What's your story? My parents aren't paying for anything and I feel sad for them, because I know they would if they could. I keep telling my mother that I wouldn't accept it anyway because I've been out on my own for so long now. But it still pains me to hear the sorrow in her voice.
jtgarsik
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same here...DH & i paid for it ourselves. My mom did what she could & helped us out a lot in the end..but for the most part 85-90% of everything we did on our own. makes u feel good & proud at the end of it all, but i felt bad 'cause i know it killed my mom that she didn't have the finances to pay for everything.
trojo1521
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FH and I are doing it ourselves too...there is something slightly empowering about it though
danandme4life
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FH and I are paying for it ourselves... i dont feel empowered... i feel broke... i'm even bagging my own lunch to work to save 40K in 1 yr.
maybe i will feel empowered after it all
HamptonsBride
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we paid for our own wedding...i am 34 and DH is 41 and we've both been working for years so we could do it.
hyphenbride
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Posted by danandme4life
FH and I are paying for it ourselves... i dont feel empowered... i feel broke... i'm even bagging my own lunch to work to save 40K in 1 yr.
maybe i will feel empowered after it all
What sort of lunches did you eat that would save you 40k in a year?
emomma17
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We are paying for everything too on our own. it is really hard, there is no denying that but what can you do. I feel bad too because i know my family would love to help they just aren't in the position now.
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I am in the same situation but here is my story...my sister is getting married the same year and my parents are giving her more than me. She got engaged 2 months before me and selected oct 2008 as her date. When we got engaged we said we would do it after her...and wanted nov 2008 but the family didn't like that...too close to my sisters. We didn't want a winter wedding and we don't want to wait till summer 2009...too far away. Also we have FH father not in good health so we all decided this summer is the best time and everyone agreed. Anyway...we make more than her but live in NY and its expensive here (she lives in NC). Anyway...we can afford the wedding (well FH can) so my parents are only paying band, bridal shower and dress. They are paying for her whole reception plus dress, shower, etc! I don't feel this is fair and when I addresses it I was told my FH said he could pay for it, plus my parents can't afford it. I told them to give us the money in a few years but they pretty much said no they are giving us 10K and if we need more we should speak up. Sticky situation huh?
tlp123
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We are paying for it ourselves. My mom just doesn't have the $$$.
Karmagirl76
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its my second wedding.. so i didnt expect anything from my parents but they are helping out with some of the costs.
His parents have offered a good sum of assistance probably because its his first wedding and the only boy and the last one to get married.
We are picking up the difference.
jessica08bride
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we're doing everything on our own. my parents put me and my brother through college with little loans so we owe them big time. my mom really wanted to pay for my dress though but thats about it.
stacey23
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FH and I are also paying for everything...... I wish I had help....but such is life
Eternalyyourz
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my parents arent paying.. neither of them have money to pay... my mother feels completly terrible and I know she is trying to save up anything she can to give us a big present. But I feel like I dont know if I would ever even be able to take it! But I dont want to insult her!
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My parents have always been really good to me. Im kinda spoiled but really not at all! I know if they could they would pay for everything but money is tight at the moment as im sure with alot of people. FH and I are paying for the bulk. They are going to help where they can but I told them I dont want to know what if any money they can give. FH and I want to stick to the budget and if I know I will get extra money that will just increase the budget. FH's father is going to help where he can to but its the same thing as my parents. We arent expecting help and if they can thats great if they cant thats great too. They raised us they dont need to shell out any more money in my eyes!!!
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DH and i paid for entire wedding ourselves---my parents did give a gift towards the end---but it was alllll us for the entire planning process.
honestly---i did not want any assistance because i didn't want anyone saying 'well if I'M PAYING i want THIS' nope---you're not paying, you get no say. this was OUR day and we paid for it entirely.
there's a certain pride that can not be expressed.....its a FEELING you get on your wedding day when you look around at the flowers, people dancing, music playing, and everyone having a great time......and you look at your new husband and can say 'we did this...we didn't need anyone to pay for it....just us and our hard work...no one can take that away'
Ms Sawney
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my parents are helping me and fh however his side is not doing anything his mother says she doesn't even want to be apart of the planning which hurts alot but I am just trying to let it go
Eternalyyourz
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Posted by MJDoc12
DH and i paid for entire wedding ourselves---my parents did give a gift towards the end---but it was alllll us for the entire planning process.
honestly---i did not want any assistance because i didn't want anyone saying 'well if I'M PAYING i want THIS' nope---you're not paying, you get no say. this was OUR day and we paid for it entirely.
there's a certain pride that can not be expressed.....its a FEELING you get on your wedding day when you look around at the flowers, people dancing, music playing, and everyone having a great time......and you look at your new husband and can say 'we did this...we didn't need anyone to pay for it....just us and our hard work...no one can take that away'
I am very much like that... I have pride that we are paying ourselves... but I am like that in all aspects of my life.. similarly to how I pay for my way in everything!
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im glad to see that FH and i are not the only ones paying for the weddings ourselves...my parents are gonna pay for my dress/veil and flowers, but everything else is up to us..but after the FMIL and FH got into a tiny tiff over the guest list, im kinda glad we're doing this ourselves so that we have complete control over what we want..
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Posted by danandme4life
FH and I are paying for it ourselves... i dont feel empowered... i feel broke... i'm even bagging my own lunch to work to save 40K in 1 yr.
maybe i will feel empowered after it all
This is exactly how I feel... plain broke. My bagged lunches are quite sad since I'm also on a 'diet.' haha. Hopefully after the wedding we'll be empowered and slim...
eternitybride
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Fh and I are covering everything as it stands now. Things could change, but neither of our families have any money to spare
