we want a house. We made this very clear but my FMIL had a bad taste in her mouth about that since 'the shower you get gifts blah blah blah'. So we registered for stuff we want but won't spend money on since we save a lot (new serving ware) and on our wedding website we made it clear that we would love a house to entertain in, these would be great accessories.

If you have a house maybe register for some furniture that people could chip in on and get you....everyone could use an update. Or just register for new decor.

I have heard of people register with the travel agent for their honeymoon, we even considered trying to register with a real estate agent but...not so much.

We are going to Paris, I think my mother is making a 'rainy day' wishing well for my shower where instead on the 10 dollar kitchen tool people will give 10 dollars to convert into Euros for our 'spending money'. Our registry is simple, we put our feelings aside to avoid stress and people are going to buy you what they want anyway, you might as well make sure they know what you want.

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Posted by kdm822

Uhhh i love when i press send and it signs me out!!

I know what you mean.. its the same way i feel about honeymoon reg. the way i was raised and imo its tacky. Maybe thats old school italian but my fam would say we'd either pay for it or if you cant afford it then you dont go away. How about best buy? Everyone always can use a nice big tv lol or does a bedding store have registeries? A new bed is always nice

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One note about the honeymoon registry is that it doesn't have to be about people paying or your honeymoon. It can be people buying you a special dinner like a candelight dinner on the beach, or a special excursion. So far that's what people have gotten us. I did the honeymoon adventure because I had friends specifically say they wanted to gt us an experience gift for the wedding rather than traditional wedding housewares, etc

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Posted by kdm822

Uhhh i love when i press send and it signs me out!!

I know what you mean.. its the same way i feel about honeymoon reg. the way i was raised and imo its tacky. Maybe thats old school italian but my fam would say we'd either pay for it or if you cant afford it then you dont go away. How about best buy? Everyone always can use a nice big tv lol or does a bedding store have registeries? A new bed is always nice

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One note about the honeymoon registry is that it doesn't have to be about people paying or your honeymoon. It can be people buying you a special dinner like a candelight dinner on the beach, or a special excursion. So far that's what people have gotten us. I did the honeymoon adventure because I had friends specifically say they wanted to gt us an experience gift for the wedding rather than traditional wedding housewares, etc

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Exactly- the gifts that have been purchased off of there have been a trip to the Grotto di Nettuno on Sardinia, tickets to Pompeii, a champagne brunch, and tickets to climb the Duomo in Florence. These are experiences that the gift giver gets to hear about afterwards, rather than a vase that I will probably break.

People were really excited to give us an experience- I see it more as a gift of an experience, NOT a gift of money (even thought that's what it really is....but if you don't like on the HM registry, they won't know that!)

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Thank you thank you!!!

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@Rivera2be: That's exactly what I said! I said there is no need for a shower! but my vote doesn't count when I have my mother and FML and BM's who are all for it. Not to mention the rest of my aunts and friends..

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Posted by Lsorrent

REGISTER!!!!

If you and FH have been living together, is there anything you want to replace? I know DH and I lived together for 3 years before our wedding, but everything we had were hand-me-downs from our parents. This way we got all brand new stuff of our own.

Also, people are going to want to buy you gifts for your shower anyway. You're better off registering for stuff you actually want and/or need than not, because then people will just buy you stuff they *think* you want, lol.

You could always do a honeymoon registry if all else fails.

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agree you may have things that need up dating, may be new sheets comforter set or new towls, etc... good luck

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I would also suggest a charity registry if you really don't want to register for regular stuff. There are SO many wonderful charities out there, and if there is one thats special to you it might be nice!

Re: Anyone not registering for Wedding? What do I do?

 you could always do a registry that includes 'things' but in the end you get cash?  I know not everyone loves these type of 'Wish' registry, but you still register for items (we are using one- www.uponourstar.com)  because we want to register for some big items for our fixer upper (furniture, cabinets, etc). 

