Feeling low ladies...having budget troubles and wondering why I am doing all of this. Im so stressed. Anyone feeling like me?
Sorry dont mean to be a downer...
Gracie821
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YES!!!! I wanted to elope from the beginning but FH anted a wedding, he thought I would regret it, and about 3 months into the planing I still feel the same way. It is a lot of work and money and I feel like my BM's are kinda crappy! I keep telling myself that when the day comes I'll be happy and it will all be worth it, but truthfully, at least at the monet, I wish we eloped! I just want to be married to my best friend! So you are not alone! We will have to be each other's support!
PeachyKeen
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Yep! I wanted to elope at the very start. But FH has a big family that he's close to so I caved.
FutureMaynard
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Fh and I still talk about it....I talk to some people and they are like I so miss the planning (I guess I just don't get it)
I can't wait to get married but the planning is whatever
MLAngelo
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My parents are paying, but my dad came home Tuesday really upset about business. I couldn't sleep that night. I actually talked to him on Wednesday about calling it off and doing a small destination on the beach by my grandparents house in Florida, just family. My father wouldn't hear of it. But I keep feeling guilty. Sometimes I do feel eloping would be easier on everyone. But I'm the only and my dad always dreamed of walking me down the aisle. He cried watching Father of the Bride when I was 7.
geegee827
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Almost every other day
I wanted a small wending - FH wanted the whole big production. I lost and now I'm the one doing all the planning - it's totally stressing me out AND it's costing us a small fortune
Gracie821
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You know whats funny, how a few of us wanted to elope, and out fh's wanted the wedding, yet they want no part of the planning I agree I cant wait to married so I do not have to plan lol!
egem523
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Yup Everyday!!
Don't worry do what is best for budget. You do not have to spend alot of money to have a great wedding. Just remember the most important thing is it about you and your fh love for each other.
christineafeth
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I know how you feel. Especially when family starts adding their opinion. Money is another thing too. But then FH tells me its going to be alright.
Jennmolloy
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Ugh!!! I just had this conversation with FH at dinner tonight. He wants to BIG wedding. I don't always feel it is worth it. He has helped with the big things in the wedding and we are getting help paying for it. However I can think of much better things to do with that money. A bigger place to live cars to pay off, bills to pay.
Don't get me wrong I will enjoy it in the end. I just think the financial burden it is putting on everyone is not worth it.
I love FH and want to marry him and if he wants this big wedding I will go along with it.
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Posted by WishfulRinne
Feeling low ladies...having budget troubles and wondering why I am doing all of this. Im so stressed. Anyone feeling like me?
Sorry dont mean to be a downer...
You're not a downer... It IS stressful. Me and fh JUST talked about this lasnight:
1. We are paying for EVERYTHING by ourselves, no one in either family has offered to help with anything.
2. Neither one of us has a large family and we have a close small circle of friends. We don't want to invite people we know from here and there just to have more guests at the wedding.
3. We both are VERY serious about wanting to buy a house VERY soon. However, with the cost of weddings and homes today it's difficult to do both at the same time. We both have great jobs and its still seems unattainable sometimes.
And finally, it's just ONE day...so trust me you are not alone in felling this way.....sorry kinda long...
ANT-N-BON-09
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I SOOOOOO wanted to elope, fh wanted the wedding. Now that im planning, i want a big wedding also. I just cant wait! But as for the money we are spending...id rather go to vegas!
coldasice217
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YES.
It's a catch 22. I say eff it and lets elope, we really can't afford it. FH doesn't want to spend the money on the wedding, and fights me on every last piece of excrutiating minutiae. BUT he won't elope because he's super religious and we need to have a church ceremony. So really, it's a no win situation.
WishfulRinne
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I feel so much better that I am not alone!!! Fh and I are the only ones paying for the wedding. I am a teacher and my pay check can only go so far. FH owns his own business and with the economy being so bad, his business is really suffering. When we no I (lol) started planning I thought we could def pay for it not problem but now I am getting very worried. We (roughly) have the money for the RH because that was the first thing we saved for but all the extras I didnt account for and now I am not sure...UGH!!!
Another factor is that niether of us want to take out loans or anything. I still have my school loans to pay for and FH has his house payment. I am not sure if this wedding is feesable(sp).
Thank you so sharing your thoughts with me ladies.
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Posted by MLAngelo
My parents are paying, but my dad came home Tuesday really upset about business. I couldn't sleep that night. I actually talked to him on Wednesday about calling it off and doing a small destination on the beach by my grandparents house in Florida, just family. My father wouldn't hear of it. But I keep feeling guilty. Sometimes I do feel eloping would be easier on everyone. But I'm the only and my dad always dreamed of walking me down the aisle. He cried watching Father of the Bride when I was 7.
I'm with you. My parents are paying for the reception, which is the largest chunk. I feel so guilty about the cost, I sometimes wish they weren't and we were just eloping.
kabo0831
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YES!!! I say that to my fh allthe time and it would be so much cheapier but his dad wont allow it
MaggieLuvsJoe
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I tell FH on a daily basis we should have eloped, he agrees everytime too bad it's too late
jenandmatt2009
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omg ...in the first month i threatened to call it off like 10 times lol ....i wanted to go to vegas and go on a sik honeymoon BUT now i can say that things have calmed down. and i think thats how things are going to happen till you get married..highs and lows good luck !!!! and your def not alone
Jenn04
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08er here to say it is all worth it in the end! I had the same feelings as all of you and when it came time to pay all the bill...aye, it was hard. ButI can honestly say I wouldnt change it for the world!