You can do a more traditional B&M one too- but this might eliminate a lot of tangible stuff to lug and people can still buy household stuff they find more traditional? 

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Posted by Lsorrent

REGISTER!!!!

If you and FH have been living together, is there anything you want to replace? I know DH and I lived together for 3 years before our wedding, but everything we had were hand-me-downs from our parents. This way we got all brand new stuff of our own.

Also, people are going to want to buy you gifts for your shower anyway. You're better off registering for stuff you actually want and/or need than not, because then people will just buy you stuff they *think* you want, lol.

You could always do a honeymoon registry if all else fails.

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agree you may have things that need up dating, may be new sheets comforter set or new towls, etc... good luck

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Def!!!!!!!!!!!!

Re: Anyone not registering for Wedding? What do I do?

my girlfriend and her husband had the same problem, they had been dating for like 13 years and lived together for atleast 3 and they felt pressured into registering too,so they ended up registering with amazon but asked for the funniest things, like wii games,and milk (i swear) is there anything you guys need outdoor wise? maybe take this opportunity to spruce up your backyard or something! hope that helps

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I know you have probably heard reasons why to register but I definitely reccomend doing so. Some people NEED that direction on what to get you! If you have everything and dont feel like you need much for a house you can do one of 2 things as options,

My sister is registered at myregistry.com and you can pick ANYTHING from ANYWHERE to add to your registry. This includes make up for you or massages for him or even FOOD! (her fh actually registered for food and it was comical)

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Do a honeymoon registry! FH and I know a couple who did this and were so happy they did. They had a couples massage and excursions that were paid for by guests

At the end of the day, you need to do what makes you happy and dont look back !

HTH!!

Re: Anyone not registering for Wedding? What do I do?

you could do what we did- use a 'wish' registry- you put actual items (household too!) on there, but you get cash in the end.  It works for us because we are remodeling a moneypit we bought- we need things like floors, lighting, some furniture, etc- so people can 'Buy' that for us, but we end up getting money- so they are helping us build our house- which is way more important to me than expensive dishes or wine glasses!  

we are using www.uponourstar.com - so far, no complaints! 

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I'm in the same boat as you. I've lived with my fiance for 4 years and all our stuff is fine. So asking for new stuff is kinda ridiculous to me when your in the same situation. So instead of a bridal shower, i'm just having a bachelorette/bridal party.

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think of things that you have always wanted but on which you never really felt like you wanted to spend the $... a stand mixer... a le cruset dutch oven, really good knives...

or, upgrade/replace what you have. need a new TV stand? register for one at crate and barrel. new pillows? macys or BBB.

and so on...

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We decided we are going to have a small registry at bb&b and another one that's the a honeymoon registry. Since people like my aunts maybe more 'old school' guest would see the honeymoon registry as being too different or maybe even rude. At least this will give the option for them. We don't want to have to ask for all the same stuff we've already got just to have a registry.

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I know everyone here already has given you awesome advice, but I wanted to add my 2 cents in

A good friend of mine didn't really register for wedding. She had been living with her FH for a few years, they had a child and had just bought a house. What she really wanted was money to buy furniture, but I don't think that was ever communicated to her guests. So when it came time for her shower, she registered for a handful of things at BBB and also registered at Pampered Chef, but I found that registry to be not user friendly. When her shower day came, I could see the disappointment across her face even though she tried her best to hide it Her guests bought her nothing off her registry and just decorations for her house. Nothing useful, no money, nothing that would really help her out in anyway. My friend and I were the only ones who gave her a gift card that she could use toward the purchase of furniture. I think her guests felt lost as what to buy her since she registered for so little, so instead they bought her things that she liked which in the end I know was a big disappointment to her. I know there are so many registry options out there, I'm sure you will find something that will please you and your guests Best of luck!!

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Def register for something... if you already have all the things you want the do a honeymoon register.

Some people may be lost about what to get you if you don't register anywhere.